Doudou doesn't like talking and socializing. A toy can play for half a day by itself. Grandma said that Doudou doesn't like to talk, which is a sign of independent thinking. He doesn't like playing with other children, which is stable and meaningful.
Mom Doudou doesn't think so. Although Doudou doesn't talk much, he still likes to make friends, but he really doesn't know how to play with others. If there must be a weak person in a group of children who acts as a "crane tail", then this child must be Doudou, and Doudou is all thumbs. It's hard to argue and has no right to speak. If he is wronged, he can only cry to his mother.
Most parents have a cognitive misunderstanding that learning from an early age is the most important thing for children, ignoring the cultivation of social skills.
A linguistics professor believes that the most important thing for children aged 0-6 is to cultivate their social skills, which is related to awakening consciousness, self-independence and personal charm. These precious treasures can't be learned by books.
When we were students, it was very common that our grades plummeted because of interpersonal troubles, anxiety and pressure, inattention in study, exclusion and isolation.
In a class group, it is terrible to have no social skills, because you have no room to hide and escape, and you are always exposed to the public.
Before guiding children and cultivating their social skills, we must make the baby's language development perfect. If you want to do a good job, you must sharpen your tools first. Without a good language foundation and poor communication, there is no way to socialize. You can't let everyone indulge your children.
Social skills are not innate, but the accumulation of experience. The most important thing is to understand, love to talk, and be able to talk. Children with language barriers are "poor families" who develop social skills, especially some children with slow language development. They speak late. Compared with their peers, their overall language development level is backward and their social skills are not equal. How can they get along normally?
1, language thinking.
Children who can't talk lack social activities. On the contrary, the lack of social activities will limit the progress of language thinking. In the case of long-term lack of language communication, people's thinking will also be "lazy", their brains will be lazy, their cognition will decline, and they will even fail to understand and understand slowly. For children, the best exercise opportunity to express and understand synchronization is socialization. Between questions and answers, the brain runs at a high speed, and the senses such as audio-visual will be exercised to the greatest extent.
2. Language function.
For the newborn baby, the language motor ability is not perfect, which needs to be honed in the language communication the day after tomorrow. If you don't talk for a long time, the muscle function of the pronunciation organ will deteriorate, the muscle strength and coordination will decrease, and the pronunciation will be inaccurate. If you are born without a language environment, and grow up in this environment, and then learn another language, it is very likely that you will not learn it, or it will be extremely difficult.
Children's mental development is restricted by individual adaptability, that is to say, with the changes of the environment and themselves, the structure and function of the mind will continue to change. Even the youngest child has social attributes. They need social environment and communication. Such as eyes, language, body, emotions, etc. You must communicate to gain development experience. Many babies "don't answer questions" or don't know how to answer strangers, which leads to "zero response" and "wrong response", all of which are caused by insufficient social experience and psychological preparation.
From the moment the baby wakes up, they need a sense of identity and belonging, and these two psychological attributes need to be obtained from communication, otherwise it can only be a negative self-dialogue. Every child's personality and temperament will be evaluated from the outside and examined from the inside. Lack of social skills will lead to isolation, ridicule and even bullying, which will lower self-esteem and lead to self-distrust. In particular, some babies resist criticism, sensitivity and emotionality, which will affect their psychological trend, personality and temperament.
Socialization is actually a very fair stage. Every baby is the protagonist, but some babies have poor social skills and it is difficult to develop social relationships. They often show difficulty in adapting to the environment and rules. It seems out of place and even regarded as autistic.
The baby and mother should accompany each other early, take the baby to know more and make more friends. On the one hand, the baby's language ability can be developed rapidly, on the other hand, the baby can learn to communicate skillfully in language in social activities.
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