Psychologist Wu Zhihong said in "Chinese Style Love and Love":

"A person needs a clear and objective understanding of himself to grow, and so does a nation. . ”

Human growth has two meanings. The first meaning is physical growth and maturity; the second meaning is mental growth and maturity.

A person’s physical growth is not considered true growth, only mental growth is considered true growth.

How can people achieve mental growth? Then you need someone who loves reading, is good at making friends, and enjoys walking.

01 Love reading

Writer Sanmao once said:

"The more you read, the more your appearance will naturally change. Many times, you may think that you have read many things Books have become a fleeting thing and are no longer remembered. In fact, they are still hidden in the temperament, the conversation, and the boundless mind. Of course, they may also be revealed in life and writing. "

There is a poetic spirit in my belly. Hua, the life of a student is different from the life of a non-student.

The answers to many confusions in life can be found in books. Reading may not directly change a person's destiny, but it will guide you in a unique way and allow you to find your inner strength.

Reading may not make you wiser immediately, but it will help you grow bit by bit and nourish your spirit.

Celebrities who love reading can be found everywhere from ancient times to the present. In ancient times, there was Sun Jing who stabbed the buttocks from a beam, and Kuang Heng cut through walls to steal light. Today, there is Lu Xun who chews chili peppers to ward off the cold, hears a lot of drunken books, and Hua Luogeng guesses books...

Both of them changed their lives through reading. destiny, found the direction of struggle, and realized personal value.

After watching programs such as "Chinese Poetry Conference" and "The Reader" hosted by Dong Qing, we will all be impressed by Dong Qing's outstanding bookish temperament, eloquence, and vast and profound knowledge.

Dong Qing’s ability to shine on the stage, to be flexible and witty is not acquired overnight, but is cultivated through years of study.

She has been fond of reading since she was a child. She has read everything from ancient and modern times to astronomy and geography.

Even if he is very busy after work, Dong Qing will read for an hour before going to bed every day to maintain his reading habit.

Dong Qing once said, "If I don't study for a few days, I will feel as uncomfortable as if I don't take a shower for a few days."

Reading allows Dong Qing to find fun in a busy life, reading makes her stand out on the stage of the show, and reading makes the audience miss her.

The enviable stock god Warren Buffett is also an out-and-out bookaholic.

This man who has mastered the code of wealth spends most of his day in his study and office, absorbing wisdom while reading.

Warren Buffett’s partner said of him: “There is not a single smart person from all walks of life I have met in my life who does not read every day, none, not one. And Warren reads The number of books may surprise you. He is a book with two legs."

You can imagine how many books Buffett has read. Reading may be Buffett's lifelong habit and belief.

I have read this sentence:

"The thickness of the books under a person's feet is the height of his life."

People who love reading will have more Many choices; people who don’t study have few choices.

No matter what life is like, remember to read, read extensively, read in fragments, and read as much as possible. One day, books will help you grow.

02 Make friends well

I once read this passage:

Your circle of friends determines the level and height of your life. The quality of a person’s circle is A lot depends on the kind of friends you make.

Be with diligent people and you will not be lazy; be with positive people and you will not be depressed; be with wise people and you will be extraordinary; be with experts and you will be able to reach the top.

In life, we must be good at making friends. We must make friends with upright character, friends who are motivated, and friends who can provide help in times of need. We must not make fair-weather friends or flatterers. Don't make friends who take pleasure in others' misfortunes.

I once heard such a story around me.

Lin Yang was originally a junior high school student with excellent academic performance, but his life changed drastically because he accidentally made friends with young people outside the school.

He changed from an obedient and sensible child to a perverse and rebellious child. He kept making little moves in class, became fond of dressing up, and began to contradict his parents and teachers. Gradually, he was late again, skipped classes, and unknowingly learned to smoke and drink...

Later, because he robbed a villager of his money and accidentally injured the villager, he and his friends outside school He was arrested by the police station and almost sentenced...

What a pity that a young man with a great future ended up on a road of no return because of careless friendships.

If you make a bad friend, he may push you into a pit of fire; if you make a good friend, he may help you.

Li Bin, the founder of NIO, was born in an ordinary family. If he relied on his personal background and family background, it would be difficult for him to achieve great success and have a bright future.

Fortunately, he went to Peking University, where he made many great people and friends.

His senior Li Guoqing once invited him to co-found the science and literature industry, which was the predecessor of Dangdang.com.

Before Li Bin planned to start Weilai Automobile, one of his senior fellow students at Peking University learned about the successful listing of an automobile website in the United States and immediately suggested that he copy this model to China.

When he was raising funds for Weilai Automobile, his friends helped him connect with business tycoons Lei Jun, Liu Qiangdong, and Ma Huateng.

......

The high-quality circle of friends gave Li Bin wings to take off in his automobile career.

The Stanford Research Center once published a shocking survey report:

“12.5% ??of a person’s money comes from knowledge, and 87.5% comes from his network of connections.”

The more true friends you make, the higher the quality of your network will be and the stronger the energy will be.

How can we make friends with people who are better than us when we are not strong enough?

First, work hard to improve your own strength. Only when you become a great person can you make friends with great people and become true friends.

As Audrey Hepburn said: "Of course I won't try to pick the moon, I want the moon to come to me."

The second is to create value for talented people. A person's value determines his position in the minds of others.

Just like when Yu Minhong was studying at Peking University, he bought a Venus brand pen for Xu Xiaoping, a teacher at Peking University at the time, to accept him.

In order to get his teacher friends to allow him to listen and learn something, he did his best to provide services: they were thirsty, and Yu Minhong took the initiative to pour water to make tea; they were hungry in the middle of the night, and Yu Minhong ran to buy them instant noodles. ; They were about to move, and Yu Minhong rushed to help...

Over time, as a student, Yu Minhong has integrated into the teacher's circle, is one step ahead of other students, and has made good friends. .

Entrepreneur Guo Xiang’s legend:

“The circle of friends is actually the world in which you live. Your circle of friends represents your aesthetics and level of life.”

In life, we must be good at making friends, refuse to make bad friends, walk with friends, and grow up with them.

03 Happy Walking

Zhang Xiaoyan once wrote in the book "Let's Go, Zhang Xiaoyan":

"Either travel or study, the body and soul must There is one on the way. ”

In addition to reading more, we also need to walk more, see more of the spring, summer, autumn and winter of the world, and experience the ups and downs of life.

Li Chongming, known as the "Dugu Cyclist", is a leader in China's cycling industry. He has been cycling around China since the 1980s. His cycling experience lasts for 25 years. , his wheel tracks cover 31 provinces, municipalities and autonomous regions across the country, covering a distance of more than 110,000 kilometers.

Relying on his rich walking experience, he published a cycling travel diary "Cycling on the Road to Heaven" in 2011, taking readers on a tour of China's north and south.

In 2012, we completed 12 cycling routes into Tibet, providing many options for friends who want to travel to Tibet.

Although he lost contact while crossing the no-man’s land of Qiangtang in 2014, and may no longer be alive, he has traveled through the mountains and rivers of the motherland, experienced wind, frost, rain and snow in four seasons, and experienced the world There should be no regrets about the various aspects of life.

The world is so big, we should go and see it. Go see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, see the scenery of foreign countries, experience the customs and customs of different places, broaden your horizons, increase your knowledge, and appreciate the various flavors of life.

As Bacon said: "For young people, travel is part of education; for old people, travel is part of experience."

Under the epidemic , we may no longer be able to travel abroad, travel out of provinces, or even go out to the community. We can only stay in the small space of our own homes, but we can still choose to "walk more" and exercise.

Play table tennis, badminton, do yoga, square dance, run... do your best to exercise, let yourself walk, strengthen your physique, and inject new vitality into your body.

The famous actor Zhang Junning is recognized by the entertainment industry as the "goddess of temperament" and is also the goddess in the eyes of "national husband" Peng Yuyan.

In recent years, she has gained a good reputation in the film and television works such as "Ruyi's Royal Love in the Palace" and "The Legend of Wu Mei Niang", and is increasingly loved by the audience.

She is the "goddess of self-discipline" in the third season of "Longing for Life".

In daily life, she insists on exercise and meditation, and lives a highly self-disciplined life, allowing more viewers to know her, pay attention to her, and affirm her.

Whether it is in "The Longing for Life" or "Adventure with Bell", we can see Zhang Junning sitting outdoors and meditating early in the morning.

That scene is beautiful, peaceful and unforgettable.

People who exercise regularly are full of positive energy, full of vitality, and live a relaxed and happy life.

Either travel more, exercise more, and walk more in the world to add depth and energy to your life.

04

Yu Minhong wrote in "May Your Youth Live Up to Your Dreams":

"Human is an animal guided by thoughts. Wherever your thoughts go, you will go; where your ideas point, you will go."

When your ideas change and your thoughts change, you can change yourself. life.

A clear philosophy of life and profound thoughts can accelerate your progress and promote your growth.

Life is like sailing against the current. If you don’t advance, you will retreat. If you stand still, you will lag far behind others, or even fail to keep up with the trend of the times.

The era of one newspaper passing the day has passed. Living to old age, learning to old age, and lifelong growth have become the mainstream.

The general trend is that the only choice we can make is to continue to grow.

From now on, insist on reading more, making good friends, and walking happily, so as to leave a calm and stable future for yourself.