There is a song that says, "money is hard to buy, but friends make way for it." In addition, there are friends from Jacky Cheung and Emil Wakin Chau, who all sing the voice of attaching importance to friendship. That's true in real life. As the saying goes, you depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. Indeed, if you don't have a friend, you will never achieve great things. Although many friends may not be able to achieve great things, many friends are one of the conditions for achieving great things, so you should make as many friends as possible when you are wandering in society. Of course, you may make bad friends, but if you don't make friends because you are afraid of making bad friends, you will lose the chance to make good friends. And this biased psychology will also make you lose your original friends and may eventually become friends!
It's hard to say whether your friends are good or bad. Very few people are absolutely good or bad. People are always good and bad, depending on how you get along with them. Making as many friends as possible in interpersonal communication will bring great convenience to our life. Friends can help you when you are in danger, friends will help you when you are pessimistic and desperate, and friends will share this happy moment with you when you are happy. A true friend is someone who shares joys and sorrows with you. Friends, if you want to make your life more substantial and meaningful, make more intimate friends. Then you should take action from now on. They will be the boosters in your life journey and help you to a successful life.
Former US President Bill Clinton's successful election is inseparable from his many friends and good interpersonal relationships.
Clinton's famous friends played an important role in his campaign. These friends include his childhood friends, his classmates at Georgetown University and Yale Law School when he was young, and acquaintances when he was a Rhodes Scholar.
In order to make Clinton successful in the election, these friends ran around and supported him with all their strength. This undoubtedly added great confidence to Clinton. So when Clinton succeeded in becoming president, he said, "Friends are the greatest comfort in my life."
We know that it is difficult to repel the enemy alone, and even if one is strong, one's ability is always limited. As the saying goes, "Unity is strength". Friends can constantly provide you with all kinds of resources and opportunities. They are your inexhaustible source of strength, so you should cherish them more.
Looking closely at those great men who have made brilliant achievements in their careers, we can easily find that they have one thing in common: extensive interpersonal relationships. This huge information superhighway is a bridge to success built on a rugged road.
It is not easy to build your own "circle of friends". To expand your circle of friends, you must learn to take the initiative. Don't wait for "home delivery", so you will never have friends.
The best way to make friends is to take an active part in social group activities. Because there are all kinds of people in social groups, and they meet many times, the hierarchical relationship is quite close. Although the industries are different, you can easily become friends. In addition, joining volunteer groups or study groups can also make new friends.
To make as many friends as possible, we must be careful not to have too many requirements and too rigid rules. Some people hold this attitude, people who don't pay for things they don't like, people who don't pay attention to clothes, people with irregular teeth, people who have had unpleasant things ... Are there perfect people in the world? In fact, you should always tell yourself that there are no friends you can't make. People who don't like it are not necessarily bad people. We must never judge a book by its cover. There is a saying, "Why do heroes judge their origins?" You don't like them, which only shows that you are arrogant and biased against them. A hundred rivers are full of tolerance. Why don't you open your heart and take in all the friends you think you can't make? "The enemy should reconcile, not reconcile." One more friend is better than one more enemy. It is not difficult to break the deadlock and dissolve hatred. The difficulty is that you do not take action. Some people insist on the principle of being either friends or enemies, which will only increase the number of your enemies and eventually isolate themselves. If you think you are either an enemy or a friend, then the number of friends will increase and the number of enemies will decrease, which is also a way of making friends. Besides, don't put on airs when making friends. No matter how rich you are, no matter how high your position is, don't think you are superior. And look down on those who are humble and can be equal to their friends. Only in this way can we walk easily and live smoothly.
People can't live without friends, and life without friends is hard. However, everyone can't be your friend. You need to choose carefully. Nowadays, the streets are full of people called friends. When I used to call "comrade", I always felt that the distance was far away. It seems more cordial to call them "friends" now. In fact, "classmates are friends and comrades are friends." When I say making friends here, I need to choose, and I don't mean such ordinary friends.
What kind of friends a person makes will have a great influence on his life character. As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, it will be dark", "If you are near a sage, you will be wise, and if you are near a fool, you will be lost". Ancient celebrities attached great importance to the choice of friends. Confucius said, "A gentleman is careful to take friends." Others say, "One should not make friends casually." People with high moral character have always been respected by people, and they are also the objects people want to make friends with. People with bad moral character are often despised, and few people are willing to make friends with him. Of course, "like-minded friends" cannot be ruled out.
In fact, everyone will always choose to make friends consciously or unconsciously, and he always has his own certain standards for choosing friends. Su Jun, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, divided friends into four categories, namely, "fear of friends, bosom friends, bosom friends and thief friends". Through this classification, we can understand that: friend phobia and close friends can be intimate, heart-to-heart, they help each other and suffer from each other, so it is worth making friends; Those intimate friends and thief friends who flatter each other, regardless of wine and meat, are duplicitous, come when they are favorable, leave when they are unfavorable, and even take advantage of others' danger to do things that harm others and benefit themselves. Such people can't make friends anyway.
Like-minded people and like-minded people can be used as criteria for choosing friends. If you have different aspirations and tastes, your friendship will not last long, and sooner or later you will part ways. The allusion "Guan Ning gave up his seat" is a good example. Guan Ning is keen on reading and studying, while Hua Xin is keen on official fame and fortune. In this way, they lack the ideological foundation to be friends, so it is easy to understand if they sit down after giving their seats. In addition, psychological experiments also illustrate a psychological phenomenon of convergence. Psychologists keep more than a dozen different people in a room, unable to communicate with the outside world, so they can only get along with them. A few days later, he found that most people with the same hobbies and pursuits became friends, while those without the same hobbies and pursuits became strangers.
Therefore. When we choose friends, we should have the same hobbies, and it is best to choose people with high moral character and broad mind. Confucius said: "Living in kindness is like entering Lan Zhi's room, but you haven't smelled its fragrance for a long time;" If you have a bad life, like a man's abalone, you can't smell it for a long time. "On the other hand, Mozi has a more vivid metaphor. He compared choosing friends to dyeing silk. " Dyed in the pale is pale, dyed in the yellow is yellow, everyone changes, and its color also changes. There are only five people, just five colors, and you can't dye them casually. "Maybe you will say, you are not easily disturbed by the outside world, why not' choose the good and follow it'? With noble people, you will be influenced by them. Why not? The more good friends we have, the more we will benefit. There is no end to learning, and no matter how great the learning is, there are places that people don't understand. Confucius also said modestly: "In a threesome, there must be a teacher. "Even so, saint, when we make friends, we should try to choose knowledgeable people. Maybe that's why we forget to make friends. Of course, you can't blame your friends, because you are not perfect, and neither are your friends. If everyone wants to make friends with people who are more knowledgeable than themselves, then there will be no friends in the end. As the saying goes, "the ruler is stronger, the inch is shorter", and it is worthwhile to "associate" with friends by supplementing, giving and taking.
Once upon a time, there was a brave man who made friends with heroes all over the world. Before he died, he said to his son, "Son, you see that I have been wandering in the Jianghu since I was a child and made countless friends. In fact, after careful consideration, I have made one and a half friends in my life. " The son is puzzled: Why do you say that you have made one and a half friends? What's going on here? Seeing that his son didn't understand, his father whispered in his ear, "You should meet one and a half of my friends as I told you. Then you won't be surprised, and you will naturally understand the true meaning of friends. "
So the son began to follow his father's instructions. The son went to his father's "friend" first. He said to him, "I am the son of XXX, and now I am being hunted down by court officials." I am in trouble and have to join you. I hope you can provide me with convenience, ok? " As soon as the man heard this, he immediately called his son without thinking, told him to take off his clothes and put them on strangers, and at the same time let his son put on the clothes of "a court criminal".
In this way, the son understood the true meaning of "a friend" that his father said. People who can treat you sincerely and even sacrifice their own flesh and blood to save you are your true friends.
Then the son went to his father's "half friend" and said to him, "I'm someone's son, and now I'm being hunted by the court. I am in hot water and have to join you in a hurry. I hope you can provide me with convenience, ok? " "Half a friend" heard this and said to the stranger who was asking for help, "Son, I can't save you for such a big thing. Tell you, I will give you enough money, so run away, I promise to keep your secret, I won't tell you ... "
So at this time, the son understood the true meaning of "half a friend" that his father said. A person who can protect himself wisely when you are in trouble and doesn't hurt you when he is down and out can be called your half friend.
There is another story: in the 4th century BC, a young man in Italy was sentenced to be hanged for violating a tyrannical monarch. This young man is a very filial child. Before he died, he asked the monarch to let him go home and say goodbye to his parents, but the tyrannical monarch never agreed to his request. At this critical moment, a friend of his stepped forward and promised to serve his sentence. And said, "If he can't come back as scheduled, I can hang him for him." In this way, the monarch reluctantly agreed. Seeing that the execution time is coming, the young man is nowhere to be found, and people laugh at his friend for being so stupid. "How can you guarantee your friendship with your life? You! " When his friend was hanged and people were crying for the innocent child, an amazing scene appeared. The young man galloped in the rainstorm and shouted at the top of his voice, "I'm back!" " "Then he hugged his friend with tears and said goodbye to him for the last time. This scene shocked everyone present, and everyone was crying, including the monarch, who made an exception and pardoned this affectionate and upright young man.
This story is very touching, from which we can understand the true meaning of a friend: in our real life, a true friend is a person who can enjoy and suffer.
There is an article that explains the true meaning of friends:
Ordinary friends have never seen you cry, but true friends let you soak his shoulders:
An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party, and a real friend will help you prepare in advance:
A simple friend hates you calling after he falls asleep, but a real friend will ask you why you call now. An ordinary friend comes to you to talk about your troubles, and a real friend comes to you to solve your troubles:
An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after a quarrel. A true friend knows that when you haven't had a fight, it's not true friendship.
In short, true friends like you just the way you are. They will respect your choice and believe in your dream at any time. Even if one day they know everything about you, including all your shortcomings, they will accept you frankly. A true friend can not only share happy times with you, but also comfort you in your gloomy days. He is a person who can think completely from your standpoint.
True friendship needs the test of time. Time can let you know who a person really is, and it can also test the true degree of your friendship. As the saying goes, "the power of a horse can be seen from a distance, and its people can be seen for a long time." Therefore, you can't blindly judge a book by its cover when making friends. Making friends is about heart-to-heart. As long as we are sincere and kind people, we may all become real good friends with him.
"It is enough to have a confidant in life." True friends make us feel that life is better. If you have a true friend in your life, please cherish this friendship with gratitude.