I once had a very good friend who was also a classmate in high school. He came to my class in high school arts and sciences. From our familiarity to the graduation of senior three, we were almost inseparable.
There are classes every Saturday, and I also go to the library for one day on Sunday. We study until 9: 30 in senior three and chat at the station until the last bus at eleven o'clock. The university also went to Tianjin University together, and his major was selected with reference to my opinion, but it was not a major with me.
Fortunately, the word gay was not popular at that time, otherwise it is estimated that others will definitely regard us as gay. It can be said that I haven't met any friends who have a good relationship or get along well so far. However, after college, their contact plummeted, and they even met in the first year of their senior year. Until now, they have not contacted each other for more than two years. Why?
Because the main factor to maintain the relationship between these two people is the environment, as for hobbies or personality, they are all catalysts. In an environment where high schools and universities can live together day and night, we have more opportunities to know the hobbies and personalities of people around us, and it is easier to get in touch with them and become friends.
However, without the environment as a carrier and a lot of time to get along with each other, many people will find it difficult to have an intersection unless they deliberately approach a specific person. At this time, only when both sides are maintaining this relationship can it be possible to reduce the alienation caused by the environment.
At the same time, in the new environment, you are likely to meet some people who are equally compatible with you, and they will slowly enter your world and take up a little bit of your energy. You have less time and energy to maintain the friendship preserved in the last environment. You will feel tired and finally let nature take its course and leave him.
Most people need friends, but they don't necessarily need fixed friends, especially those who are familiar with the environment. When you go out into the society and meet enough people in different environments, those who can often get together with you because of hobbies or other things will be your true friends and will probably get along for a lifetime.
Maybe they won't be as worthy of your treasure as this person in high school, but they will occupy a much larger share in your whole life.
Finally, I wish you find your friend.