In this era, unmarried high-quality men are a scarce resource, and they seem to be becoming less and less every year. And every year, a wave of young girls who have just graduated from college and are very successful join the competition. You accidentally become an older young woman. How to turn your disadvantages into advantages? How to stand out from the competition with these young girls?

Today I taught three practical tricks to older women. Of course, if you are a young girl, it can also help you know yourself and your enemies better, reflect and grow.

01 / Reduce the degree of pleasing

I have come into contact with many older single young women, and in my opinion, they are all very charming. I have been to many places, met many people, drank many drinks, and broken hands with many people. Age and time have not passed in vain, but have tempered her into a wonderful woman with a story.

But this kind of thing often has two sides. Your experiences and past will also make you a very difficult person to please. This is just like after you have eaten with three Michelin stars, even if someone takes you to a delicious restaurant one day, you will not be too excited and think it is nothing more than that, because you have seen the big scene.

So, I can understand your reaction. But from a man's perspective, he hopes to make the woman he likes happy. He really hopes to receive positive feedback from you. He wants his efforts to be recognized and praised. If you are difficult to please, the man is unfulfilled. And if this feeling continues to ferment, he will feel that he cannot make you happy and happy, and it will be too difficult to please you, so he will give up. For example, if a man gives you Prada, you don't even blink - your ex-boyfriend gave you Hermès! What would the man think? ——“She is too difficult to maintain, I might as well find a young girl to give her Coach.”?

So if you want to reduce the degree of pleasing, this sentence is very important: Don’t ask men every moment Break through your best experience. The jokes he tells are not the funniest ones you have ever heard, but since he is trying so hard to please you, shouldn't you smile at him too? Maybe he will tell a first-rate joke one day. So the key to the problem is to see if this man is distracted. As long as he is treating you sincerely, pursuing you, and you like him, then give him some positive feedback appropriately, don't be so difficult to serve, make it easier for him, and let men see hope.

02 / Increase care

In a love or marriage relationship, the roles of two people are constantly changing. Sometimes they are friends, sometimes they are lovers, sometimes they are father and daughter and mother and son. There is a little boy inside every man. This is often something that many young girls cannot handle well, because they are still little girls themselves. This is exactly the advantage of us older single women, we can be good mothers. The care in life and reminders in career made him feel supported. It made him feel that being cared for and cared for by a mature woman like a son was so warm and beautiful.

03 / Sense of Proportion

The sense of proportion is not easy to explain. It itself is a feeling that needs to be experienced by everyone. When two people are together, they are intimate. When we are not together, we can each go about our own things, allowing men to have their own space and time to be alone, socialize, and improve.

If you hold your feelings tightly in your hands too hard and let men surround you all the time, it will easily make you breathless. Many young girls tend to exert too much force in this area. This will easily produce a quicksand effect, and the harder you apply, the harder it will be to hold on. When in love, a series of life-threatening calls may make a man want to escape from a relationship. The ideal way to get along is to treat him like a kite and let him fly freely in the vast sky. At the same time, there is a thread in your hand to grasp the direction of his progress and return. This is the sense of proportion you can do well.

The second aspect of sense of proportion is to reflect your financial independence. No matter how much men like to spend money on women, no one dislikes financially independent women.

Financial independence allows a man to have a more equal dialogue with you, respect you more as an independent individual, and be attracted to your independence.

I have a friend, she is thirty-four years old, a standard older single young woman. She still has a lot of suitors, and some of them are really well-qualified men. I think she is a particularly perfect practitioner of the three points we talked about today.

Be able to grasp the boundaries and give yourself enough space. Able to care and warm a man in a particularly meticulous way. And what I think is the most important thing is that she is still the childlike girl who is easy to please. He will not be arrogant or condescending in front of his suitors. Even if she buys Cartier for herself, if a thoughtful man gives her Swarovski, she will sincerely praise and thank him.