Everyone will meet all kinds of people in daily life, work and study. These people are good or bad, loyal and treacherous, good or evil ... They come into our lives one by one, consciously or unconsciously.

But there is a kind of person who is hard to judge whether he or she is a bad person or not, but he or she is definitely not a real good person. This kind of person is the so-called "rotten good person".

The "bad guy" that we often talk about at ordinary times refers to the kind of person who gives everything to people, regardless of right or wrong. In fact, there is another kind of "bad guy" that means that the relationship between two people is very good, as if they can help each other and talk about everything, but one of them is always used to treating his own affairs as a big thing and treating his friends' affairs as insignificant.

this kind of person is often the most disgusting and wants to stay away from.

Recently, I have reviewed Princess Huanzhu Part III: Heaven and Earth, starring Ma Yili, Ku Kui Kei, Crystal, Qin Lan and other stars 18 years ago. The role of Ziwei continues the image of the first two films, giving the audience the impression that she is still a good girl who is considerate, gentle and generous, sensible and considerate of others.

but in fact, is this really the case?

when I saw the play 18 years ago, I probably felt this way because I was young. But now, after revisiting it, I find that this is not the case.

The attitude of Ziwei in Princess Huanzhu Part III: Heaven and Earth made the melon eaters unknown so. After careful analysis, it will be found that Ziwei is not the person who is considerate, treats others according to their own needs and wants to protect good sisters.

In the play, there is a plot. When a group of people went down to the south of the Yangtze River with their cadres, Lafayette took a fancy to a girl named Zhihua and wanted to betroth her to Yongqi. After all, Zhihua is more in line with the requirements of the royal daughter-in-law than the swallow.

Yongqi naturally didn't want to, because Swallow was the only one in his heart, and Swallow was very opposed to it, but in the end, Yongqi married Zhihua.

Although many factors are inevitable, for example, personal power can't compete with imperial power, etc., the role played by some people can't be ignored.

and in this process, the most prominent "pusher" is Ziwei.

Why is Ziwei the biggest "pusher" for Yongqi to marry Zhihua?

Ziwei is both Yongqi's imperial sister and Swallow's best friend. It's okay for other irrelevant people to persuade Yongqi Swallow to accept knowing the painting. But Ziwei, for example, combined with her personal words and actions, seems that she is too unkind.

Just when the swallow knows that Lafayette wants Yongqi to marry Zhihua, of course, the swallow can't accept it. Which woman is willing to give that love in two to another woman? So at this time, Ziwei acted as a "mediator" to persuade the swallow to be generous.

"We can only break our teeth and swallow blood. You have to be brave ... you have to be mentally prepared. Sooner or later, this day will come."

when Ziwei said these words, her eyes seemed helpless, but she pressed the swallow step by step in words, without any relief. Instead, she tried to persuade the swallow to recognize the facts and stop being stubborn.

it's really irrelevant, hanging high.

Ziwei can do this because it is Yongqi who marries Zhihua, not Erkang, so she comes up with a set of reasons to persuade others to be generous.

It's not her own fault. Of course, she can say such things lightly. If Lafayette asked Erkang to marry Zhihua, I'm afraid it would be difficult for her to say those words.

You won't know the pain unless the needle sticks to the meat. Only the parties concerned can deeply feel the pain of losing their lover and being alone with others. The onlookers are just superficial anxiety and inner sympathy.

people who seem to earnestly advise you, not only can't understand your sadness, but even don't know what you have experienced, but they want to choose for you.

I have to say that people who persuade others to accept their fate are the most cruel people.

That's not enough. When Yongqi married Zhihua and learned that Yongqi didn't have sex with Zhihua on the night of their wedding, Ziwei was not impressed by Yongqi's behavior from the heart, but looked angry.

She scolded Yongqi and said, "Yongqi, I really admire you. The night you married Zhihua, I thought you had become a good thing. If I stand in the position of knowing painting, I will be a little sad for her. Therefore, I think you are a bit cruel. "

what is cruelty? I wonder, isn't such a thing cruel to the swallow?

Ziwei stands on the moral high ground and accuses Yongqi, forcing others to do something they don't want to do at all, ignoring the feelings of a couple who love each other, and talking about whether it is right or not, good or bad, which is really hard to understand.

Imagine that Ziwei would be reluctant to accept these similar things by herself. For many reasons, this is a typical selfishness.

For example, when she was stabbed and thought she couldn't live, she gave the golden lock to Erkang. Later, when she saw that the golden lock was in love with this matter, Ziwei quickly agreed to Liu Qing's request to marry the golden lock at an appropriate time and got rid of this emotional crisis.

For example, knowing that Erkang and Sunny once spent a night on the mountain, watching the snow and the moon, and singing poems against each other, Ziwei lost his temper and cried for a statement from Erkang, and it was only after they had a big fight that the story was turned over.

For another example, Princess Musha, who appeared later, even traveled thousands of miles to Myanmar, and insisted on bringing Erkang back to stay with her for life.

All the piles show that Ziwei is a woman who can't share her lover with other women. In her eyes, this love should not be divided and enjoyed by * * *. If such a woman appears, she will do everything possible to maintain or even get it back.

It is understandable for a woman to do this. After all, everyone has the right to pursue uniqueness, but Ziwei just "double standards". It doesn't matter what others do, and nothing can be done by herself. Egoism and selfishness are beyond words.

Never do to others what you don't want them to do to you, but she has completely forgotten the truth.

There is such a passage to describe a person like Ziwei: "The contradiction between people now mainly comes from a group of people who are used to demanding others by the standards of saints and themselves by the standards of laymen."

In fact, there is a reason for this change in Ziwei, that is, in her opinion, the swallow is not liked by the elders and has gradually fallen out of favor.

In the past, Swallow and I became good sisters because there were too many things that * * * experienced together, and our feelings gradually deepened. However, Swallow often got into trouble, which made her suffer. Ziwei was actually disgusted.

In fact, according to Ziwei's criteria for choosing friends, she prefers to be friends with people like Zhihua, because Zhihua has the same temperament and similar hobbies with her, and in the daily contact, she has a feeling of caring for each other.

To make friends with Ziwei is very dangerous to some extent, because she is always weighing the pros and cons, too aware of the gains and losses, too aware of the distance, and her friendship with Swallow is unreliable, as if she can replace Swallow with a better and more suitable person at any time.

Swallow is a simple-minded person. Whoever is good to her will be good to her and who is bad to the people around her. She will definitely come out for her at the first time, just as Princess Isaiah took a fancy to Erkang, and Swallow tried her best to help Ziwei out, regardless of gains and losses, even risking her head to protect her love.

The attitude of two people towards friendship is not the same at all. One only cares about immediate gains and losses, and is unwilling to put himself in the shoes of his friends. The other is willing to go through fire and water for his friends without selfishness.

between friends, unequal feelings are not worth mentioning.

Even Sunny in the play said to Ziwei, "Do you want the swallow to disappear?"? You only have a picture in your eyes, not a swallow. "

This is a true friend. He can see the swallow's sadness and understand the swallow's feelings. He won't change his sincerity to his friends for any external force, and he is always many times better than a "Ziwei-style" bad guy.

There are a lot of words, which sound good, but not only do not have any effect on the parties, but only add pressure and pain. In this case, it is better not to say anything.

don't persuade others to be kind until they have suffered.

In this world, all kinds of people in Qian Qian don't happen to themselves or meet such people. You really shouldn't persuade others to be generous casually, because you haven't experienced it, and you don't have to bear the consequences. Naturally, you don't have the so-called right to speak and speak.

Life is your own. You still have to walk on your own. Stay away from the "bad people" around you. Maybe you will live more freely and easily.

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