Research, Juzhen 2017-01-09 09: 30: 09
The interpersonal relationship of teenagers is an important part of their socialization process, and it is of great significance to learn to coordinate the interpersonal relationship in this period to promote their mature and stable personality and psychological characteristics. The following is the skill content of teenagers' interpersonal communication collected by Learning Bian Xiao. I hope I can help you!
Teenagers' interpersonal skills
1. Have good psychological quality.
What are the good psychological qualities? If honest and trustworthy, honest and trustworthy people are trustworthy people, and interpersonal communication based on honesty and trustworthiness is reliable and long-lasting; Modest, modest people will not be arrogant, he always sees his own shortcomings and the advantages of others, so he knows how to appreciate others; Cautious, cautious people will not do too much, he will care about other people's feelings and situations; Self-confident and self-confident people always win everyone's favor with their active, positive, calm and natural images in their communication; Enthusiastic help others. Enthusiasm warms people, but helping others is touching.
2. Learn to "exchange roles"
In society, each of us plays a different role. We have conflicts with others, which are difficult to solve. Sometimes, we are used to seeing ourselves and others' behaviors from our own roles. Therefore, it is of great significance for people to understand each other and understand each other. What details should be paid attention to in "role exchange"? First, put yourself in the other person's shoes. For example, if you borrow money from a classmate and he refuses to borrow it, you will definitely think that he is stingy. But if you change your role, think about it: your parents give you 100 yuan a week, your living expenses in 80 yuan 10 yuan, and you have to catch the bus home and eat some snacks. Do you have spare money to borrow someone? Second, pay attention to what you don't want others to do to you. If you don't like people to give you nicknames and laugh at your shortcomings, then you shouldn't just give others nicknames and laugh at their shortcomings, even though you think you are joking. I remember when I was in primary school, there was a boy in my class named Yu. In Sichuan dialect, this word is homophonic with "medicine", so everyone jokingly called him "rat poison", which actually made him very uncomfortable at that time.
3. Learn to appreciate others
American psychologist william james said: "Desiring to be appreciated is the most basic nature of human beings." Facts have proved that some people are popular because they are good at catching the bright spots in others and praising them at the right time. Don't take this simple understanding as flattery, because everyone needs to be praised and paid attention to.
However, it depends on human effort. Besides subjective reasons, there are also objective reasons for teenagers' interpersonal problems, that is, the reasons of their parents and teachers who live with them day and night.
Factors Affecting Adolescent Interpersonal Relations
Family is the main living environment of teenagers, and the problem of parent-child communication is very common. Many students think that parents don't understand whether they don't trust themselves, don't care much about themselves, or don't leave space for themselves. When they come home a little late, they have to question their whereabouts one by one, investigate their classmates who are in love with them one by one, or make phone calls everywhere to let everyone who knows them know that they will not come home after school. Some students think that their parents are autocratic, either strictly interfere with their friends or treat their poor grades and playful friends as eyesores; There are still many students who feel that their parents simply look down on themselves and always compare themselves with the children of relatives and neighbors, feeling that they are inferior to others everywhere. These problems have brought the tension and contradiction of parent-child relationship, and caused great psychological pressure and even irreparable harm to teenagers.
School is another important living environment for teenagers. Common interpersonal problems of teenagers at school include: communication with classmates, communication with teachers and so on. The communication problems with classmates are mainly manifested in that they don't like the practices of some classmates, don't get along well with classmates, can't find a sense of belonging between classes and classmates, can't find the understanding and trust of classmates and friends, and don't know how to solve the contradictions with classmates. The communication problems with teachers are mainly manifested in: I am very concerned about teachers' attitudes and opinions about myself, and I don't like teachers to praise other students; Think that teachers are biased against themselves, thus alienating teachers; I think the teacher is too autocratic, resolute in his occasional mistakes and deaf to his own explanations. A little argument is considered to be a sophistry and a challenge to the teacher's authority, so it's just "eating soft rice instead of hard rice" and simply confronting the teacher to the end.