Chatting with children:
1, target
People can live without great ideals, but they can't lose their goals. Under the system of one exam for life, no matter how hard you usually work, how hard you work and how powerful you are, as long as you fail the exam, you will be eliminated! You have to understand that too much homework, too heavy schoolbags and studying day and night are not cruel to adults, but to reality!
Step 2 configure
At home, all the only children are little emperors, but at school, there are too many emperors, and no one will take you seriously! Unless your grades are better, your talents are more outstanding, and your performance is better, the teacher still treats you as a treasure. The same is true of society. In the future, whether you want to be rich or poor, whether you want to live in a bungalow or a villa, whether you want others to look down on you or respect you, you should be responsible for it yourself.
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Step 3 study
In school, learning is the main thing, but not the only thing. Good study and poor health are related to which one? Reading, reading, the more you read, the more pigs you get? There is no difference. Classmates get together more than themselves: 20 years old than academic qualifications, 30 years old than ability, 40 years old than experience, 50 years old than financial resources, 60 years old than physical strength, 70 years old than medical records, and 80 years old is the lunar calendar. In the final analysis, it is better than health and children.
4. Future
A person's future is determined by knowledge, ability and attitude. Knowledge can be acquired through study, ability can be increased through practice, but attitude is formed through habit. It's not too late to correct your attitude. In the future, I hope everything you do will benefit yourself and others.
5. Yourself
At school, teachers have no obligation to be nice to you, and students have no obligation to care about you unless you respect teachers first, unless you care about your classmates first; In your life, no one has an obligation to be nice to you, except me and your father. Don't think that the world can't turn around without yourself, and don't give up on yourself because you are young.
6. Friends
Making friends is like investing. Of course, you should consider the return on investment. If you find a friend and the friend doesn't give you a return in the end, it can only prove that your investment has failed. You should make friends with people who are better than you, especially remember to help your friends when they are in trouble. Because, people who laughed with themselves are easy to forget, and those who cried with themselves are the most unforgettable. This is that giving charcoal in the snow is more meaningful than icing on the cake.
7. Love
Sooner or later, you will fall in love. As an experienced person, I suggest that it is always beautiful to walk before the flowers and under the moon, and sweet words are even more charming. Don't forget that there are still wind, frost, rain and snow in reality. The thing about love is that you love her, she doesn't love you, she loves you, you don't love her, and you love her. The third case is undoubtedly fascinating, but the probability is less than 10%. Therefore, don't expect the beauty of love too much, and don't exaggerate the sadness of lovelorn.
8. Distance
As parents, everyone is eager for a shorter distance from their children, but with the growth of children, the sky that belongs to you will become wider and wider, and the time and space distance from parents will become farther and farther. Of course, parents are particularly concerned about how much space their children can occupy in the sky! Because, the sky of parents and children is just the opposite, and it is getting smaller and smaller with age. As an ordinary person, I also have popular feelings and care whether you are always around. Parents and children are affectionate, can you see that?
9. Gains and losses
A person can't be proud forever, nor can he be frustrated forever. Be sober when you are proud. There are too many people in this world who are better than themselves, so remember your smallness. When you are frustrated, don't back down. Stick to it: you walked past, and now you walk past.
10, relatives
Cultivate children's emotional intelligence;
1. Parents should also put themselves? When I was a kid?
Whether parents have a childlike innocence is very important for the dialogue between parents and children. Only childlike parents can put it aside? My Lord. Recognize and communicate with children on an equal footing.
2. Pay attention to children's reactions and attitudes.
Some parents, due to lack of due patience, are always eager to express their opinions when talking with their children, hoping that their children will not have their own ideas, as long as they do what their parents say. Even some parents will never let their children finish their sentences, let alone pay attention to their reactions and attitudes. Children talking to such parents will only make themselves more and more uncomfortable and the generation gap with their parents will become deeper and deeper.
3. Answer your child's questions seriously.
When a child asks a question to his parents, parents should first understand the child's real intention and then make an appropriate answer. For example, a child asks his father? Dad, are you going fishing? What is the real meaning of this question? Dad, I want to go fishing with you? . If you can understand the child's real intention, then you can answer? Yes, do you want to come? The child will be very happy after hearing such an answer.
4. avoid using arbitrary tone
Parents should be careful not to use arbitrary words when talking to their children, such as? I order you to give me five seconds to count to one, two, three, otherwise you should-you are so stupid, you are so disobedient, you are really disappointing, aren't you? Wait a minute.
5. Always change the topic.
Parents keep asking their children what to do every day. You have a good day today. Whether the child bullies you will only make the child feel boring. Parents may wish to change some fresh topics from time to time, thus arousing children's more interest. For example, parents can ask their children: Guess what happened to me today? Do you know why children like pleasant goat? If one day, aliens appeared on the earth, what would it be like?
If parents can master the above conversation skills, then children will take the initiative to open their hearts to you.