The ancients’ way of making friends is as follows:

1. Give me a peach and give me a plum in return. ——"The Book of Songs"

In the spring garden, you give me a peach, and I give you a plum in return. This is the purest picture of friendship. Between friends and partners, treat each other equally and cherish each other. If others help me, I will definitely repay them. This is not only a virtue that people should have, but it can also make friendship richer and longer-lasting.

2. There are close friends in the sea, and we are as close as our neighbors in the world. ——Wang Bo "Send Off Du Shaofu to Shuchuan"

Wang Bo said to his friend: We are close friends, and our feelings will never become weak because of separation. Even if we are separated from each other at the end of the world, we still live as if we are next to each other. The same blend of emotions.

3. Virtue must be repaid, but resentment must not be vengeful. ——Zhao Qian's "Pictures on the Sutra of Creation"

You must repay others' kindness to you, and you don't have to care about others' hatred towards you. Indeed, tolerance is a virtue of being a human being. We should always have a tolerant heart, a grateful heart, and a sense of forgiveness, so that we can get more happiness and more friends.

4. It is a joy to have friends come from afar. ——"The Analects of Confucius"

Also: also. Le: happy. It is of course a happy thing for like-minded friends to gather from far away. At this time, we should warmly receive our friends, respect our friends, and make them feel at home.

Notes on making friends:

Everyone has privacy that they don’t want others to know. Under normal circumstances, they will not tell others unless they are trusted friends. When a friend trusts you and tells you his privacy or secret, this is a sign of his respect for friendship.

However, if you can’t keep your friend’s secrets, publicize your friend’s privacy everywhere, and use it as a talking point, you will definitely hurt your friend. Your friend may not say anything on his lips, but he is hurting in his heart. I will definitely be disappointed with you and even feel resentful. Your friendship will also have cracks, and your friends may even break up with you because of this.