Maybe it's not appropriate to say this, because after all, I haven't become a father or even got married, but an inexplicable feeling has been approaching me, reminding me of my father who has gone away for countless nights. It is also in these thoughts that I completed the transformation from a boy to a man.
People's life will always have different feelings at different stages. A few years ago, when I had nothing, I also had doubts and worries. But with the passage of time, I am no longer depressed, but become more calm in the complicated life. Maybe this is the voice I want to talk to you about.
A few days ago, my little niece kept me silent for a long time, and I also thought about many things. She said, "Everyone has a mom and dad", a simple sentence, but with too many reluctant feelings. When she was less than one year old, her father died and her mother was often away, so when she said this, I always had mixed feelings.
Yes, everyone has parents. They are our closest relatives in this world. They gave us life, but also taught us a lot of truth about being a man and doing things. When I was young and ignorant, my father tried his best to save me, fearing that I would go astray and have no choice.
At that time, I didn't seem to understand my father very well, and I always liked to oppose him. Even when my father was dying, I didn't seem to fully realize my mistake. When I was young, I naively chose stubbornness. Even my father's funeral was missed because I had to take part in a job search plan. Now think about it, even if there are thousands of regrets, who can I tell?
Kneeling at my father's grave, I always think of him when he left. When I move from the old house to the new house, when my friends and relatives raise their glasses, I always think, if my father is still alive, if he can feel all this, if he still has a chance to drink a good glass of wine.
It's just a pity that time can't go back, and many things can't go back. Maybe many regrets will stay in my heart and be recorded in countless deja vu nights, but that won't change anything at all. After all, father can't come back.
I have experienced a lot of things, and I have gradually understood too many things in a moving and sad and desperate life. There are indeed some people in this world who deserve our careful treatment, such as our parents. No matter whether they become a little confused when they are old, we should go all out to be patient with them so that they can still feel the happiness of their later years.
Never think that your parents are still young, and you still have time to wait for the opportunity to be filial to them. Sometimes, if you are not careful, you lose the opportunity. Just like me, even if life is good, you will always have regrets, because when you have the opportunity to do something, you choose to wait.
Of course, as parents, they don't need us to give them too much material things. More often, as long as we have more patience and understanding, they will be as happy as children. When you find that you have spoiled your parents into children, it shows that you have really done filial piety.
A normal person always wants to find a beautiful woman to accompany him all his life. As the ancients said, adding fragrance to tea is a good thing, but sometimes greed will turn things upside down and leave him with nothing. Look at many people around us now, whether young couples or old couples, there will always be all kinds of problems.
With the rapid progress of the times, people are exposed to new things quickly. Many people are poisoned by some online chicken soup, and always feel that what kind of husband (wife) they should have is satisfactory. Once the one around them is not so perfect, they will feel that this person is not suitable and want to find the really perfect one.
I don't know that after leaving this person, I still can't find the so-called perfect person, so I fall into an endless cycle, always inexplicably sad and feel that there is no true love in the world. Is there really no true love in the world? I don't think so. The real reason is not that there is no true love, but that there are no perfect people in the world. Too many things in the network, in order to attract people's attention, have long been full of hypocrisy and run counter to reality. We don't pay attention to distinguish between true and false, and it is often ourselves who get hurt in the end.
Sometimes I always feel that the ancients only met once when they got married, and there were few divorces, and the family seemed to be happier. Why? Now our life is much better than that of the ancients. Why are many people unhappy in marriage?
The essential reason is actually greed. The ancients found it difficult to accept things from the outside world, so they simply managed their own small homes and lived a self-sufficient life. They rarely choose to go their separate ways because of the temptation of the outside world. But now people have become too smart, learned all kinds of camouflage and deception, deceived others with some insincerity, and then ruthlessly abandoned them after achieving their goals. It is difficult to find true feelings and satisfy people's hearts in this world.
Maybe a lot of times, human nature is like this. There is a kind of luck in my bones. When dealing with bad things, I always feel that I will not encounter them. When dealing with things well, even if the chance is slim, I am always willing to believe and very determined.
Real life is often about science and seeking truth from facts. China has a history of thousands of years, and countless facts have proved it. We don't need to be picky. Respect for reality is the most basic way to be a man. When you don't work hard in the exam and want to succeed by luck, you should tell yourself not to be crazy. When you leave him now and want to find a better person, you should clearly tell yourself that the next one will really be better. What if it's ten thousand short?
When two people are together, as long as there is no serious principle problem, I think we can gradually change each other through communication. Never meet anything. The first thing you want is to be apart. The world is so big, but few people will be nice to you next. It is possible to lose someone who is really good to you if you are not careful. By the time you regret it, it's too late!
In addition to affection and love, life is of course inseparable from friends. As the saying goes, without the support and help of friends, there is still a long way to go, but how should we deal with it?
I think we should learn from Zeng Guofan's small circle, that is, be kind to others and not easily offend others, but we must keep our bottom line and principles, not easily change and not go with the flow. Combining these two characteristics will not offend others, but also urge yourself to do things according to your own mind.
In our thousands of years of history, there are too many historical stories of typical characters, which involve two extremes of human behavior. For example, Harry and Zhang in Ming Dynasty are the most typical representatives. Zhang belongs to the type of absolute cunning, and he is very tactful both to people and things. Therefore, there is almost nothing that Zhang can't do in officialdom, but Zhang has no real friends in life. Because he is good to everyone, no one will think that you are good to him, just like Neptune.
Because Zhang is too round and sophisticated, he has no real friends, so when Zhang had an accident, he was quickly besieged and cleaned up by everyone; Harry, on the other hand, is completely divorced from reality, single-minded about people and things, absolutely idealistic, and completely ignores practical problems, and the final result is even more bleak.
Neither the emperor nor the ministers around him wanted to go near Harry. Even if Harry is really capable, no one wants to support him. In this way, Harry can't accomplish anything at all. Moreover, people who are too stubborn will end up miserable.
In dealing with people, I think when we grow up, we will find that it is easier to achieve great things by learning to be tactful, not offending people, and sticking to principles in doing things. Only by making achievements can good contacts come in handy. If we have no grades, even if we have good connections, the final result will be useless.