Guide children away from the misunderstanding of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication is both a science and an art, and now many parents begin to pay attention to their children's interpersonal communication. In fact, some parents will also enter the misunderstanding of interpersonal communication in the process of education. This article is to guide children away from the misunderstanding of interpersonal communication.
Guide children away from the misunderstanding of interpersonal communication. Under normal circumstances, parents will always tell their children this sentence repeatedly: "Don't talk to strangers casually!" This protects children's safety to a certain extent, but as everyone knows, it also hinders children's exercise in interpersonal relationships, limits his communication awareness, and easily leads to children's autistic personality.
Parents are afraid that their children will be hurt if they are too wary of strangers, which is understandable, but it must not be a reason to hinder their children's normal communication, because the two are not the same thing. The former should improve children's judgment and vigilance; The latter is the foundation of children's life in society and should not be interfered at will!
In fact, no matter what kind of children, they are eager to have many good partners to talk to and get their recognition, encouragement, support and trust.
However, parents' education in this area has gradually reduced their awareness of communication. Linlin's mother is an example: Linlin's mother always tells her that there are many bad people in society now. When you meet strangers, you must avoid walking around, don't talk to strangers, and don't believe what strangers say. But Linlin is becoming more and more introverted, with fewer and fewer friends, and often stays alone in a daze.
The above-mentioned prohibited education methods may make children feel at a loss, may make children become closed, withdrawn and unsociable, and even make children very unpopular, and no one will make friends with them.
For children who are in the stage of learning knowledge, understanding society and exploring life, it is a common psychological need to communicate with peers and establish friendship. At this time, as long as they don't deviate from the normal life track, parents don't need to restrict them too much, and don't imply that they may not be good people.
Your restriction on him will make the child secularized and utilitarian prematurely, make the child feel dissatisfied and stimulate rebellious psychology, thus adversely affecting the child's communicative ability, which may seriously lead to psychological obstacles such as loneliness, depression and paranoia.
At present, the behavior of many children in society has been worrying: they are selfish, aggressive, withdrawn and excessively feminine. Therefore, they always don't like meeting strangers, are afraid to communicate with strangers, can't get along with others and even know nothing about how to get along with others. This is because their parents have excessively restricted their communication awareness.
For children, having strong communication skills is beneficial and harmless. Children who like to communicate with others can not only communicate with their classmates easily, but also communicate with teachers and other adults at school.
Moreover, whether a child likes to communicate with others and how popular he is in the group will affect his future study and life development. Therefore, parents should pay attention to cultivating their baby's ability to communicate with others from an early age.
As adults, we all have a feeling that every time we think back to our childhood life, we are very excited, we feel kind to our childhood playmates, and we will tell many interesting stories about playing with them. These experiences prove to us that children need friends, and parents should encourage and guide their children to learn to make friends.
In fact, it is not difficult to correctly guide children to interact with others. Parents just need not to set too obvious obstacles for their children.
Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication 1. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: lack of communication motivation.
Nowadays, electronic and communication technologies are highly developed, and children can enjoy the entertainment brought by video games, TV and the Internet without leaving home, which also weakens and dilutes their motivation and desire to communicate with their peers.
2. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: the influence of living environment and the lack of making friends environment.
At present, most houses in our country are unit structures, with small family structure and no children, which loses the natural environment of frequent contact between relatives and friends of extended families and neighbors playing outside, objectively compresses the children's activity world, increases the restrictions on the space between children, and reduces the opportunities for children to play, play and communicate together. Coupled with the tense pace of modern life, no communication between neighbors will inevitably affect children. Even if there is occasional contact between children, it is influenced by some parents' hobbies. For example, some parents pay special attention to cleanliness and keep their homes spotless and tidy. Children's friends come to play, because children are naturally active and will inevitably get dirty and messy. However, parents don't understand that children are eager for friends, accuse their children's friends face to face as dirty and bad, or restrict their children's activities at home. In this way, it not only hurts children's self-esteem, but also affects the friendship between children and friends. As a result, my friends are no longer willing to come to play. Because your home can't be a place for children to play freely and happily.
3. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: children have bad communication habits and behaviors.
Some bad habits and behaviors of children in the process of communication will seriously affect his interpersonal relationship and make him a nuisance and an unwelcome person. For example, some children are "self-centered" and always want others to listen to them. Good things should be monopolized by themselves and like to get the upper hand everywhere. Some children haggle over every ounce of others, cynically, and lose their temper and play an attitude when they are slightly dissatisfied; Some children are more aggressive and like to bully other children and rob others. Anyone who doesn't listen will be forced to add. Some children don't care about others and don't want to help others. Even if others have difficulty asking him for help, he will often be indifferent. Some children are selfish and stingy. They never allow others to get their hands on their own things, some are delicious or fun, and they never want to share them with others. If a child often has these negative behaviors in interpersonal communication, it is useless to close the distance with others no matter how much he wants to make friends with others.
4. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: children lack communication skills.
Socialization requires skill. Many children are unwilling to communicate with them because they don't have effective communication means and methods. For example, some children don't know how to discuss with others, don't get along well with other children when playing, or break up in discord, or attack each other; Some children don't know polite language, and they often hurt others unintentionally when they speak, but they don't know it at all; Some children are not good at dealing with conflicts and contradictions, and even good friends will neglect others for about a year. Some children have not learned to be patient. They can't wait to get other people's toys when they see that they are more fun. Reach for it if you don't give it. Some children don't actively associate with others. They often call others after greeting them. It is often when they invite him to play together that they know to join, and they are always in a passive position when getting along with others. Some children don't know the importance of caring for others and helping others. Even when others are in trouble and need help, they will be indifferent.
5. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: Children have experienced setbacks in communication.
Everyone pursues success, because success can inspire a person's fighting spirit and bring people a pleasant feeling. No one wants to fail or be frustrated, because setbacks and failures always have a negative impact on people's psychology. However, in real life, not everyone can succeed at any time. He is likely to encounter setbacks and failures, and children's interpersonal communication is no exception. At this time, if the child's psychological endurance is weak and can't stand the storms and setbacks in interpersonal communication, and the adults don't give timely and effective help and guidance, the child may be troubled by the setbacks in interpersonal communication and cannot extricate himself. From then on, he became timid in front of everyone and was afraid to associate with others. For example, some children are bullied by others while playing with their peers. He tried to resist, but his strength was not as good as others, so he had to roll with the punches. After several such experiences, children will feel dangerous to be with their peers. The next time he plays with his children, he will have greater psychological pressure, and he will take the way of avoiding as much as possible to protect himself.
6. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: Children are hinted and influenced by their parents.
Some parents are not good at communicating with others themselves, so they seldom contact with the outside world, their relatives hardly move around, and there are not many friends. They haven't said hello to their neighbors for many years, and they are often at a loss when they meet strangers. When someone comes to visit their home, it's usually just a courtesy. These practices of parents in interpersonal communication will undoubtedly have a subtle influence on children. Children will take their parents as the objects of imitation, and children will gradually acquire these behavior habits from their parents and develop an introverted and withdrawn character. Some parents like to label their children. If a child doesn't behave well in front of outsiders, parents will say that the child is "worthless", "can't get on the table" and "won't associate with others". When children often hear such comments, they will seriously think that they have poor social skills and will not associate with others. Some parents often tell their children not to talk to strangers casually. They will cheat you. When a child accepts this idea, it will form the idea that strangers are bad people in his mind, which will increase his insecurity in interpersonal communication and always guard against others, thus affecting and hindering his normal communication with others.
7. Factors affecting children's interpersonal communication: parents' doting and overprotection.
Some parents love their children too much, even to the point of doting. They take good care of their children. Children are the center and sun of the family. Parents go around their children tirelessly like planets every day, and all their attention is focused on them. Whenever there is delicious food and fun at home, children always monopolize it unconditionally, and there is no need to consider sharing it with others. Over time, the child has developed the habit of being self-centered, so when he gets along with other children, he doesn't know how to respect others at all, and he doesn't know how to care about others. He is very arrogant and willful in front of others, which makes people unacceptable and close, thus making him lose many opportunities to make friends. Some parents take some unnecessary protection for their children. They are uneasy about their children going out everywhere. They are always afraid that their children will be in danger and that they will suffer and be bullied when they are with others. So they like to leave their children at home, and even if they are let out, they will accompany them. Children who grow up in this environment often have poor adaptability to the new environment because of lack of exercise in communication with others. In social situations, they often have some clumsy movements and appear at a loss. And once they have conflicts with their peers, they will choose to retreat and avoid.