1. Disconnect from third party. If the illegitimate child actively contacts you, you will completely sever contact with the illegitimate child. If the illegitimate child contacts you actively, he can change his mobile phone number. As for the contact information that other illegitimate children know, you have changed it all. Otherwise, even if you don't meet, it will cause the other person's feelings to heat up. For the future without results, it is better to end it as soon as possible, and avoid sleeping or making complications. Otherwise, illegitimate children. 2. Persuade yourself and the extramarital partner to communicate with the extramarital opposite sex, strive for sensibility and rationality, and let the extramarital opposite sex know your clear attitude. There is no room for manoeuvre, so the opposite sex outside marriage will not pester you. If the opposite sex is ignorant outside marriage, you can go first. As for how to operate, effective measures can be taken to make the opposite sex outside marriage retreat. 3. Forget that if the affair is over, you need to learn to let it go. People and things in the past exist in name only, and have long since vanished with the passage of time. What's more, extramarital affairs should never have happened. You should be glad that when an extramarital affair happens, you can return to your normal life track. If you are still entangled, it will definitely bring trouble to your marriage. 4. Take on family responsibilities. We should strengthen our sense of responsibility, put ourselves in a correct position and do our job well. In short, if we want to go home, we must fulfill our responsibilities and obligations as wives, which is what we must do. 5. Change the past lifestyle. In marriage, we have had some dissatisfaction, which will make us fall into extramarital affairs. At this time, since you are awake and understand the problem, you should find ways to improve your current marriage life and avoid repeating the same mistakes. 6. Travel with your family. You and your married partner can travel, which can not only convey their feelings to the scenery, but also divert their attention. Moreover, although you and your married partner are not on a honeymoon, it is better than a honeymoon. The emotional foundation between you will grow from scratch, and the love in marriage will strengthen your marriage defense line and avoid being eroded by extramarital affairs again. The occurrence of extramarital affairs is precisely because the superstructure, which is difficult to support marriage on the emotional basis, has extramarital affairs, although the superstructure does not. The marriage counselor concluded that women want a happy family and a man who loves them. Extramarital affairs can only fill the vacancy of marriage, and there can be no long-term happiness. Put down what should be put down, quit the game without ending, and don't suffer for a lifetime because of temporary happiness. The way smart women end extramarital affairs Although our tolerance for many things has been greatly improved with the development of the times, we think that extramarital affairs are a wrong feeling anyway, which is not accepted by all of us and will hurt the other party in the marriage. Teach you the best way to end an affair. 1, there are few opportunities to meet, so avoid meeting alone. I have a firm belief to end this improper relationship and avoid meeting each other. It's really hard to give up. It's hard to tell you, but it's hard to break the affair completely. Even if you can control not meeting, you'd better change your contact information, so that you can come in to avoid some other contact information and gradually reduce your attachment to him. If the other party doesn't have the heart to give up and remains enthusiastic, the best way is to be ruthless. 2. Keep yourself busy. Most extramarital affairs are caused by loneliness, so people will be overwhelmed by feelings when they are lonely. The past will be like a replayed movie in front of them, making them busy, having no time for loneliness, nostalgia, sports, reading and listening to music, but be careful not to read romance novels or listen to love songs, avoid sadness and keep a happy mood, knowing that life is still wonderful without him or her! 3, expand the scope of making friends, the appearance of extramarital affairs, men and women will more or less gradually alienate their former close friends, colleagues, friends of the opposite sex, and decide to end the extramarital affairs, so they have to regain this friendship, replace unhealthy love with friendship, and often keep in touch with close friends of the opposite sex. There are 3-5 friends of the opposite sex who communicate more and relax, but we should still pay attention to avoiding one-on-one communication between the opposite sex. In fact, you have left the narrow space between people outside marriage. Caring for family life, a happy and relaxed family atmosphere is very important to each of us. If you want to go home after an extramarital affair, you have to start caring for everyone in your family, try to create some relaxed and happy family atmosphere, create opportunities to lead your family to travel and vacation, and deepen the intimate relationship between family members. 5, improve the sense of responsibility "Marriage Law" clearly stipulates the responsibilities and rights of both husband and wife, and no one can forget the rights, but the sense of responsibility gradually fades in trivial life, especially the one at home is the strong one, and the responsibility of the family seems to have nothing to do with yourself. Everything is taken care of by the lover, and there is no need to worry about it. The weakening of sense of responsibility will inevitably lead to indifference to family feelings, and he only has the responsibility to pay for himself, which is why. How to break up with an extramarital man? 2. Hard refusal, cutting off the road to the abyss. Marriage can't always be sweet. In marriage, women always feel unhappy in life and will marry him only if they feel blind. Stimulated by this kind of emotion, she can be moved by the man outside for a long time, even if it is indifferent. Actually, people are all the same. They are happy at first sight, but after a long time, most of them will dislike each other. In the face of such an extramarital affair, the most correct way for a woman is not to think too much, to refuse him mercilessly, to give him no chance, and to cut off the road to the abyss decisively. The problem of human nature is sometimes simple. When a person feels beautiful again, when you no longer contact or even pull away, when you go to see it after a while, there are often so many feelings. A woman who nip mistakes in the bud is a smart woman. No matter how much you love, it's hard to say without telling anyone. The man you married is really the best man. Maybe it's just suitable for dating, not for marriage. However, the essence of marriage is sometimes not love or not, but habit and responsibility. Basically, few couples who have been married for more than ten years or decades will say "love" to each other, and more couples just put their love into their daily lives. Therefore, it is not impossible to meet a man who fits your soul and makes your heart beat faster outside marriage. However, as a wife and mother, you must understand your role. Therefore, even if you love that extramarital lover again, you can only hide it in your heart, don't tell anyone, and don't go near it. Don't hurt your family, don't delay your lover, is the most correct way. If you can't love anymore, divorce first and then find your own happiness. Some marriages are worth cherishing, but some marriages are wrong from the beginning. For those who lose themselves in marriage and even feel that life is on thin ice, divorce is actually a better choice. After all, when you are single again, you will have a freer perspective to see whether those past misfortunes are caused by marriage or you can't. So, if you meet an extramarital lover who thinks you can be happy, get a divorce first. Being single is not only the embodiment of being responsible for her husband, but also the embodiment of being very responsible for those who have extramarital affairs. After all, even if you get married, there is no rule that you can only stay with him for a lifetime. If there is a better choice, why not try it? On the contrary, if you cheat in marriage, it is the stupidest choice. How to break up with an extramarital man? First of all, I have no objection to human feelings. But all feelings should not be based on hurting others. What is the definition of extramarital affairs? It is usually a sexual relationship with someone other than your spouse that transcends friendship. In fact, all feelings that occur outside marriage can be called extramarital affairs. However, only having sex with your spouse beyond friendship will do the greatest harm to yourself and others. Then, emotion is a very natural emotion of human beings. People become people because they have multiple responsibilities to understand their feelings and reason and correct their behavior. Nowadays, many people occasionally have some extramarital affairs or emotions, and I don't object. Because human feelings are innate. But I am opposed to extramarital affairs in a narrow sense, having sex with people other than spouses, and seeking the purpose and permanence of the relationship. Women are often weak in marriage. When the family's marriage is unhappy, as a kind of nature, women will actively or passively seek emotional dependence from the outside world. Therefore, it is easy for women to fall into the misunderstanding of extramarital affairs. Some women have a hard time coming out. Mental or psychological confusion caused by various defects. So, how to get rid of extramarital affairs? The most effective method is physical severance. The so-called physical severance means not to contact people who have already had sexual relations. This kind of isolation seems cruel and stifles women's nature, but you should know that an affair without results will only gradually drag down the whole person's life, even the other person's life. The second is to transfer emotions and use the energy of life in practical things. It can be said that the loss of extramarital affairs is the same as the loss of lovelorn love. The most correct way is to focus on reality and reap the harvest of life or career in reality. Third, women should match their words with their deeds. This is the greatest protection for yourself. Because in extramarital affairs, the harm to women is the greatest, whether it is reputation or the reality that comes with it. Therefore, the best way for women to face these problems is to stay away from extramarital affairs and remain silent. Let the full career make up for the lack of feelings, until the real harmony of the family is established, and the double harvest of the career and the family is obtained.