Hakka marriage customs are deeply influenced by ancient fashion, and their main purpose is to carry on the family line. The marriage between men and women in Hakka pays attention to "being suitable for each other", and the formal marriage relationship in Hakka society is a kind of "marrying into a rich family", and the wind of uxorilocal is not prevalent.
Although there is inevitably a prejudice of preference for boys over girls in Hakka society, on the whole, the relationship between men and women is relatively equal. For example, Hakka women work as well as men at home. Therefore, women are equal to their brothers at home; When getting married, parents attach importance to their marriage, and in-laws must follow traditional etiquette and follow the rules in order to get a good wife. Hakkas' marriage styles are all in accordance with the ancient "Six Rites". With the changes of society, although there are changes, they are generally handled with reference to the old system. Six sacrificial ceremonies: "Farewell, setting a date, giving a bride price, offering a dowry, picking up the bride, seeing her off, paying homage, eating noodles and bowls of chicken". Similar to the ancient "Six Rites". In the wedding ceremony, there are still old customs such as disturbing the house and consummating the house.
On the third day after the bride's marriage, the bride's family hosted a banquet in honor of her daughter and son-in-law, which was called "inviting the three dynasties". On this day, my daughter can't stay at her parents' house, but must go back to her husband's house. In some rural areas, the bride's family invited some women and relatives to visit her daughter's house in a few days; Or the bride's family invites her daughter's house to make full moon wine (when she is married for a full moon). Men and women in-laws choose their own dates and hold banquets to invite each other, which is called "visiting" to strengthen the communication between the two in-laws.
Guests, commonly known as "wedding banquets", are very grand, especially in the past. Among them, the woman's visit to the man's house is called "big guest"; The man will set off firecrackers in front of the door to welcome them, and can't hold a banquet until they arrive. The groom should hold the pot at the mother-in-law's first table and take turns pouring wine for her mother-in-law. The guests were seated according to seniority, age and family situation. The top left of the hall is the chief, the right is the second seat, the old man is at the top, the guests are at the bottom, and so on.
Forms, such as holding a child bride, getting married, changing parents, changing parents, remarriage, etc. Some of them gradually become scarce and disappear.