Psychologically speaking, people's inferiority complex is related to the psychological shadow of childhood.
The most important one is the influence of family. When I was a child, I was denied more than encouraged. When I grew up, I had the psychology of self-denial.
For example: idiot, really stupid, hopeless, look who. . . , you always. . .
Of course, when you grow up and can be independent, many things are decided by yourself, and the regret caused by decision-making mistakes is one of them. Inferiority is a kind of psychology that lacks a sense of belonging, that is, a lack of self-identity.
Therefore, a person who lacks self will recognize himself by seeking external voices. Sometimes, in the process of doing something, you constantly remind yourself not to make mistakes. You want to say everything well. When you meet someone, you want them to like you. When negative voices come from outside, the first thing you say from your heart is always: Alas, it is always like this. I knew it. If, if, why is it always me? . . . Not to say: or should I choose, come on, this is one.
(In a sense, perfectionists pursue perfection in everything, but people are not sages, to err is human. You may have many advantages, but you look at your shortcomings with a magnifying glass. A word of advice, your audience is small. Excuse me, what do you think in your heart, other people's opinions are very important? Being happy is very important. Of course, happiness is based on happiness. )
Anxiety is inferiority+self-frustration+self-torture.
It is not too difficult to overcome it. Of course, Rome wasn't built in a day.
I can give you a suggestion:
1. Give yourself an encouragement every morning: Today is another beautiful day. This is a great day. Another beautiful day. Don't think about anything yesterday. Wish me a happy life. I am really charming today. I am the most likable. . .
Of course, these words can be said in the mirror and said out loud. Excellence is a habit, so is inferiority. Practice the habit of self-affirmation first.
2. When doing a job, task or thing, you can encourage yourself first: I can do it well. This is a small challenge, well, let the storm come more violently.
3. Learn to greet and chat with strangers. You can improve your subconscious recognition of yourself, and at the same time, you should believe that others will like you.
4. Smile more, and you must really laugh. (Different from Xiao Yu). Smile is elegant, and no one will hate people who like to smile. The so-called people who don't laugh. The cost of bringing recognition is the lowest.
5. Do more physical exercise. Doing sports can enhance people's endurance and self-confidence. For example, if you do sit-ups, if you can only do 10, when you do 12, you say to yourself: Baby, your water is great! I can't believe you finished it. Persevere, and you will gradually recognize yourself. Of course, you will have more confidence in yourself.
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Of course, there are many ways. Simply put, you try to do something you dare not do or don't want to do. Once you finish it, you can challenge it for another week, a month, a quarter and a year. Slowly, you will find that when you take the problems in life as challenges to complete, everything is actually floating. . .
Did you find out? In fact, you are a confident, beautiful, elegant and intellectual woman, and you are very attractive!