Once, I knew that he would come back from work soon, so I made an appointment with some friends to have a drink in the dormitory in advance and chat while drinking. He didn't speak when he came back, and I didn't buy him a drink, pretending not to see it. I drank until after eleven o'clock in the evening. After the friend left, his face was very pale: "If you want to drink in a restaurant, don't drink in the house!" " ! "
I also prepared in advance. "You can do it later, so can I!"
But he suddenly flew into a rage: "I just want to drink here." Who are you? "
I said, "Well, let's go outside and find a clearing and talk about it." Come with me if you dare! "
He scolded at the back and followed me out of the unit with an empty bottle. However, in a few minutes, he was mainly convinced, and those friends who drank together were waiting to cut him. As a result, I was taught a good lesson, so I won't go into details. Afterwards, we became friends.
Before dealing with it, I inquired beforehand that he was just bluffing, that is, putting a score in the unit. Biting dogs don't bark. If they really have the courage, things will be different, so this is to deal with a man as he deals with you.
I'm talking about the' 90s. Now civilized society, of course, will not happen again.
Another time, I just went to work, and a big slacker who went to work staggered on the road. At first glance, he was drunk. Suddenly grabbed my arm and wouldn't let me go. "I don't have any money today. I'll buy an ice cream for my brother!"
"Well, we each have one, the most expensive one."
Then I went to the canteen with him and gave him an ice cream.
Occasionally meet some rotten people, just like a pool of shit on the ground. What you need is to get out as soon as possible and leave him alone.
No big deal. This is not shameful. It is wisdom.
therefore ...
First of all, why should he bully you?
Have you been bullying people? Think you're easy to bully? Then you don't have to be afraid of him. Don't confront him head-on, but find out his basic situation, otherwise it is easy to suffer more losses. Through my daily observation, it is most important to talk to my close friends or some old colleagues with anecdotes about his past and make a comprehensive analysis of him.
Secondly, what is the nature of others?
If, like Zhang Fei, he has a low basic quality, no brains, and his mouth is not damaged, everyone wants to lose a few words, but his character is not bad, so we must tolerate his shortcomings. Including Lu in the Water Margin, who often bullies people all day. Some people are more open-minded and get used to it after a long time.
In the end, others can't control it. If you don't want others to bully you, you have to be strong.
If you study hard and work hard, everyone will admire you. Naturally, no one dares to look down on you, let alone bully you. How to do it specifically, not much to say, this is another topic.
I don't know how people bully you.
Tell the truth, people are floating in the rivers and lakes, so will they be stabbed?
I remember a little brother who used to be a temporary worker, thinking that he had entered a large state-owned enterprise factory, only to find out that he was a dispatch worker after he went in. This little brother is still a junior college student. The monitor has no education and is a regular worker.
When drinking, I spilled wine on my little brother's clothes for no reason, and I didn't give any face.
Do you think the monitor's colleagues will sympathize with him?
You are wrong, they will only bow to power, that is, to protect the monitor's face. As for you, who cares about you as a temporary worker! ! !
That is the reality.
The more grass-roots people bully people.
Later, the younger brother found a new unit himself, and now he is doing well, which is a small leader. Didn't take this matter to heart, as for the monitor, he just disappeared.
This example is to answer your question. People need to be awesome to avoid being bullied. If you are bullied in the office, you can only say that you are not good enough! ! !
What should I do if I am bullied by my colleagues in the office?
Work 10 years, I was deeply impressed by the experience of being bullied twice. Once, I heard two female colleagues and the direct leader talking about me in the conference room, saying that I was not, which was not good. I think this kind of working atmosphere is not good and I don't like to interact with it. It broke out at a meeting, and the man's immediate supervisor directly attacked me in front of my colleagues in the department. I just walked out of the meeting room and chose to leave. During the exit interview, a supervisor told me that I could actually face it in a cold way. I feel very wronged, but I have to admit that he is right. Sometimes, we treat something coldly, and things drift for a while and then stop.
Another impressive thing is that I met a great woman and started to establish a very good relationship with me. She talks about me behind my back everywhere because of the job competition. At first, I didn't think so. Later, a friend told me that I realized that I was careless in making friends. Later, I gradually alienated from her and often heard her gossiping about me, but this did not affect my work. The office is the gossip center. If you don't care, it won't cause bad influence. Sometimes we have to learn to be a smart deaf person.
Calmly analyze the bullied things.
We should look at the bullied things calmly, and we should seriously analyze the reasons for being abused by gossip and promiscuity. Is it our own reason or someone else's reason? If it is our own reason, we will correct it in time. If it's someone else's fault, it can be treated coldly for a period of time. If she still turns a deaf ear, just tell her that you know what she did to you.
Treat things that happen outside of work rationally.
Direct leaders pay more attention to the results of work, and leaders will understand things outside of work, so they should take work as the center and pay attention to the ideas of leaders. Don't be distracted by things other than work. Only by controlling the key points can we benefit. If all your direct supervisors are gossips, we can directly change supervisors and departments. The supervisors who believe in positive energy are still in the majority.
Paying attention to our own growth, staying away from negative information, rejecting negative emotions and finding our own foothold in our work are the foundation of our work. Looking forward to the future and making our cause stronger and bigger, these episodes will become a thing of the past.
He bullies you because he thinks you are easy to bully, which is your impression of doing things at ordinary times. If you don't want to be bullied, you must be hard. Now it is a society ruled by law. Rich and poor are equal. You only have one head, two arms and two legs. What are you afraid of? When people are angry, blood splashes five steps. Close at hand, people are enemies.
The new environment and work are bullied by colleagues, so don't leave your job easily?
First of all, click 1. You should know that you chose this job not because of who, but because it is a place that reflects your self-worth. So don't be influenced by others. At this time, you can report to your superiors and hope that this problem will be solved as soon as possible so as not to affect your work.
Find a reasonable time to talk to this colleague. It is normal to have conflicts at work, but there are very few bullies. Make it clear that if the other person doesn't pay attention to his behavior, you will fight back if necessary.
3. Try to improve your working ability and get on well with other colleagues. If the other person is trying to bully you, someone must speak for you. You must show your ability to be taken seriously.
I hope I can help you.
Go home, come to work and no one will bully you. You are working, and I am working. Why should I bully you?
You can also tell the leader about this situation and let us have a fight with our colleagues. Why bother?
Speaking of bullying you, you don't know what kind of bullying it is and why you should be bullied. For what reason? I can't bully you for no reason.
Bullying in the workplace is generally due to being bullied at work. If it is really aimed at you, then you can stay away from this person, or try to have less contact with him or her. If you can't avoid it, you can directly blame him!
The workplace is a condensed version of a small society. If you want to gain a foothold in the company, have a certain right to speak and stay away from the lowest end of the contempt chain, you must first analyze why everyone only bullies you. Is it possible to reconcile relations or fight back? You can't just sit back and wait.
Judging from my experience and work experience in several units, I can't integrate into the circle of the core working people in a unit and I am always looked down upon by others. Anyone can step on you and vent their personal anger on you. I roughly divide him into three situations, which I usually use to examine my actual situation in order to integrate into the team more quickly.
First, you are not related by blood. There are no contacts or resources to give disguised or direct benefits to the unit itself or some people with authority in the unit;
The second category has no core value of its own. You can't lose your job if you have poor business ability, no achievements in your work, and often fall off the chain and become a marginal figure in your unit.
Third, please the personality. Colleagues have no sense of boundaries, do not know how to reject everything, and have no personal views and opinions. On the surface, he is an easy-going and modest old man, but in fact, he is lazy and lacks the sense of responsibility to actively interact with the team.
No matter which unit we started to join or which unit we worked in for a long time, there are such pyramid and food chain phenomena in the unit. Although it is impossible for everyone to be at the top of the tower, at least we should keep ourselves in the middle position and become the mainstay of the unit, because the bottom layer has basically been eliminated and new recruits have made up for it. Although there is still a hidden hierarchical concept in this society, the rights and interests of workers are still largely protected by law and bound by morality. If you are always bullied, you should think deeply about which aspect of your problems need to be improved and made up.
In an organization, if it is not a related household, it can only adhere to the principle of strike while the iron is hot. You must let yourself do something, create intuitive value and benefits, crush your colleagues with your work strength and value results, and make yourself a core employee, so as to stay away from right and wrong. Even if someone asks you for help and guidance, you will become the object of gratitude. Such people will be very tired, because they should always keep the spirit of saints, but how can they not be tired in the workplace? As the saying goes, there is a reward for giving, and this reward includes all aspects. Compromise, concession, fading out and being pushed around are the most taboo in the workplace. Everything must be actively strived for and changed, with internal factors as the main factor. Otherwise, it makes no difference where you go. As long as people are in a circle, there will always be checks and balances between strength and interests. Of course, when such a person is not likable, he must be a person with great personality and bring out the best in each other.
Communicate first. If there is no result, report to the leader. If there is still no result, you have nowhere to go and make the necessary reciprocal counterattack.
In fact, you are not afraid of him, but trying to improve your interpersonal relationship, so you don't know what to do.
1 In fact, everyone with eyes saw him bullying you in the company, but everyone didn't say anything, so he bullied you and must be seen by others. As the saying goes, losing is a blessing ~! One day I will make you earn it back ~!
Why did he bully you? He also formally grasped the weakness of your character, but some people just bully the weak and are afraid of being hard. You should give yourself confidence and courage, not give him benefits (not let you whip him). What should I do? The so-called enemy is like a spring. If you are weak, he is strong ~! Give yourself courage, and he won't bully you so easily ~!
Remember not to retaliate, laugh at yourself if you feel wronged, and make fun of it to turn embarrassment into a weapon.
It's okay to put up with little things. If it is a matter of principle, there is no need for patience.