1. Internet friends
The Internet, as a product of the modern information age, exists in the complicated world and enriches people's spare time life. Some people praise and reject others when they come into contact with the Internet. But modern people can no longer live without it. The Internet is inclusive and suitable for all types of people to participate, from young children to octogenarians. Regardless of gender, regardless of position, everyone gets what they need and never tires of it. So you and I become members of the network and become friends.
Of course, people who go online have different purposes and different levels of education, so this also determines the level of people online. It takes a keen eye to recognize people online. The Internet is virtual, but the person sitting in front of the screen is real, so his or her words and language represent that person's conduct and habits. Since people all have the ability to identify themselves, they can also distinguish which people are suitable to be close to or stay away from. In fact, it is not difficult to distinguish between sincerity and hypocrisy, truth and lies. The important thing is what kind of values ??you use to distinguish. Your group of friends directly affects the direction of your life. Associating with bad friends will definitely affect your ability to make correct judgments and your understanding of life will be biased. On the contrary, associating with good friends will improve your overall quality, maintain a positive attitude towards life, and have the correct ability to identify things.
So how can you identify the strengths and weaknesses of your friends? My way is through words. Because I like words, I will look for the shadow of my friend in the words to determine who he or she is. So when I add friends, I will check the other person’s space and read his or her text. Of course this is only for strangers. I am not good at chatting. If I meet a friend who likes to chat, I will tell him/her directly that I am very busy and I am sorry. But there are exceptions, like close friends, who I can talk to for a longer time. A true friend just cares and greets you at any time. Just a few simple sentences. There are also some people who talk about sensitive topics, but I just brush them off. Chatting with intelligent people is a pleasure, as a few pleasant conversations can brighten the day. I never want to chat for too long, because I don’t want to waste time on this aspect, so friends rarely talk to me. It is necessary for netizens to maintain an appropriate distance from each other. Being too close will cause visual fatigue, but viewing it from a distance is actually a different kind of beauty, so my friends please forgive me for my indifference. In fact, true friendship is not achieved by chatting. Identifying friends is a long process. I won't decide that you are my soulmate just because of a few chats. The tacit understanding of getting along does not depend on the number of words, but the most important thing is sincerity. This sincerity is reflected through your written language, and can be identified by a certain detail, a certain action, and the way you handle something. In fact, I like friends who love writing. The basis of our friendship is based on the same hobbies. Although literary friends rarely talk to each other, such friendships often last long.
I need to clarify one point, never judge the depth of friendship with you by the number of times we chat. Sometimes what is said in a chat is based on a personal standpoint. When a point of view is expressed, it is all based on one's own thoughts and understanding, and it is inevitable that there will be deviations from the other party's. Casual chatting can make people happy, but it can also cause ambiguity. Words are different, they represent a person's thoughts. Over time, if you read articles, you will know a person’s character, habits, and even their strengths and weaknesses. Of course, there are many people here who rely on words to exaggerate and beautify their own image. This requires your own wisdom to identify.
The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the state of being like water is indifference. It is better to be indifferent when getting along with friends. A gentle greeting is beautiful, a faint smile is beautiful, and a shallow friendship is beautiful. Deep friendship is built on light communication. I don’t want to know your beauty or ugliness, I just want to know whether your ideological orientation is in sync with mine. A true friend is a tacit understanding between each other, a kind of understanding.
True friends do not rely on chatting, but on occasional greetings and tacit understanding of each other. The depth of friendship is not measured by the length of time, but by missing each other continuously like gurgling water. So, I can sincerely say, friends, although we don’t speak much, we care about each other. There is a kind of friendship that is only suitable to be kept in the heart, not expressed in words. Friends, friendship is infinite, no need to say more!
Second, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water
Does invisibility require a reason? My answer is, yes. Reduce unnecessary trouble.
There is a reason for saying this. I don’t like to chat, and I am not good at chatting.
When I first started surfing the Internet, some classmates and colleagues chatted and asked each other. Sometimes I find it too troublesome to chat and would rather be more friendly on the phone, so I don’t talk much about it afterwards. There is no interest in chatting with strangers. I love reading other people’s diaries and leaving traces when reading articles, but I’m afraid of talking. Maybe it’s because of his personality! I have chatted with several people several times, and the time was mostly short. We were polite to each other, and sometimes we made a little joke. It was very civilized, and I felt very happy. Anyone who knows me well is very restrained in chatting. Everyone has different experiences, different worldviews and different views. Chatting can reveal a person's quality. Generally, it does not involve personal privacy, do not talk about too much personal information, talk about hobbies, talk about insignificant topics, and try to talk about others as little as possible. Once you say too much, you will hurt others and yourself. In one word, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. It is fate that we know each other. I am very willing to talk about something relaxed and enjoy each other. I don't want to talk about sensitive things. Sometimes I can listen to your troubles and give you advice, instead of being straightforward and asking for the truth, and I'm not letting people talk freely. I remember that when I first started working, I spent a few years in a small school. The people there made me very uncomfortable. There are factional disputes among colleagues, and their words often fall into my ears the most. Because I don't join any faction, they can attack each other at will, which makes me terrified. Later, I was transferred out of that school, and my ears have been clean ever since. What I want to explain here is that the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. No matter how you interact, please keep a little distance. No one can discuss right and wrong in front of anyone, and no one can be discussed. When people live in this world, it is inevitable that they will be criticized. Please look at the problem objectively. Normally, no one is the master of words, and it is inevitable that there will be inappropriate words. If we understand each other, we will be able to understand each other. We often get to know each other not by chatting, but by admiring others' character. Where does character come from? If you read his (her) articles, you will know some of his (her) style. In addition, you can observe the details of how he (she) handles things. These are internal things that cannot be noticed by just chatting.
The reason why I chose to be invisible is to reduce unnecessary trouble. Friends please forgive me. My suggestion is that the friendship between gentlemen should be as light as water, and it is actually very good to get along lightly and feel lightly. If necessary, I can talk to you, but the time should not be too long, so again, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water!
Three, a brief talk on making friends
With the development of modern science and technology, living standards are improving day by day, and abundant material life cannot meet people's spiritual needs. The Internet just provides people with a platform for communication. It is indeed a good thing for people to have a haven where their souls can mingle with each other in their spare time, so that their usually irritable and tired body and mind can relax. Internet interaction among friends gave rise to the term netizen. For a long time, I have been disgusted with the names that netizens call me. After all, the Internet is virtual to a certain extent. To recognize people on the Internet, you have to have a piercing eye like Sun Wukong. I don't have the sharp eyes like Sun Wukong, but I will use my heart to recognize the truth and falsehood. Of course, I sometimes make mistakes. What does it matter? Who can guarantee that I will not do wrong things in my life? I am not a saint.
I am a primary school teacher, and the scope of my work is the three-foot podium. Under the stage are those innocent children, and then there are the colleagues I meet every day in the office. Sometimes classes have different schedules, we don’t work together upstairs and downstairs, and we don’t have many opportunities to meet each other. In addition, we are busy with work and have no time to chat. When I get home, there are endless housework to do, and people coming and going among relatives, friends and neighbors are often as busy as a spinning top. A person is not a machine. He or she has his or her own emotions, interests, goals, and pursuits in life. The Internet just provides people with such a space, allowing people to express their emotions in their own space. In fact, it is not shown to some people, but just out of a desire to express, so that their hearts can get Relax. There are too many taboos in front of others. You can't open your mouth casually, but that's not the case in your own space. I can say whatever I want as long as it doesn't hinder the interests of others.
I lived to be in my forties, dealing with children every day, but not much progress. I once told people that teaching first grade is at a first grade level, and teaching sixth grade is at a sixth grade level, and that’s it. But I don’t regret teaching. This profession allows people to always maintain a childlike innocence. Looking at the world with a childlike innocence, everything is beautiful. I am lucky to still have this childlike innocence. I see the world with my childlike innocence, and of course there are many beautiful things. Although there are many difficulties in life, it does not affect me from seeing it with a happy state of mind.
A person's life will go through ups and downs, difficulties and ups and downs. To face them calmly, you must have a good state of mind. I dare not say how generous my mood is, but I know that money, fame and wealth have never tempted me. I have a purpose when making friends in life or on the Internet. What does this friend bring to me, what does it allow me to gain, and what can I learn from them. If they are worthy of friendship, I will keep them. If they are not, I will have to say goodbye. In fact, I don’t have long experience on the Internet. I rarely chat. I read some meaningful things to enrich my brain. I also occasionally write about my experiences and thoughts. I like listening to music and downloading some of my favorite songs. It is good for my body and mind. One thing. Meeting a true good friend is a blessing. In the vast sea of ??people, having a friend who understands you is rare but rare. Good friends can purify your soul, enhance your life value, and expand your spiritual level. In this society, one more friend means more paths, and one more friend means more happiness, so I no longer hate the title of netizen.
People say that you have to live and learn. If you learn to surf the Internet in your forties, you can still keep up with the times. If there are no accidents, it is no longer a miracle to live to eighty. I have only gone through more than half of my life. There is still a long way to go, and it will be too early for me to grow old. Therefore, I still have to ask myself to make progress and live the rest of my life well. Finally, I wish my good friend happiness and good fortune. I hope I can use my sincerity to make more and better friends in the future.