The communication between boys and girls is not only normal, but also necessary, which is conducive to the healthy growth of teenagers. Psychological research and practical observation show that teenagers who have a wide range of contacts, whether they are same-sex confidants or heterosexual friends, have more perfect personality development, less emotional fluctuations, richer emotions, stronger self-control and higher mental health level, and are more likely to form a positive, optimistic and open-minded personality than those who have fewer friends or only same-sex friends.

Prudence and timidity hinder the communication between young men and women; It is also undesirable to be too enthusiastic, casual, frivolous and not solemn. So, what is the correct heterosexual communication?

First of all, pay attention to the way of communication. It is appropriate for young men and women to communicate collectively. Discussions and speeches in class, after-class discussions and jokes, and extracurricular game activities all create opportunities for the opposite sex to communicate with each other. Make some introverted and unsociable students avoid the shyness and embarrassment of facing the opposite sex alone; Some students who like to communicate meet the needs of communicating with others. Everyone is integrated into a strong collective atmosphere. In the collective heterosexual communication, everyone is faced with a group of heterosexual classmates, who are humorous and talkative, smart and kind, optimistic and generous, or steady and capable ... Only in this way can we broaden our horizons and minds while absorbing everyone's advantages and avoid focusing on one opposite sex and developing a "one-on-one" love relationship. Collective communication, parents rest assured, teachers support. There are various forms of collective communication, such as interest groups, science and technology groups and study groups. Group activities are also colorful, such as entertainment, games, competitions, travel, small inventions, small productions and so on.

Secondly, we must grasp the scale of communication. The other party invites you to participate in an activity, such as listening to music, watching movies, watching art exhibitions and visiting book fairs. This is a normal and open sexual intercourse, and you can keep the appointment generously. Girls should be dignified and open-minded, don't let the other side misunderstand and think at the worst; Boys should be calm, solemn and respect each other. If two people have a good impression on each other and get along well, then the number of dates will increase and the time of each date will be extended until they are inseparable and want to stay with each other all the time. At this time, we must pay attention to moderation, don't take up too much time of the other party, and don't make one or both parties unable to concentrate on their studies and get together with family, classmates, relatives and friends because of dating. We must be temperate, reduce the number and time of being alone together, talk more about learning when we meet, and let the feelings of both sides cool down. In order to nip in the bud, it is best to politely decline a date for the purpose of love, so that the other party can understand your mind and give up the pursuit of you. But pay attention to ways and means, and don't hurt each other's self-esteem. Parents, teachers, classmates and friends should be invited to help those who pester or even intimidate. As long as we grasp the scale of communication with the opposite sex, be sincere, warm and generous, and have self-respect, we can handle the relationship with the opposite sex and win the respect and friendship of the opposite sex with good cultivation and character.

Although heterosexual communication is an important part of teenagers' social communication, it is also their "youth right", but in the face of many factors that interfere with normal communication from themselves and the environment, teenagers must grasp the scale of communication, so as to really play a positive role in promoting their growth and maturity.

1. Correct communication attitude and cultivate healthy communication consciousness. When communicating with the opposite sex, we should pay more attention to learning from each other's excellent points in learning, quality and personality development, aiming at strengthening communication, mutual exchange and common development. We should abandon those unhealthy negative communication motives and think naively, and communication will naturally be natural and graceful.

2. Make extensive contact and avoid individual contact. The degree of contact should be shallow rather than deep. Extensive contact helps us to know more about the opposite sex, have a basic overall grasp of the opposite sex, and learn to distinguish the good from the bad. If you only engage in a limited range of personal contacts, you will inevitably "see the trees but not the forest", and your understanding of the opposite sex is not only limited, but also biased, which brings hidden dangers to your own safety.

3, the relationship should be sparse and not far away, correctly grasp the psychological distance of communication, and eliminate the communication that makes the other party feel too close and causes emotional fluctuations. If you find bad tendencies in your communication, you should adjust your attitude, restore your communication to a normal state, or temporarily cut off contact and give yourself and the other party a calm space.

Social communication should be carried out in a positive environment. Be cautious about the communication requests of unidentified people, especially to overcome the fictional romantic language in the virtual communication environment such as network and written conversation, avoid arranging separate meetings, and resolutely stop communication if you find that the other party has bad tendencies.