Zeng Guofan

Zeng Guofan used such a set of methods. There is a very important word in the cultivation of ancient Confucianism, and that is the word "sincerity".

Looking back on life in his later years, Li Hongzhang said that my teacher Zeng Guofan taught me the most important word "sincerity", which really benefited me a lot.

Zeng Guofan once asked Li Hongzhang, "What methods are you going to use to deal with foreigners?"

Li Hongzhang said, "I play hooliganism with them, and I play hooliganism with them."

Zeng Guofan said: "No, you should use the word' sincerity' with them. Both foreigners and China people are human beings, and everyone is reasonable. As long as you use the word' sincerity' and do what you should do, the other party will not bully you.

Even if he bullies you, it is only the normal result of the strength gap. It's much better than you playing hooligans and scheming, and finally getting a big loss. We should stick to the word "sincerity" for everyone. "

This often happens in the process of dealing with interpersonal relationships. The book "The Battle of Tianjing" also wrote an example-in the ninth year of Tongzhi (1870), Ma Xinyi, the governor of Liangjiang, was assassinated, which was a famous Spurs case in the history of the late Qing Dynasty.

Cixi suspected that Zeng Guofan and his Xiang army had done it, so she called him in and asked strangely, "This is very strange!"

Zeng Guofan's answer is simple: "I also feel very strange." Don't say a word, don't argue with Lafayette. Lafayette has nothing to do with him.

For another example, the court wanted Zeng Guofan's younger brother Ceng Guoquan to be an official, and Ceng Guoquan was too young to stay, so he stamped the court and asked to be demoted again.

Zeng Guofan advised him not to do this, saying that Cixi and Prince Gong? We are all wise men, so don't play folk remedies with old Chinese medicine practitioners. Why bother? A wise man should not do such a thing.

Zuo often stabbed Zeng Guofan in the back. Zeng Guofan's handling method is also very simple. Explain this matter, explain it. And then completely ignored it. I'll help you then, Zuo. I still want to help you.

This is Zeng Guofan's principle of dealing with people, which is to go back to the derogatory term I mentioned earlier: shortsighted.

I will handle this matter now, handle it well, regardless of the game relationship between the second and third floors around me. This is the smartest way in chaos and change.

In a Zen story, a young monk asked the old monk, "Master, what did you do when you were young?"

Master said, "I just cut wood, carry water and cook."

The young monk asked, "What do you do after enlightenment?"

Master said, "I also carry water, cut wood and cook."

The young monk asked, "What's the difference? Have you made no progress in your life? "

The old monk said, "No, there is progress. When I was a child, I thought about carrying water when I was chopping wood and cooking when I was carrying water.

Now, I am enlightened. I chop firewood, fetch water, and cook. "

The gap between people's realm is so small. If we draw a passage half a meter wide and five meters long on the ground, you will have no problem walking there.

If there are cliffs on both sides of this passage, can you still walk there? Your liver will tremble.

Why does the liver tremble? Because you will think of the future, you will fall if you walk to the left, and you will fall if you walk to the right.

Actually, you think too much. If you don't consider both sides, the width of half a meter is enough for you to walk a long distance without falling down.

Why do some people do things so smoothly? Often he focuses on the present and doesn't think too much.

Zeng Guofan said: "The future is unpopular. At that time, I didn't mix and I didn't fall in love in the past."

In other words, I don't want to meet anything that happens in the future; Don't make a mess of what you are doing now, just concentrate on what you want to do; When this is over, I will never miss it again.

If a person can really do this, no matter what kind of situation he is in and what kind of work he does, even if he can't do Zeng Guofan's career, I think his life will be invincible.

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