The quality of a person's circle of friends often determines the height of your life. When you have something to do, there is no beauty, but when you have nothing to do, you will welcome spring. When making friends, you should pay more attention to the inner rather than the surface.
Just like a saying on the Internet: Friends who pretend to be friends are "superficial brothers". In fact, friends are more refined than more.
When you are in trouble, it is most likely true friends who save you from danger, and those so-called "superficial brothers" are mostly just spectators. When a woman reaches middle age, she should pay more attention to The quality of your circle of friends, not the quantity.
This is like a mouse droppings ruining a pot of porridge. A bad friend may harm your entire circle of friends.
So, when a woman reaches middle age, she must keep her eyes open and avoid these three circles. If she is already in one, she should leave as soon as possible.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to “break away” and stay away from meaningless circles!
01 The gossip circle that loves to gossip and gossip
Some people like other people’s eyes to stay on them, but how can they draw other people’s eyes to themselves?
For this reason, the "Bagua Circle" was born. Most of the people in the circle are keen on all kinds of gossip. Today they will pick up the hexagrams of this family, and tomorrow they will talk about the hexagrams of that family.
In short, wherever there are people, you can see them chattering endlessly and talking about all kinds of gossip. In fact, it is not terrible to gossip occasionally. What is terrible is that they always like to gossip and constantly tell other people's wrongs. people.
Making friends is also a university subject, and it has its own three principles, which are: Make more negative friends, make beneficial friends, and avoid harmful friends. People who like to gossip about others too much can see It is the third category, it is a harm to friends, it doesn’t matter if you don’t make friends.
There was once a saying on the Internet about people who gossip: "You are not afraid of eating melons, but you are afraid of gossips who keep picking up the melons." ?
Once a woman is over forty years old, she must be careful about this kind of "gossip circle". Otherwise, if you are not careful, you may become the new gossip in the circle and let others gossip about you.
02 A circle that likes to complain all day long and is full of negative energy
A person who loves to complain may, in all likelihood, not be able to manage her emotions well, and, like this People are often full of negative energy.
If you are in the same circle as her, then it is very likely that you will gradually become negative and complain. Because birds of a feather flock together, people flock together.
On the contrary, if you stay away from people who like to complain and are full of negative energy, you will probably be more optimistic, or at least you will not be assimilated by them because you receive too much negative energy.
Everyone is not born complaining, but is influenced by the surrounding environment or assimilated by the people and circles around them who complain.
A person who has sunshine in his heart will most likely have a happy life, and a person who loves to complain will probably live in such a circle. If he stays in such a circle full of negative energy for a long time, It is also detrimental to physical and mental health.
As La Rochefoucauld said: "Mediocre people always complain about things they don't understand." If you want spring to bloom and happiness to accompany you, stop complaining and be more grateful. , it will be very different.
So, if you want to live a better life, you need to stay away from a circle that likes to complain all day long and is full of negative energy. Especially after you reach middle age, there is no need to worry about losing connections in such a circle. , it’s best to have a more comfortable relationship.
03 A circle of emotional confusion and chaotic private life
As the saying goes, a prodigal will never return his money. When people are young, they will inevitably make some mistakes and do some bad things. However, as long as you correct your mistakes in time, it is not too late. As you grow older, your vision will also change. The mind is gradually maturing.
When you are young, someone will tell you if you make a mistake, you are young and ignorant. However, this saying does not apply to people with a mature mind. Therefore, you should pay for your actions yourself.
But there are still some stubborn people. Even though they have already entered their forties, they are still prodigal, do not know how to behave, and their private life is extremely chaotic. Such a person cannot even clean up his own life. It is better not to contact him again as soon as possible to avoid causing trouble.
When people reach middle age, they should stay away from some meaningless circles as soon as possible. Let them sort out some confusing accounts slowly. It is best not to get involved in them and not be quiet.
04 Stay away from meaningless circles
Friends are people who have the same or similar views and ideas. Good friends may affect your life. A good circle of friends is extremely important.
The meaning of friends is to help each other and develop together for the better, instead of dragging each other down and causing trouble for each other. For those three views and life and many other aspects, they are not towards the same. Friends who are easy to develop, don’t bother.
Because once a woman reaches forty, most of them will have a family and start a business after they reach middle age. Not only will there be pressure from children, but there will also be support issues from the previous generation. If at this time , if you meet a bad friend who is out of character, then you can imagine how unpleasant your situation will be.
So, whether it is for your own good or for the good of your family, please stay away from the above three kinds of circles and make your own circle purer and simpler!