After using social software for nearly ten years, I finally experienced someone unfriending me. In the past, watching others being deleted as friends was just to watch the fun, but when it was my turn, that was how I felt.

I am someone who never deletes other people’s friends. Even if you annoy me, I will just be more indifferent and use a tactful tone to tell you how I feel about you and the communication I don’t like. At this time, perhaps many people will understand the method, and their lives will naturally return to peace. I think it's good for the two parties to chat with each other during holidays or when they have things to do. I think it's good to maintain mutual feelings, because you know that these people will not become your close friends in life.

I met someone during an accidental trip the year before. I am not good at rejecting people, so I accidentally gave him his contact information. At first, we just chatted with each other as casual friends. After I knew his intentions, I made it clear that it was impossible, but the other party said that we could be friends. I think it's okay, after all, he won't disturb me.

Maybe it’s because of me. It’s hard for me to make friends. All my good friends who have stayed with me are more than three years old (except for the ones I meet every day, of course), and I have a lot of trouble with my good friends. The number of meetings is only two or three times a year. I was really annoyed when he asked me out again and again, and I would politely refuse, but every time I don’t know if it was because he didn’t understand what I meant or something, but he would insist on calling me, but like this Calling me names doesn't make me feel any emotions, so every chat ends in embarrassment or unpleasantness.

After several tactful rejections, the other party did not change much and would still say some ambiguous words. I also told the other party from the beginning that I particularly hate ambiguity. There is no ambiguity in my case. I don't accept ambiguity, so for the last time I expressed my thoughts completely, maybe without even tact.

Him: "Didn't you say we could be friends before?"

Me: "Your request has exceeded the boundaries of friends."

Him: "Good friend"

Me: "Not that much."

I was really tough in this conversation, just because the previous method didn't work and I didn't want to continue it. If this continues, it will be bad for both parties. I want to make it clear, whether he accepts it or not.

Actually, the few times I met this person before were pretty good. I even thought he might be my good friend. However, every time he made a request later, he would not consider me and would let me I feel rather annoyed.

After getting along two or three times, I felt like a good friend. Just when I thought we could be friends, his coldness suddenly made me confused, and his chatting with people around me made me look away. , and at the same time, the impression returned to the past.

The things he accumulated that left me with a bad impression of him are: 1. When we were both in Beijing, he asked me about my car to go home for a long time, and then he bought the same car as me. car, but he was not there on the day of departure. I always felt that I should ask him what was going on, and then he said he had something to do at home and went back early. I didn't care, nor was I angry. Of course, he didn't explain. 2. As a person with access control, I think it is necessary for me to come back on time, but until he deleted me as a friend, he thought I was lying to him. There is no such thing as access control. Just because I was embarrassed to be too hasty when we met for the second time, I chatted with him for an extra two or three minutes. 3. When I checked the door at 10:30, he actually asked me to go out at 10:25. At this time, I was really angry.

Anyway, I finally told him clearly what was in my heart, and in a more decisive tone. Then I was deleted by the other party. Because it was the first time it was deleted, I was a little caught off guard, but I still felt a little relieved.

I have always felt that my shortcoming is that I cannot reject others well, and I need to cultivate myself more in the future.

Finally, I would like to thank him for the affection he has shown me, and wish each other well~

I wish the other person a happy life~