Adjust yourself and actively face the pressure of real life. You can change negative emotions by distracting yourself, such as going out for a walk, listening to music, playing ball games, or going shopping; You can also cry to your bosom friends. Psychological research shows that crying has a "therapeutic" function. People usually feel much better after a good cry, so you don't have to be shy about crying. You can also keep a diary or call a psychological counseling hotline to let your bad emotions vent. In addition to venting, if you can do something to change your situation, or work hard with adversity as the driving force of life, it will better help you get rid of negative emotions, because on the one hand, the process of doing things needs to be focused, so that you have no time to feel sorry for yourself; On the other hand, in the process of improving your situation, your horizons will become broader, which may give you a new view of life.

Teach you how to decompress.

Dilemma 1: When you feel stressed, you can't concentrate and do nothing. What should I do?

Solution: Try to put a rubber band on your wrist. When you are absent-minded, give yourself a hard bounce. At the same time, imitate the scene of filming and shout "stop" to yourself. This very specific stimulus can help you interrupt your thoughts and get back to what you are doing. Then take nine deep breaths seriously, count them once, and tell yourself after counting, it's not too late to think about what you are doing. Believe it or not, when you really focus on one thing, your stress will be relieved a lot.

Dilemma 2: My colleague (boss) is a difficult person to get along with. He often embarrasses me. What should I do?

Solution: When you feel angry or disrespected, you will definitely find it difficult to cheer up about anything. Try to imagine a scene where you are surrounded by a huge airtight bubble. Just when you were suffocating, a cute dwarf appeared outside the bubble, holding a slingshot and breaking the bubble at once. This idea can make you realize when you feel stressed that you can get out of the conflict and regain control if you want, and you still have more interpersonal relationships to enjoy in your life. Afterwards, you can talk to this colleague (boss) again and ask him if he can care about the occasion and way of communication. If not, and you can't give up the job, you can only comfort yourself by thinking that he must have met too many unhappy things, which is why he is so eccentric. You can also share your feelings with other colleagues and find that others are in the same situation as you, which will make you feel much better.

Dilemma 3: I always feel stressed about the same thing over and over again. How can I stop this?

Solution: A decompression technique widely used by American psychologists is called eye movement (EMT). The specific method is: focus on what you feel stressed until you think your anxiety level is above 6 degrees (10 degrees in the case of being completely unbearable). Then, keep your head upright and quickly turn your eyes between the left and right objects for 25 times. Then, reassess your stress level and drop it by at least two degrees; Repeat eye movements again until the stress no longer affects your normal work. Experts say that the principle that eye movement can relieve stress is not clear at present, but it is certain that the decompression effect will be enhanced every time you do such exercise.

Dilemma 4: When I feel stressed, I have a splitting headache. What should I do?

Solution: Lack of magnesium in the blood can cause blood vessels in the brain to contract, thus causing headaches. Therefore, in order to avoid frequent headaches, you can take magnesium supplements to ensure a daily intake of 350 mg of magnesium. Secondly, muscle tension is also easy to cause headaches. Please insist on 10 20 minutes head and shoulder massage every day. Finally, applying cool oil to the forehead and temples can also relieve headaches.

Dilemma 5: When you feel stressed, you will subconsciously bite your nails desperately. How can I overcome it?

Solution: The easiest way is to keep your hands busy. You can play with a piece of plasticine, or just sit on your hand. You can also apply a layer of almond oil or vanilla oil to your nails. A strong bitter taste can help you get rid of the idea of biting your hand. If all this doesn't work, you might as well bite one finger and watch the other fingers intact, and you will have an impulse not to destroy them again.

Dilemma 6: I will eat hard when I am stressed. This behavior will only make me feel more stressed because of regret. What should I do?

Solution: The best way is to take a nap after lunch, which can recharge yourself well and prevent yourself from feeling tired and hungry later, trying to relieve stress by eating. If you can't take a nap after lunch, please walk for 20 minutes before you want to eat, which is faster than your usual walking speed. This activity can effectively improve the level of β -endorphin in your body. β -endorphin is a chemical that can calm you down and control your hunger. Then, change the food into low-fat food. Stick to it for a few days, and there will be substantial gains.

Dilemma 7: I always want to take it out on my family when I am under pressure. How can I overcome this emotion?

Solution: First of all, you should find out why you always want to get angry with your family. Is it because he (she) doesn't share housework, which makes you have a bad temper because of fatigue, or because he (she) can't understand your feelings or pressure, which makes you feel lonely and helpless? Try to confess your feelings to each other. You know, substantive communication can solve problems better than losing your temper for no reason. If the reason why you are angry does not belong to these two situations, then simply tell the other party and give you five minutes to have fun. Your anger has nothing to do with him. As long as he can listen patiently, he will help you a lot This can not only vent feelings, but also do not hurt family relations. After several unilateral venting, I believe you will get bored and give up.

Dilemma 8: I always feel exhausted at the end of the day. What is the best way to relieve this kind of fatigue?

Solution: First of all, you should avoid those pastimes with side effects, such as watching TV all night until you feel sleepy, or drinking to relieve fatigue, which will only make you more tired the next day. Try listening to music. An Australian study shows that Canon can effectively reduce stress, slow down heart rate and lower blood pressure. Secondly, knitting, sewing or putting together puzzles are all good ways to rest. "Devoting yourself wholeheartedly to a quiet, non-competitive activity can divert your attention and relax you." Experts explain this.

Dilemma 9: Before going to bed every day, I always have a bad tinnitus and my head is buzzing. How can I overcome this obstacle and sleep peacefully?

Solution: Imagine the paradise in your mind: the blue sea and the golden beach. You walk barefoot on the beach, the mottled trees in the tropical jungle step on your feet, and the cool sea breeze whispers in your ear. The air coming from the head is salty and wet, and the sunshine on the skin is warm ... it restores the sound, image and color. Whenever the annoying voice in your ear rings, please imagine that this positive scene will persist several times and your situation will improve a lot.

Dilemma 10: When should I seek help from a psychologist?

Solution: When stress changes your lifestyle to some extent, for example, you become unsociable, more impulsive, or very picky, or your appetite, weight and sleep have changed dramatically, you have to consider consulting an expert. Don't think it's a big deal to receive psychological counseling. In fact, about 60% to 70% of the stressed people can completely get out of the stress state after receiving three courses of psychological counseling. This is because the task of psychotherapy is very simple and clear: to provide you with certain time, space and specific measures to reduce your stress, and your sense of stress has been alleviated under certain circumstances, and this good feeling will soon continue to other times and occasions in your life.