To learn love skills, you must first learn to cultivate these three love consciousnesses

01. Learn to spend money on yourself

Know the biggest ** between men and women *What are the similarities? A woman is willing to spend money on herself, and a man is willing to spend money on her.

But this is also the biggest difference between men and women!

Girls spend money lavishly, but they all spend it on themselves. They dress themselves up beautifully and live happily. They have been investing in themselves, so girls always maintain Powerful attraction. Many men are always frivolous when spending money on themselves, but they are extravagant when spending money on women.

You are reluctant to buy a set of clothes for yourself, but you are willing to buy cosmetics for her. You are reluctant to go to the gym, but you are willing to donate generously when she signs up for yoga classes. You transfer these substances that can enhance your own value to a woman to increase her value. The result is that the value of the woman you licked becomes higher and higher, and your value becomes lower and lower. In the end, the woman looks down on you. That is A perfectly normal thing.

If you are too hard on yourself and don’t invest in yourself, you will never have a chance to make progress. If a person doesn't even love himself, but expects others to love you, that would be a bit extravagant. Only by enriching yourself and strengthening yourself first is the only way to stay competitive.

Spend money and invest in yourself. In the short term, it means buying a good-looking dress, getting a better hairstyle, decorating your appearance, improving your image and external temperament, and making yourself look better. . In the long run, spending money to train skills and improve your diploma can give you more room for progress in your work and career. When you increase your own value, your attraction to women will naturally increase.

02. Being humble will not please girls

Women have a strong mentality. If there are two men with the same conditions in front of her, but one has a humble attitude and the other is generous and confident, She would never consider that man with a mean attitude.

A man with a humble attitude is always cautious and orderly around her. This kind of self-restraint will make him dull and boring. Even if he has humor, it will be suppressed. Therefore, not only can women not be able to satisfy their emotional needs from this man, but they can also feel the basic happiness of getting along with him.

Unfortunately, in reality, there are always many boys who like to pursue girls with a low profile, showing themselves to be very humble, like pets, who come and go when they are called.

Although girls do like to keep pets, you have to know that their feelings towards pets are more like caring for and doting on children. It is a relationship between a superior and a subordinate. But what is the role of men? They are partners, and there is an equal relationship between partners. What's more, a woman would never be interested in treating a member of the opposite sex who is about the same age as her, or even much older, as a pet (if it's a sister-brother relationship, just pretend I didn't mention it). If a man deliberately puts himself down and flatters you, it will break away from your role and run counter to the needs of women.

03. If you don’t seriously like a girl, don’t pursue her

If you are pursuing a girl and just approach her with a flirtation mentality, then you are dating her In the process, you will often doubt the meaning of doing these things, and your heart will bleed for the money you spend.

It’s not that you seriously like a girl and forcefully pursue her. Not only do you lack motivation in taking action, but you also lack overall planning. You tend to do things as you think of them. For example, I wanted to play with her today, but I shamelessly asked her to watch a movie together. After watching the movie, I felt that it was boring, and I ignored her for several days.

Women are very shrewd. She can tell whether every move you make with her is sincere and sincere. If she finds out that you are just joking, she may withdraw and leave, or she may pretend to like you and play with you to the end, hurting each other together.

Having said that, even if you really get her, you will still feel that the relationship between you and this girl is the same. Being together will bring you more fatigue and pain, and there will be no fun at all. . In this state, your relationship will definitely not last long, and it won't take long before you choose to kick her away.

If something like this happens a few times, you will be known as a scumbag before you know it. Once this reputation spreads, no girl will dare to touch you again.

So, if you are not sure that your feelings for a girl are serious, don't try to pursue her. Think about it, going on a date with a girl you don't like on a hot or cold day in the scorching sun and cold wind is like role-playing. Why bother? Wouldn't it be more comfortable to play games and watch TV at home? ? Wouldn’t it be more wonderful to use the money you spend on dating to build yourself up?