How can you gain a social status?

Many people have accomplished nothing, or think they have accomplished nothing. There are still many people who feel that they have failed or are unsuccessful. There are still many people who feel that their lives are boring and mechanical, and they no longer think or move. We envy every successful person in society, the rich people around us, and every luxury car whizzing by. We often have this thought: Damn it, why am I doing so poorly?

Yes, how could I do so poorly? Why is that guy who was not as good as me in my class back then so prosperous now?

Put away your sour eyes and let me tell you how to get along in society.

This article is only for friends who are struggling in society, that is, they work hard, don’t make much money, have low status, suffer a lot of injuries, have no way out, no backing, have a confused future, and lack of goals. a type of person.

1. Make friends.

1. The basic configuration of a mixed society.

A person’s life cannot be lonely for a hundred years. There must always be friends. If you want to be a qualified civilian, as long as you obey the law and abide by the law, then make friends according to your temperament. If you want to make friends, make friends if you don’t. Just let him go. But if you want to make a name for yourself in society, you have to make friends selectively and utilitarianally. For ordinary people, there must be at least one doctor, one lawyer, one petty official, one policeman, one teacher, and one local gangster in their circle of friends.

Why do I say this? In fact, these friends are basically not needed in daily life. Most people’s friend circles are mostly colleagues, classmates, and neighbors, because the friends we usually deal with and the friends we drink, sing, and bathe with are also That's it. Without a certain purpose, who would deliberately date a lawyer or a gangster?

Doctors, lawyers, policemen, teachers, these friends who seem to be rarely used in ordinary times, can save you at critical moments in emergencies or difficulties, and some of them can save your life! When you go to the hospital to see a doctor, you are lucky to have a doctor friend. It is a trivial matter to save the unjustly charged money. Using medicinal materials rationally and contacting a good doctor with superb medical skills that you know in your heart to help you see a doctor is really incredible. Missing help. Everyone should know the role of a lawyer. He can give you a powerful hand when you are in trouble. Needless to say, the police, who often hang out in society, how can they not get their shoes wet, their car is impounded, and their people are investigated. Basically, if you have a friend in the police to help you with these things, you will not suffer much loss. The role of teachers is undoubtedly huge for friends who have children in the future.

Some people say that it is useless to know these ordinary doctors, teachers and police officers. For example, if you see internal medicine, your friends in the facial features department cannot help you; if you want to help your son with English tutoring, the Chinese teacher cannot help you. Those who ask these questions are people who are destined to live at a lower level in society. Don’t these people have their own circle of friends? He can't find friends in the Department of Internal Medicine who are friends in the Department of Otology? None of the Chinese teacher colleagues in the school teach English? When you interact with these friends, you actually also interact with people in his circle of friends. Wouldn't it be a better opportunity for you to get to know more quasi-middle class people?

Officials, gangsters. I think everyone on earth knows the benefits of having an official friend, even a low-level civil servant friend. On this basis, the bigger the official, the better. Correspondingly, the chance of becoming friends is also smaller. As for why we need to have a rogue friend, many people don’t understand. It’s actually very simple. In today’s society, using these friends to solve many problems in daily life is much easier and more effective than any other method, but it cannot be ignored. If used in a restricted manner, its side effects are also quite serious. It is impossible to obtain it without any price. Please calculate carefully how to consider the cost-effectiveness.

As for more luxurious configurations, it would be better to have them. For example, if there are rich people in the circle of friends, there are officials of seventh grade or above, there are bosses, there are second-generation ancestors, there is a very awesome leader, and there are friends. There are Bill Gates and Obama in the circle. That's not called a mixed society, that's called playing society.

2. How to make the friends you want to make.

Nothing is difficult in the world, except for scheming people. It is impossible to make close friends all at once, but if you plan carefully, you can at least make ordinary fair-weather friends. For utilitarian friends, it is also possible to reach the state of "fair-weather friends". .

There is no secret to making friends, only a drinking table and a loving ear. These two are shortcuts to making friends. After a table of drinks, at least they will become familiar with each other, and they will talk to each other. After a few drinks, they will become either fake friends or fake brothers. For other people, following their hobbies and making friends will always hit the mark. It is impossible for a person to live without hobbies. If you think a person has no hobbies, it means you have not discovered it. He likes to eat and drink with him; he likes to sing and dance with him, dance and sing with him; he likes to pretend to be innocent and play with art and accompany him with poems and songs. If you do this a few times, don't worry if he doesn't introduce you as a close friend, at least he is also a like-minded person.

There are two points in making friends, namely willingness and listening. It would be better if you know how to observe words and emotions. Being willing is about money. If you want to make some useful friends, but you are extremely stingy, then I have no choice but to continue to struggle. Another point is listening, which is actually very important. Why do leaders like meetings so much? Because it’s so satisfying to have a lot of people listening to you talk, why can a psychiatrist become friends with almost every patient? Because they can resist the urge to irritate patients who talk incessantly, but can act like they are interested listeners. In an increasingly fast-paced society and among increasingly selfish people, how many people are willing to listen to you whether you are sick or not ***? When you learn to speak less boringly and listen more patiently, your city will be a little deeper and you will have more and more friends.

As for how to get to know these friends from different industries, it sounds incredible, but it is actually very simple. Americans once conducted a very interesting experiment. They wanted to see how many relationships a random ordinary person would have to go through to get to know a certain star in the entertainment industry or a certain upper-level political figure. Countless experiments have shown that a random stranger You can find this celebrity or political figure with up to eight levels of relationships. The relationship is basically similar to a friend's friend's father meeting a celebrity aunt's nephew's neighbor. But one thing is for sure, everyone can find these people through the layers of connections! Stars can still be found through hard work, let alone ordinary people in various industries? It’s still the old saying: Nothing is difficult in the world, it’s just a matter of scheming people.

3. How to weave a network of relationships with yourself as the node.

After mastering so many friend resources, it would be a pity if they were left unused or only used at critical times. Any person who is successful in society must be able to do both. At least on the surface, he is a capable person in the eyes of ordinary people. He can accomplish things that ordinary people cannot do and find things that ordinary people cannot find. people. Such a person is a kind of Spider-Man - good at weaving a web of relationships with himself as the node.

So how to weave this web? To put it simply, it is the magic of shifting things around, using friend A’s relationship to help friend B’s affairs, and then using friend B’s relationship to do friend C’s affairs. The words are good, and they sound beautiful, but in practice they are extremely annoying. If one person is not good enough, both parties will be easily offended. So most people find it troublesome, so most people are civilians. Weaving such a web takes a lot of energy, but once it is formed, you will benefit from it endlessly. When you are building bridges, be more careful with your measurements, act with caution, and make more successful cases. Before you know it, you will find that your ability to do things has exceeded your ability to think.

PS: Never be superstitious about any rules and principles. Shan Weibao, Chairman of the Board of Directors of Road King Infrastructure, once said a few cryptic words: Never bow your head and give in in the face of difficulties. There must be a way for you to walk through, pass through, or bypass any difficulty in the world. I like this sentence very much, and I have solved many seemingly unsolvable problems in the face of difficulties and regulations, but in the end I can always find a way to walk through or bypass them.

4. How to maximize your own interests.

Utilitarian *** The real purpose of friends is to minimize investment and maximize benefits.

Some generous friends like to help others, but when they are in trouble, they seldom ask others for help because of their dignity. This is a kind of complete stupidity. The basic function of friends is to help each other. To a certain extent, mutual help is also a bond to maintain a friendship. You know a friend and you only want to help him and don't let him help you. Do you want to be a thunder feng and kill me? In fact, the more you ask for help from your friends, the more your friends will feel at ease when they ask you for help next time, and your interactions will not feel awkward or awkward. Over time, friends can develop into good friends. This is a subtle psychological relationship, so make good use of it.

Another situation is that your friend A accidentally needs 10,000 tons of smoke-free media, and your friend B happens to sell marriage-free media, but A and B do not know him. What would you do in this situation? Some buddies said that this is not easy to handle, wouldn't it be enough to introduce them to each other? Then I want to congratulate this buddy, you are already half like Wu Bai.

The correct approach is to emphasize all the difficulties in front of friend A, but you will risk your life to help him; to emphasize all the difficulties in front of friend B, but you will risk your life to help him. You play karate, make a profit, and gain two hardcore friends.

For other things, if we follow the instructions, the truth will be exposed in the long run. Therefore, we need to analyze the situation and maximize benefits selectively.

PS: The example given is very simple, but it is not simple to really do everything. Playing with fire and walking on a tightrope can be a skill and a skill.

5. How to treat friends differently.

The basic order is as follows: true friends > excellent friends > good friends > utilitarian friends > ordinary friends.

True friends are a dose of chicken soup for the soul. Everyone needs them, but not everyone can truly have them. Everyone can make one or two friends in his life. If you say that I have more than a dozen true friends, then this friend you have too much heart for.

This kind of friend is someone you can talk to about anything, someone who unconditionally helps you when you are desperate, someone who is number one on your mobile phone number, someone who calls to wake you up in the middle of the night when your car breaks down. He is definitely the one who first comes to mind when you are looking for a guarantor after you are caught soliciting prostitution.

It’s hard to say what the best friends are, such as real estate bosses, municipal party committee secretaries and the like. After you are convinced that he is your friend, this is called the best. . .

Friends are similar to best friends, the kind who are especially playful. Their relationship is second only to true friends, and their number is also very rare. This kind of friend is a friend who can lend him money. The amount of the loan depends on the depth of the relationship.

Utilitarian friends refer to the aforementioned friends.

The scope of casual friends is general, and acquaintances can also be called casual friends. From those who share the same bed with each other to acquaintances, we can call them ordinary friends. Most of these friends cannot lend money, but they can give money in small amounts. Even if they lend it out, they don't even think about looking back.

2. Cultivation of one’s own qualities in mixed society How can one improve one’s social status?

There are different criteria for judging status. Basically, your degree of respect depends on your public image. These images mainly include moral image, rights image (position), economic image (property and How to use it) Among them, morality and communication skills are the most important. When the property and position are not much different, (even if the difference is large, it doesn’t matter) morality changes the public’s general view of you, and communication will enhance your status among the people around you. But Rights and property are a kind of hardware that is the basis, while morality and communication are a kind of platform, just like an operating system or software. Only an excellent software system can better play the role of the machine's hardware. Of course, this kind of software can also be an unscrupulous conspiracy. The trick is just that this kind of person will still be despised in people's hearts. Even if he has status, it is an inflated status. In the end, he has to return to the good side of human nature to gain the respect he deserves from the inside out. How can a mixed society be achieved? Hide out?

The heart must be hard, the methods must be cruel, dare to provoke big things, do things without leaving any roots, cultivate a protective umbrella in the white road, and read more books about the underworld. How to improve social status?

Social status is directly proportional to your power, money and communication skills. If you want to improve your social status, you need to have a certain amount of power, a good income, and many friends. The acquisition of power, money, and friends is ultimately your ability to survive in society! How to have social status

Social status is a recognition you will have after you have made a certain impact and made a certain contribution through hard work. It can also be understood that if you become an official and have certain responsibilities, people will recognize you. Furthermore, even if you are rich, you will be envied by others if you benefit one party. Also, if you make special contributions, you will also be remembered by the people.

So social status is equivalent to people's recognition, and it is also a confirmation of expressing your own talents. The simplest way, such as being the first in the imperial examination in the past, is now to become famous.

I hope you are satisfied... What is status? How to improve social status?

First of all, you must have a positive attitude, have upward goals, and work hard to strengthen your abilities. Then it depends on luck. Haha, how can you behave like an individual in society?

First of all, learn the major well and master the basic skills; then do more and do more hands-on work. I can do what others can do, and I can solve problems that others can’t do by using my brain and hands. Finally, make a group of capable people. good friend.

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