Everyone around us has many friends. When getting along with good friends, the closer you are, the better. As the saying goes, distance creates beauty. Two people who can become very good friends must have the same interests and get along harmoniously, but no matter how good the relationship is, friends should also pay attention to their propriety. I have also seen friends get into conflicts over a trivial matter. From then on, they stopped keeping in touch, causing the relationship to break down. A friend had a little dispute. After the discussion, the key is how to deal with it and how to resolve it.
First of all, friends must be honest with each other. The reason why good friends get along more easily and more intimately than ordinary friends is because of mutual trust. They understand each other easily, tolerate each other, and can think from each other's perspective. When something happens, they usually think of each other and bear the difficulties together.
We sometimes say that we don’t necessarily contact each other every day, and sometimes we don’t contact each other for a long time, but if we contact each other and chat together, it will be as easy as before. When you encounter difficulties, you have to be a really good friend to you. Good friends do not seek utilitarianism, are not hypocritical, and are not pretentious. They open their hearts, communicate with each other, and get along with each other.
Some friends are narrow-minded, sensitive and vengeful, but their advantage is that they are careful and patient. Others will always remember her kindness, forget the contradiction of being nice to her before, and get along well with her. If you make friends with careless people, there will be a lot of friction when getting along, because they can't take care of her psychology in everything.
Lingling was a sensitive girl in college. She and her roommate Yuanyuan have become good friends, but Yuanyuan is a carefree girl who is informal and playful. At the beginning, she often joked with Lingling. She would feel that others were laughing at her. She was not angry on the surface, but she had long been worried in her heart. Usually when the two of them go shopping together, Yuanyuan will be very unhappy if she doesn't take care of her. She feels that she is good to others. Why do others treat you worse than others?
Even so, the two are still good friends and often pour cold water on each other after joining work. Slowly, Lingling became cheerful and less sensitive. At this time, she also understands that not everyone has the obligation to be nice to you. It's your business to be nice to others, but you can't force others to be nice to you. There are not so many twists and turns between friends.
Furthermore, you must learn to discover each other's strengths and do not deliberately expose each other's shortcomings. You must learn to praise others and do not always learn to compare with others. There are no perfect people in this society, everyone has their own unique strengths and weaknesses. We must learn to discover each other's strengths, learn more from each other's strengths, learn from each other's strengths, and make progress together.
When a friend has difficulties, he should actively help others, but not all difficulties should be helped. It depends on whether he has this ability. If he goes beyond his capabilities, he may not be able to help. A true friend will understand when you refuse and will not be able to help him, and will not sever ties with you because you don't help him. Help in any way you can. Only in this way, when you are in trouble, others will try their best to help you.
You can’t judge others behind their backs. For those who treat you well in front of you, those who say why you can't do it behind your back, don't communicate as much as possible, those who are friends, fair-weather friends, don't touch them. Such friends do us no good at all, but if you have any difficulties, they can do their best. After seeing you succeed, they will come to flatter you and are not worth making friends with.