1. The essence of addiction is to use a certain substance or behavioral habit to cover up and escape from unbearable negative emotions.

My son's "addiction" to online gambling not only wastes his precious time, but also consumes money and life! However, the earnest advice and scolding from family members are of no avail. In fact, many "addicted" people often fall into a vicious cycle of "wanting to quit addiction - finding it difficult to resist small temptations - being unable to stop - blaming themselves for failure - trying to quit addiction again."

And they eventually lose confidence in quitting addiction, thinking that they are "hopeless", allowing themselves to indulge in it, allowing it to harm themselves, and even endanger their lives and health. The essence of addiction is indeed a wrong way of self-healing when one encounters psychological distress. Li Songwei, a Ph.D. in psychology from Peking University, said: The essence of addiction is to use a certain substance or behavioral habit to cover up and escape from one's intolerable negative emotions.

2. Think about solutions to practical problems.

But it is difficult to quit addiction. American writer Mark Twain once said: "Quitting smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I have done it 1,000 times." But if you don't quit addiction, you may suffer from it for the rest of your life. Tortured by "addiction", he wasted his whole life and "ruined" his happy life with his own hands over time. Many people struggle repeatedly in the process of quitting addiction. In fact, the reason why they cannot quit addiction is not because they have poor self-control, but because addicts ignore their real psychological needs behind addiction, fall into cognitive misunderstandings, and fail to find a solution that suits them. Addiction recovery methods.

The reason why your son is obsessed with "enjoying" the pleasure brought by online gambling will temporarily forget the troubles and pressures in life, temporarily "shield" his negative emotions, and not think about real problems. Solution. It is harmful, but it can relieve pain in the short term. If you can't find a better cure, you will have to rely on it, which will only have worse negative effects in the long term. Therefore, it is recommended to seek professional help from a counselor. But I'm afraid it will be difficult for you to convince him to grow in this area.

3. By adjusting your perception and relationship with your son, you can influence his awakening.

You must also understand first that this subject belongs to your son, and give him the subject he needs to be responsible for. And you also need to do some personal awareness and growth and maturity. Changing what you can change and accepting what you can't change is the best life. Therefore, you can try to accept your current intimate relationship model, adjust and change your cognition, and you can also try to change your communication model.

In getting along with my son, we should pay more attention to respect and equality, permission and acceptance, recognition and support, instead of preaching and scolding, let family affection and love flow. Reading can let us have The ability to think independently can nourish and enrich our souls, so it is recommended to read some psychology books on personal growth and interpersonal relationships.