Friends are an indispensable part of our lives. With friends, when we are happy, someone will share our happiness, and when we are sad, someone will lean on our shoulders. However, some people have no friends, which has been reflected in their childhood. Such people are often very unsociable when they are young. The other children got together and had a good time, just by themselves. When I was shopping the day before yesterday, I accidentally met an old classmate, so we went to the coffee shop and had a cup of coffee. I could see from her expression that she seemed to be worried about something, so I asked. The old classmate sighed: "Isn't it the child's problem!" This old classmate told me that her son went to kindergarten and is 4 years old this year, but his son has a problem, that is, he doesn't want to play with other children and is very lonely. One day is my son's open class time. On that day, parents accompanied their children to class. During recess, other children get together in twos and threes. Only her son sat in the seat, playing with toys quietly.
She knew that it was wrong for her son to do this, so she encouraged him to play with other children, but the child said that she didn't want anything, and she didn't force it at that time. After returning home, she gave her son some education on this matter, hoping that his son could correct it, but the old classmates were puzzled who thought that the child cried with a wow. What's wrong with the baby? In fact, for each of our parents, we all hope that our children can be lively, happy and sociable, so that we can have more friends around us and be more attractive. Although every child is different, individual differences are great, some children are cheerful and some children are introverted, but if children always like a person, this shows a problem, and children's personality is very withdrawn.
some children become unsociable, not because of the acquired environment, but because these children are born with a withdrawn temperament. Such a child is very delicate and sensitive both in heart and emotion. They enjoy this solitude and feel at ease, so parents should accept the individual differences between their children. Such children are also introverted children, who like being alone, but don't like being busy. Being too busy will make him uncomfortable. Suggestion: Parents don't have to force their children to call someone, nor do they have to force their children to perform or perform in front of others. There are high and low IQs, because their ideas are different from others and understandable, so they will appear lonely, just as we say that geniuses are always lonely. There are also some children who look unsociable because they are born with higher IQ than normal children, so they will see things more maturely. Get along with peers, feel that peers are naive, unwilling to communicate with them, and unwilling to play games with them. Suggestion: Children can learn some difficult knowledge, or make friends with some children with the same IQ, instead of asking them as usual.
There are also some children who are not born lonely. On the contrary, their character and behavior are acquired. For example, parents who are divorced or parents who educate their children are mainly criticized and attacked. A few days ago, a netizen left me a message saying: when I was a child, my mother often made a little mistake by herself, which was very unexpected. Slowly, his character changed from lively and cheerful to timid and afraid that he would do something wrong. Slowly, when he was in contact with his friends, he felt afraid that he would say something wrong and do something wrong. Finally, he simply didn't want to go out and make friends. Therefore, parents' discord, family tension or mother's rough education will make children extremely sensitive, insecure, dislike being close to others, and have no interest and reaction to socializing. Suggestion: Parents should avoid their children when they have problems. Harmony between parents is beneficial to their children's mental health. Children may not be good at socializing, but they should be confident and stable inside, so that children will be more conducive to their future growth. Therefore, children should avoid some wrong practices that make children become unsociable.
If parents find that their children show signs of being unsociable, they should first reflect on whether they are a lonely person or whether there are such people around their children. Children are easily influenced by the external environment. If you have such people around you, you will also be infected with this feature. Over time, they will gradually form this withdrawn character. Having children is a burden. We can take our children to play with other children, and the children play with them. Parents can also talk to their parents about parenting classes. These are all safe topics. Children have a very playful heart, and their nature is to play with them. However, some children are very strict with their parents since childhood, and have no experience of playing with other children. Over time, such a character will be formed. Or some parents think that other children are too naughty to teach their own good children, so they don't trust their children to play with other children, but they don't want their children to communicate with different people after they leave society. It is best to let children learn to interact with children of different colors when they grow up.
Some time ago, I saw a story: a single mother gave her son to her old mother in a taxi, but her mother's feet were inconvenient, so her children could only stay at home every day and see the outside world through a small window every day. Later, when I was at school, I was often bullied by my classmates because I didn't know how to communicate with them. Children are very sensitive. If parents have bad feelings, they think it's their own fault. In particular, some parents will fight recklessly in front of their children, and even say to their children: It's all because of you, otherwise the mother would have divorced. Or sometimes when a child cries, he will say, "If you cry again, there will be nothing for you." . In the child's young mind, I will be left: I am not good, so my parents don't want to be me. Children often feel unworthy. Not worthy of good things and good friends, so children will shrink back and be unsociable. Parents are children's first teachers, and every word, every action and every action of a child has its own shadow.
Our parents must set an example, give their children a sense of security, give them enough love, and let them become sunny children. The most important way of interpersonal communication is talking, so parents should communicate with their children more and teach them how to talk, which will make them more confident. Don't always contradict your children with words, give them more opportunities to speak and encourage them, and they will gradually change. When parents find that their children are withdrawn and unsociable, they might as well start with some small things, such as creating more opportunities for their children to contact with others. For example, let the children borrow something from their neighbors' houses or send something to them, and invite their classmates to visit them on their birthdays. Let children play more games or sports that need cooperation. Just play together. Just play together.
unsociable children usually have no friends, and they don't know what friends mean to them, so parents can encourage their children to make friends, not just one or two. Children will also get the pleasure of having friends in this process, experience the normal communication between people and help overcome their own unsociable characteristics. Children may encounter setbacks in the process of making friends, and parents should learn to enlighten their children. For example, if you want to be friends with others, but others don't want to be friends with your children, you can tell your children that everyone may be rejected, even parents may be rejected. As parents, we must pay more attention to children's performance, so as to find out whether children's personality is defective and help them clear their minds in time. In addition, we should give children a sense of security and let them know that they are not alone. We must remember that the power of setting an example is actually the greatest.