Last month, a friend of mine, XXX, had a business accident and needed money badly. When he called me, I felt a little strange, because our relationship was limited to ordinary friends, so I was a little hesitant. I said, I'll call you later.
I thought about it for ten minutes and decided to lend him money.
Last week, he returned my money and invited me to have tea.
He said, you promised to lend me money, which is really beyond my expectation!
I asked: Why?
He replied: I called you nine times before, and you called 10.
When you say "I'll call you later", I think I need to make a phone call. The number is 1 1. These 10 calls were made by me according to my relatives and friends. The more you scream, the less confident you are. So, it's already a dead horse to call you. Then we talked a lot about this topic. He finally said, if I hadn't borrowed money this time, I would have thought I had many friends. Now I realize how lonely I am.
I have been thinking about this problem for the next few days, and then I decided to find out whether I am as lonely as my friend. Before doing it, I called him and told him what I thought. He smiled: I advise you not to play this game, it will make you feel that you have fallen from heaven to hell!
I picked out the name of my good friend who I think is with me now. These people are all local, excluding those from other places for the time being. They have never had a financial loan relationship with me, and they have nothing to do with my work. We often get together, whether for dinner, tea or bars. Most of the time, I help them a little. They belong to pure friends, and there are nine people in total. It is certainly not very important for them to borrow thousands of dollars from their financial strength.
I sent each of them a short message with similar content: I am in some trouble now and need to borrow X thousand yuan from you and return it within one month. Call me if you can, send a message if you can't, it doesn't matter, I'll wait for your reply.
I sent it yesterday afternoon, and it's not time for dinner yet. I received seven messages and two phone calls. These messages were basically answered quickly, all within an hour. One call was made about 20 minutes after the message was sent, and the other was made about 2.5 hours after the message was sent.
These seven messages are as follows:
Chen: I'm so sorry! I'm in a bit of trouble now, really, or you'll have nothing to say. Excuse me YY, I'm sorry!
Joe: XX, my brother-in-law just borrowed it from me last week 10000. Next month is still ok. I'm really sorry!
Don: I have a hard time myself these days. I lost a lot of money playing mahjong some time ago. XX, I'm sorry. If I want to be in good shape, it is absolutely no problem.
Wang: I'm really sorry. All my money is in stocks. I'm sorry!
Chen: XX, why do you want to borrow money? I just lent someone 65,438+00,000 yesterday. This is interest. You didn't say that before. I'm sorry. Please find another way.
Lu: Sorry, the stock has been locked up recently, and there is no cash in hand. I'm sorry!
Zhang: XX, my son has to transfer to another school when he starts school, and he has to pay 5,000 yuan when he starts school. I really can't help you, please forgive me!
The phone call was made by a friend surnamed Wang and Zhang.
The first call:
Wang: Hello, XX?
Me: Hello, it's me!
Wang: What the hell? Why do you need to borrow so little money? What's the matter with you?
Me: Nothing. My money is in the market and I can't get out at the moment. My brother has something to do and needs it urgently.
Wang: I'm glad nothing happened. Are you in the company?
Me: Ah, yes!
Wang: My son was hit by a bike at school and broke his calf. I haven't been out for days.
Me: Huh? Why don't you listen to your son's broken bones? Can I help you?
Wang: I took a week off, but my wife's damn company can't. I'm going to ask my mother to come and take it for me next week, so leave it alone! You tell me the card number of the bank card, and I'll ask my wife to call you back at work tomorrow.
The second call:
Zhang: Hello, XX, this is Zhou. Oh, where are you now?
Me: I am in the company!
Zhang: Oh, I just arrived at the store and the money is ready. Shall I send it out or will you pick it up?
Me: How dare you send it to me? You know what? I'll go to your place and write you an iou later, and then the money will be credited to my card.
Zhang: Then give me the card number and I'll call you now. What can? ICBC or CCB?
Me: Whatever, if it's convenient for you?
Zhang: Opposite my shop is the Industrial and Commercial Bank of China. Please give me the card number of ICBC.
Last night, Wei and I went to the coffee shop again, and each of us had some feelings. I told him that the two friends who lent me money never bothered me to help them solve anything, but other friends bothered me from time to time, sometimes it was a computer problem, sometimes it was a stock problem, and sometimes it was an investment problem. ...
He asked me, will you tell your friends the truth?
I said: unless I start to lose my mind tonight!
He smiled and said sadly, from now on, you only have these two friends.
I don't remember reading a book. There seems to be a saying that those who have helped you will always help you, but those you have helped may not be. I also smiled, looked at the smoke curling in front of me, and said simply, I know quite well, and there is nothing wrong with not saying it. In this way, if you really encounter difficulties in the future, you will know who to ask for help, so as not to find some unreliable people, and you will feel uncomfortable in your heart and others will feel embarrassed and delay things.
Know what kind of friends you can play with and what kind of friends you can rely on. For those friends who can play together, just have fun together and don't bother them with things; For those who can rely on, treat them well. Although I have many friends, only these people are truly reliable. Cherish your reliable friends and try to make yourself a reliable friend of others, so that you can take root in this city.
Testimony: No matter how popular you are, only a few people can help you when you are in trouble. Carnival is just the loneliness of a group of people. A true friend is someone who can accompany you through loneliness, loneliness and silence. In fact, I have read this sentence before, which seems to be a story from a Jewish businessman asking for help. I also think this sentence is very reasonable. What exactly is a friend? I think the following definitions can illustrate this point well:
1. Good friends have nothing to say together, but they won't feel embarrassed even if they don't talk.
A friend is someone who sees through you and wants to be with you.
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