The principle of making friends is: treat each other with sincerity and don’t act too hastily.
To be friends with someone, you must be on the same path as him. It's nothing more than having the same hobbies, having the same jobs, having the same pursuits, etc. There is no need for you to be too close with people who don't have the same hobbies and the topics you usually talk about are irrelevant, as that will be boring. So if you really want to be friends with him, then you must first find out what he likes, what he likes to talk about, what he likes to do, such as the books he likes to read, the people he admires, his views on things, etc. Try to understand these things, let yourself understand them and fall in love with them, so that you can have something to talk about with him, and the two of you can arouse the feeling of drinking with a close friend and a thousand glasses of wine. On the other hand, if you find out that you are not interested in his hobbies after getting to know them, it will probably be difficult for you to become close friends.
The word friend is very broad. I define friends as outer circle friends and inner circle friends. Of course, the more friends the better, but there are also levels of getting along among friends. Maybe you think that friends are too narrow. In fact, all your classmates can be regarded as friends. It just means that the relationship is not deep. Everyone needs to treat each other politely and sincerely. Finding a confidant is not an easy process, it is difficult. Everyone has their own interests to consider.
I can tell from your narrative that you are very distressed, but I think to a large extent you have subjectively exaggerated your feelings of loneliness and are too anxious. And the way to make friends is not to just rush forward without hesitation. Just like you did to him in the narrative, there is something wrong with doing this. It will make him think that you are deliberately trying to get close to him, etc., which will make him feel uncomfortable. Its alert.
The most important thing in making friends is to "treat each other with sincerity". Everyone has changed from strangers to adults, and the wariness can only be gradually reduced with time. The most important thing to make friends is to learn to treat others sincerely over a long period of time. After all, it takes time to see people's hearts. If you keep communicating sincerely, people will recognize you in their hearts over time. If everyone has *** If they are the same, they can naturally talk together. Only after the baptism of time can you discover whether the other person is worthy of being your friend. Be careful not to act too hastily, as it may be counterproductive and make them wary.
As for introversion and extroversion, I think your understanding is biased. Although there are always people coming and going around extroverts, in fact, most of them are just fair-weather friends, and there are not many real friends. On the contrary, it is difficult to have anyone with whom you can truly relate. There is no distinction between introversion and extroversion when making friends, only sincerity or non-sincerity. The difference between introversion and extroversion is the opportunity to meet more people. If you are in school, there are usually enough classmates for you to build your own social network. With more people, it will be harder to find worthy people.
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