LZ is still studying, and this kind of communication is normal at school. After all, people are not a single individual, they exist in a circle and are bound to be related to others. Schools should not only study, but also hone their own worldly wisdom and accumulate contacts. If you can help, try to help, which is good for each other, and it will also reduce the situation of refusing someone and not daring to ask for help. If you really don't want to do it, politely explain why, refuse, and invite others to eat next time.

The point is your mentality. Helping others is actually helping yourself. You left behind not only human feelings, but also things to learn. There will be more and more things involved, so don't always think about being used. Because of the same time and money, everyone is playing, but you get a different experience. You shouldn't be the only one who doesn't like that classmate who always refuses others, because she always pushes the work to others. It is my duty to do my own thing. Helping others is a kind act. Regarding listening, I think the happiest person is the one who can listen, because when many people are talking, the information you can receive is different, and everyone's things are limited. If you are talking, you will finish it one day. What you hear is your message. And most people like to be with people who listen, so they feel respected. If you want to dominate the conversation, you should increase your knowledge and speaking style. Like-minded people are easier to talk to, and you will feel better if you take part in more activities such as speaking and hosting.

We decide whether we are happy or not. Others may just want to face it directly, but we think too much about it ourselves. Take a step back, that's what the other party said. You can tell the other party to pay attention next time, which is not good, provided that you are friends with the other party. Or don't dump him. Just watch. Anyway, how he talks is his business.

I hope it helps you.