The most difficult problem in college students' life now is interpersonal relationship. At the same time, college students' communication tentacles have also been greatly extended, and they are actively extending outside the school. College students hope to learn something from these. A book without words? Get a real communication experience. But it is difficult for roommates to communicate with each other, let alone go out into the society. The lack of language art and technical skills, as well as cognitive deviation in communication, bring them more blows and confusion. The world of interpersonal communication is wonderful, but many people feel helpless about this wonderful world. Self-centeredness, jealousy, inferiority, loneliness and other psychological obstacles are like an endless net, which traps many people in the net and makes them have psychological experiences such as anxiety, pain, disappointment and fear. Therefore, we must attach importance to the psychological performance of college students' communication and strengthen their correction and guidance.

A good mood is one of the conditions for effective communication.

Emotional changes lead to behavioral changes. Research shows that when college students experience positive emotions, their behavioral goals are often positive and vivid. When college students experience negative emotions, some college students' social interest drops, lacking challenges and self-confidence.

Emotions affect people around you. Negative emotions will affect the normal study and life of other students, so we should be good at adjusting and controlling our emotions.

Emotion affects interpersonal relationships. Emotions are contagious, contagious. Optimistic, enthusiastic, self-respecting and confident people are more popular in the crowd, more easily appreciated by others, and more likely to form good interpersonal relationships. People with low self-esteem, depression and anger often can't get along with others normally, and it is difficult to communicate, thus alienating people.

Second, use the method of self-training to solve interpersonal confusion.

First of all: 1. How much students know about the past; 2. Dilute shortcomings and seek advantages; 3. Break the ice of interpersonal communication.

Secondly, we should master some interpersonal skills, such as learning to listen; Communicate effectively and make a good first impression; The way to make friends, don't just pursue utilitarian communication, mutual benefit is human nature, but don't just treat friends as utilitarian communication, because the communication between friends, in addition to helping each other, has the functions of exchange of ideas, complementary knowledge, emotional comfort and so on. If friends blindly pursue utilitarian communication, then such friends will not last long. In a word, if you make friends properly, your friendship will last forever. On the contrary, the friendship between friends will be like a flash in the pan.

Third, choose friends and choose good friends.

Many people have a misunderstanding of making friends, that is, the more friends, the better. This idea is wrong. The more friends you have, the wider your contacts are, and the more time and energy you need, but people's energy is limited. If you communicate extensively and indiscriminately, you may be busy communicating all day and have little time and energy to do what you should do. Make friends according to your actual situation, especially choose the kind ones. Therefore, when choosing friends, we should make friends with people who are honest, sincere, broad-minded, knowledgeable and like-minded.

Fourth, moderate communication.

Moderation mainly means that all behaviors in interpersonal communication should be measured and appropriate, and enthusiasm, modesty, expectation and frequency should be moderate. Therefore, the communication between friends, regardless of time, frequency and distance, should be kept just right before it can be achieved? It's not finished. It's not finished? Artistic conception

Fifth, communication words are emotional.

The intimacy of interpersonal relationship is more reflected in emotional intimacy, and emotional communication and integration is the key to interpersonal communication. Praising others properly can bring people a beautiful and pleasant emotional experience, and everyone needs to be respected and affirmed by others; Friends choose the right time and the right way to express their praise to each other, which is a catalyst to enhance intimate feelings. At the same time, you should learn to be a hermit, because it is very important to speak humorously and have a strong sense of humor in interpersonal communication. Vivid, vivid and humorous language can not only ease the tense and serious atmosphere, but also better convey your feelings, express some meanings that are inconvenient to explain clearly, and enhance the euphemism and implication of language. And we have to put ourselves in each other's shoes, that is, we have to understand other people's attitudes and emotions. In life, the contradiction between people is often caused by misunderstanding. If you look at the problem from the other side's standpoint, it is easier to find your own shortcomings, understand the other side's difficulties and understand the other side's psychological needs at the moment. Only by being good at understanding other people's situations or feelings can we think what others think, be anxious about what others are anxious about and help others. Learning to put yourself in each other's shoes can help us correctly understand problems, avoid conflicts and win friends.

Interpersonal relationship plays an irreplaceable role in human development. For college students, developing normal and healthy interpersonal communication is of unique significance for them to adapt to college life. What do many students want most after entering school? Friendship? Mutual care, mutual help and mutual trust among students will help everyone adapt to the university life environment as soon as possible, reduce psychological discomfort and gain a sense of security in life and psychology, and all this should start with effective communication. In order to get a good interpersonal relationship, we must abide by certain communication principles, honesty, fairness, equality, mutual benefit and tolerance. Tolerance is a virtue, and tolerating others is actually making way for one's own mind. Only people in a tolerant world can play a harmonious song of life!

To sum up, the communication between people is not random, but has a certain purpose and needs to use certain skills. The better communication skills, the easier it is to maintain close interpersonal relationships. Mastering certain interpersonal skills is helpful to improve your ability to do things.