On the contrary, Sha Yi, the star known as the "national doll", and Angie, the eldest son of Hook, are masters in the social field. The most famous example is that Angie "Lao" went to an international kindergarten with eloquence. What happened?
Dad Sha Yi explained that Anji's international kindergarten didn't accept children from China at first, because Anji always liked to chat with an old woman when playing in the community. The old woman especially liked Angie, and later helped Angie go to that kindergarten through her relationship. In Sha Yi's words: "Angie is alone, and Hook and I really didn't help."
As can be seen in the variety show, Anji is a warm boy, very sensible and considerate, and dares to think and do. He is also a "crazy devil". Anji, who has strong social skills, is a "child of others" in the hearts of many parents. How to cultivate their children with such social skills is the key. After all, a person who is good at interpersonal communication is often more popular with everyone.
Meng Meng is introverted, and she is in a worse mood when she comes home from kindergarten. Mother always asks if she has any good friends around her, and she always hesitates to answer. My mother didn't care much at first. Until the last time, the kindergarten needed children to do manual work in groups of three, and none of them were chosen. The children went home and cried.
Mother was very angry and wondered if the children were bullying the children together. I didn't know until I communicated with the teacher. It turns out that MengMeng is always far away from everyone. Sometimes the child pulls her to play, and she finds a chance to sit back without playing for two minutes. She doesn't seem to adapt to group life.
The vague answer is "I don't even like those games", but her mother asked her what she likes to play and she couldn't say it. In fact, this is a child's unsociable performance, so it will become a "lonely planet" of kindergartens, which needs the guidance of parents and kindergarten teachers.
Every child has a different personality. Some children like to be lively, and they will feel extremely bored if they don't fight with their children for a day. Some children like to be quiet and introverted, like to sit quietly and read books, or watch small ants move, which is especially delicious. But no matter what kind of personality children are, there should be no obstacles to social interaction, and normal social interaction is still important.
Children are relatively young, simple, sometimes withdrawn and have no friends, which actually has a lot to do with adults' behavior. In children's social interaction, parents often have these three misunderstandings, which should be vigilant.
The first one is that socializing is useless, so that the baby can concentrate on his studies.
There are indeed such parents who will educate their children with their own experiences. "No matter how happy they are as children, they will go their separate ways when they grow up, and some people will never see them again. Don't waste all your time making friends. " They think it is useless to socialize, and precious time should be set aside for children to concentrate on their studies. Therefore, children's friends and dating time are strictly controlled or even compressed, and as a result, children become socially incompetent people.
Second, for fear that children will be bullied, they refuse to participate in group activities in cold weather.
Parents who are arranged are always obedient to their children, and the problems that children have in play are often exaggerated, for fear that children will be hurt a little in communication. So they "protect" their children and reduce social interaction, which naturally reduces friction and conflict. Later, I found that the child became extremely obedient and could not stand a little wind, frost, snow and rain.
Third, educate children to "fight back" and be self-centered.
Faced with the "war" between children, such parents often advocate "counterattack" indiscriminately, which not only destroys the friendship of children, but also destroys their social networks and social skills. If a child is always self-centered, he will not know how to cooperate and share, and some will become violent. Such children are definitely not welcome in social activities.
Do children also need to "socialize"? Understand these benefits.
Some parents think that children are young or introverted and will naturally socialize when they grow up. This is actually an excuse for being lazy. A person needs to hone and forge his social skills in dealing with others, which is not innate, but needs to be cultivated.
? There is no doubt that children who are sociable will be happier. Although some people will never see each other again when they grow up, it doesn't mean that socializing is meaningless. Every stage of a child has different growth characteristics, and playmates are the most indispensable part of childhood. Playing with peers will make them feel happy, full and form the purest friendship.
? Gregarious children have initial cooperation experience, which is good for their future growth. People always live in groups. Children who are good at socializing since childhood have a deeper understanding and initial experience of cooperation and compromise, which will be a valuable asset for them to integrate into society and enter the workplace in the future.
? Children who are sociable are usually more popular. Children who are good at socializing and can be in the position of organizer in socializing generally have the following qualities: being responsible, flexible in methods, knowing how to take care of others' feelings and emotions, being good at coordination, being helpful, having clear goals and being easy to implement. With such people, everyone is happy physically and mentally.
If you don't want your child to become a "marginal group" in social activities, parents should cultivate their child's social awareness from an early age and help him become a "social expert".
1, play-let the baby participate in the game.
Playing games is the best way for children to socialize. Parents should let their babies participate in games more, learn to share and cooperate with their children in the game, understand the rules of the game and be familiar with social etiquette. Taking games as a carrier can improve children's social skills invisibly.
2, expression-give the baby the opportunity to express freely.
To express their views and show their importance, so as to gain the respect and recognition of others, no matter what kind of personality children will pursue this matter. Parents should create more opportunities for their baby to express freely, exercise his language expression ability, let him learn to speak in public and enhance his self-confidence, which is also a very important link in social communication.
3, evaluation-correctly evaluate the baby's behavior.
Improper comments from parents can make children lose confidence in social activities, such as "What are you afraid of? You are such a loser "and" How can you be so shy? " This will dampen the child's social enthusiasm, make him sensitive and hurt, and thus hinder his social enthusiasm. Parents should correctly evaluate the baby's behavior, give more encouragement and support, and don't crack down on ridicule.
4, emotions-help your baby identify and distinguish emotions.
Babies should learn to "observe words and observe colors". Parents should teach their children to identify and distinguish their own emotions from those of others, know what kind of actions mean what kind of emotional changes, and thus make appropriate behaviors, know how to be measured, and know how to take care of other people's emotional changes.
5, role model-parents set an example.
The power of example is infinite. If you want to harvest a child with explosive social skills, parents should set an example, use their own strength to influence and infect the child and give him a positive example. For example, advocating a healthy life, exercising more, caring for others, and being full of enthusiasm and strength in group activities will all affect children.
In short, parents should give their children more opportunities to communicate with others, don't deny them casually, teach them some basic social skills, don't ruin their social life with personality as an excuse, and make their social fields more and more clear!