Arguably, I shouldn't doubt what this great thinker said or have other different ideas, but in the face of this view, I really dare not just deal with it, leaving myself disappointed and reasoning, or think I should take it out and say it. After all, a "poor" person like me also needs quality friends.
I don't understand what the word "poor" in a great thinker's mouth means. Appearance, personality, thought, ability and qualification may all be possible, but it may be just a comprehensive evaluation, that is, thinking that this difference is a simple sixth sense.
However, dialectics teaches us that no one or any nation can be completely useless, and there is no bright spot in the whole body. Everyone has characteristics and advantages worth learning from others, which God has considered thoroughly when he created every life.
When I was a child, I loved watching martial arts TV dramas, and there were always platitudes of Jianghu grievances and affection for children. But when I was young, we always thought that the hero in the film would be happy to bite the hand that feeds him, punish evil and promote good, and be inadvertently infected by the legendary swordsman's heroic plot. Is this "good" rather than "bad"?
Not exactly. It's good to have a narrow concept in your heart, but when you are indifferent to human life, have you ever considered that you may have a wife and children to take care of and wait for him to bring back to eat? He just became a thief temporarily because of his temporary life, but you didn't give him any chance, so you cut the gordian knot and left much pain to the people around you. Is this behavior a good thing? After all, he didn't hurt anyone, just to take care of his close wife, children and parents.
Heroic sons and daughters who avenge their families, when you slaughtered hundreds of lives in a mansion, have you ever wondered how many of them lost their lives for no reason without even knowing the feud between you? How to interpret this revenge and whether this orientation is benevolent or not is worthy of our reflection.
There is such a thing in my impression that I can't remember whether it is news or movies. A kind woman adopted a group of homeless children, but as the children grew up and increased, she became more and more overwhelmed. In desperation, she had to steal for a living. How to define whether such a woman is good or bad?
In my opinion, no one in the world can be defined as "poor", and most of us should be called "people with defects in some aspects", because even a madman who kills people without blinking an eye will be gentle and kind when facing his wife, children and parents.
Of course, after all, it is 2 1 century, and some people who were considered "poor" in ancient times may not be established, but even if this definition is established, will they miss a better life because of temporary confusion?
Confucius said: Listen in the morning and die at night. There are few born villains, and most of a person's character is shaped by the day after tomorrow. Whether it is good or bad, the influence of the environment is very important. This should also be the reason why Confucius told everyone not to make friends with the poor, for fear that good people would be affected.
But for those "poor" people, they are not born "poor", just because of the influence of growth environment and various factors, they took a detour by mistake, but this does not mean that such people do not have the right to pursue nobility and virtue.
If the "poor" people lose the opportunity to make friends with high-quality people, they can only be surrounded by a group of individuals similar to themselves. Isn't it very unlikely that such a group of people will grow and progress together?
Imagine if your child was spoiled or neglected as a child and became a child with serious personality defects. Don't parents want him to get lost? At this time, if no one wants to be friends with him and no parents want their children to associate with him, then his hope of getting out of the shadows should be very small.
Our society is a society where people help and support each other. Give me a hand, give you a hand, and we can achieve the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation for more than 5,000 years. As a "good" person with high quality and superior ability, shouldn't we be alone in this peaceful and prosperous time, abandon those who are at a low ebb and let them develop freely? If he only lives in his own "utopia", how can he be considered a good man?
During college, a classmate suffered from mild depression because of academic pressure. He doesn't like to talk, likes to be alone, unsmiling, has difficulty falling asleep, and likes to do some amazing things in his spare time. After a period of treatment, he still didn't get better. In desperation, he had to go back to school again, hoping to infect him slowly with the friendship between his classmates.
Think about it, his mood will undoubtedly only have a negative impact on the other seven people in our dormitory. Under the conditions at that time, it should be regarded as "poverty" in Confucius' mouth. Think again. If other people in our dormitory had followed the great thinker's legacy, abandoned him, alienated him and isolated him, I don't think he would have smiled again as he does today.
There is no ready-made formula for who to make friends with. At most, groups with the same personality are more likely to attract each other.
But because we are all easily infected and driven, wouldn't it be better to start from building a harmonious society, let people with good morals drive people with poor morals, and let good people make friends with bad people?
(the article was written in June 18, 20 12)