There are two important reasons why older young people do not date the opposite sex or find a partner! The first point: In today's society, there are generally more older young men and women. Despite the pressure from their families and society, they still live their own lives. Someone asked, why don't they fall in love or get married?

There are many factors, including their own reasons and external reasons. Some feel that they haven’t had enough fun and don’t want to enter the siege of marriage now. Others have been on countless blind dates but can’t find the right one. Others are busy with their careers and work and have been delayed. In short, everyone has their own differences. reason.

But the following two reasons are factors in their subconsciousness, and perhaps they themselves have not discovered it.

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The first point: Never take the initiative, even if you have a good impression of the other person.

In real life, you may have encountered such a person, that is, if you ignore me, I will never take the initiative to ignore you.

In the past, I heard a friend talk about her cousin, a true academic master, who went all the way to get a Ph.D., and devoted himself to academic research every day, which delayed him. Once, he was forced by his family to go on a blind date. The other girl was in good condition and was quite satisfied with him. When they parted, they left each other's contact information in order to get along further.

But later, the girl complained to the matchmaker, saying that they had never gone out on a date since that meeting. Even the few words they exchanged on the software were messages she took the initiative to send. , he would reply. The girl thought that he didn't like her, so she stopped contacting her.

Later, the matchmaker called and asked what was going on with my friend’s cousin. Was he attracted to this girl? On the phone, he said no, he thought the girl was pretty good and wanted to date her.

The matchmaker asked him, why didn’t you take the initiative to contact them?

His words left people speechless. He said, I don’t think it’s necessary. I write papers and do academic research every day, so I don’t have time to contact her. If she had a good impression of me, wouldn’t she take the initiative to contact me?

Okay! He has long been accustomed to living alone, coming and going freely. Working at his desk every day studying books and fighting academically every day is his normal state. He would rather spend more time on self-improvement than open the conversation window to say hello. In his world, he alone is a team, so powerful that it is indestructible. He doesn't need the opposite sex at all, because even if there is no love to talk about, it doesn't matter to him!

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Second point: There is no way to fall in love with someone easily

There may be many reasons for being unable to fall in love with someone: You have been loved before The injury caused me to close myself off from then on, and I did not dare and would not accept the opposite sex easily. Another thing is that the eyes are higher than the top, and ordinary people can't see them. Or, they always compare themselves with their previous lovers, and always feel that they are not as good as their previous lovers. Gradually, they turn from disappointment to despair, which is very difficult. It's hard to move.

The eldest cousin is naturally beautiful. She has been aloof and aloof since she was a child. Now she is single in her thirties. When she was in college, she also had a vigorous love affair, but in the end they couldn't get together, which made her feel sad. From then on, she always rejected people thousands of miles away.

For a while, a man with very good conditions began to pursue his eldest cousin fiercely, but she always kept a noble and cold look, made things difficult for him in every possible way, and compared him with his lover in college. , and finally tortured the man so badly that he had no choice but to quit.

I close my heart and reject others thousands of miles away, feeling that I no longer believe in love. As everyone knows, even if you have countless reasons, please believe that love will always come, but the fate has not yet arrived.