Prescribe the right medicine to eliminate interpersonal difficulties

In real life, each of us may encounter difficulties of one kind or another in our interactions with others. However, the reasons why everyone suffers are different. Correctly finding out where your troubles come from will help you prescribe the right medicine to solve your own problems.

In the process of interacting with others, a person's ability is different, but this does not mean that people with high overall ability in interaction have no shortcomings in details; People with low abilities are lackluster in every aspect. From a social psychological perspective, troubles in interacting with people can be subdivided into troubles in speech, making friends, troubles in dealing with others, and troubles in interacting with the opposite sex. It should be admitted that these four aspects are independent of each other. Although some people are not good at words, they have many friends; some people are eloquent and well-rounded, but do not pay attention to details and have no real friends; some people are lively and active among same-sex friends. Humorous, but dull and shy when interacting with friends of the opposite sex; some people have many friends, but their cultivation in dealing with others is average. Therefore, if you want to comprehensively overcome the difficulties in getting along with others, you need to carry out targeted training and cultivation on the premise of knowing yourself.

Speech training

First of all, we must pay attention to expressing our true feelings no matter what issue we talk about. Only when you open up and truly express yourself will others become interested in what you are saying. Secondly, we must learn to listen. Since it is a conversation, of course the other party should also have something to say, and don’t just talk about it. In addition, you must constantly enrich your knowledge. Only in this way can you broaden your thinking and make the conversation interesting.

Cultivation in making friends

First of all, we must treat others sincerely and strive to cultivate good personality qualities that attract people. The process of making friends is actually a process of mutual acceptance. You choose others according to strict standards, and others choose you. With good personality and quality, you will be regarded as a close friend by others, and friendship will be easily established. Secondly, you must be good at understanding the real needs of others, stand in others' shoes, and be more considerate of others. If you only take without giving, it will be difficult to maintain a relationship. Finally, you must properly master interpersonal communication skills. In short, you must learn to choose, neither humble nor arrogant.

Cultivating how to treat others

Learn to start from small things in daily life, pay attention to personality training, and pay special attention to feedback information given by the environment. In general interactions, the correct way of dealing with others can receive positive feedback; while the bad way of dealing with others, even if it will not be explicitly corrected, can still get some hints through the small actions of others. Correctly learning to identify these will help you self-regulate in a timely manner. On the other hand, correct communication skills and communicative actions are the product of socialization, and one must actively participate in social activities in order to master and apply them in practice.

Cultivation of interactions with the opposite sex

In terms of interactions with the opposite sex, people’s problems have both innate and acquired factors. To solve these problems, on the one hand, we must gradually expand our circle of contacts in practice, and on the other hand, we must correctly distinguish the relationship between friendship and love in our thinking.

In short, correctly distinguishing the troubles when interacting with others and adopting specific solutions to specific problems will help improve one's social communication skills and make oneself a true "social person".