The first trick: be polite to people, which is an essential quality when dealing with interpersonal relationships. What we call politeness is respect for people. Being polite to others is a sign of civilization, while people who are vulgar, rude and presumptuous are annoying. Of course, being polite to others should be a manifestation of true feelings, but enough is enough. It would be hypocritical if the etiquette becomes overwhelming and a burden. Generally speaking, politeness can create a harmonious, relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. The second measure: equality, tolerance and friendship first, since everyone is a friend, there is no distinction between high and low. Therefore, it is particularly important to respect each other's personality, be friendly and cordial, and have a cordial and relaxed atmosphere. Equality, sincerity, tolerance and generosity have always been noble virtues. And pretentious. Aggressive, cynical, irresponsible, jealous and suspicious, not only stupid, but also disgusting. The third measure: initiative and enthusiasm If you go to a new environment and meet a hospitable person, you will feel warm and relaxed. Then, this person will become your trusted friend. Obviously, the importance of initiative and enthusiasm in interpersonal communication. However, active enthusiasm also has a "degree" problem. Too much attention can make people feel false or cause misunderstanding. In the best case, both the active and passive parties feel comfortable naturally, without being forced. The fourth measure: pay attention to credibility. In the workplace, there may be many women who will be confused. What is credibility? First, abide by the contract, that is, "words must be done, and actions must be fruitful." Whether it's dating, cooperating, or making promises to others, as long as there is an agreement before, you must abide by it and do it before it is announced. You can't break your word. If it is determined that the contract cannot be performed for special reasons, it should also be notified first. If it is too late to tell a story suddenly, you must explain it carefully afterwards and apologize. The second is to be responsible for your own words. In non-joking situations, as long as the other person is talking to you seriously, you should try to be reasonable, accurate and realistic. Adhere to one of the ten basic principles of interacting with people: keep an open mind when interacting with people. It is a sign of a great mind to discuss but not argue, disagree but not hate. Two: Deal with people, don't worry about gossip about you. Remember, people who spread rumors are not the most accurate reporters in the world. Constantly changing. Nervousness and bad intentions are generally the reasons behind people's right and wrong. Third: when interacting with people, lock your mouth and don't try to say all your thoughts. Cultivate low-key and infectious remarks. The way you speak is more important than the content. Four: communicate with people, make fewer promises and ensure credibility. Once a promise is made, it must be fulfilled at any cost. Five: Do things for others, and don't care too much about your reputation. Do your best and wait patiently. Forget yourself and let others "remember" you. Such a success is even more pleasant. Six: When interacting with others, never miss the opportunity to praise and encourage others. No matter who does a good job, praise him. If you need to comment, please help, not despise. Seven: Be a happy person when interacting with others. Don't spread your unspeakable pain and disappointment to the people around you. Remember, everyone has some pressure. Eight: When dealing with people, let your virtue speak for itself. Refuse to talk about other people's shortcomings, and don't spread rumors. These will waste your precious time and greatly destroy your interpersonal relationship. Nine: when interacting with people, care about other people's needs, work, family and affection. Be happy with happy people; Sad with sad people. Everyone you associate with, no matter how humble, can feel your attention to him. Ten: Be careful with others' feelings. Teasing and humor at the expense of others is not worth it, even a little bit may hurt others. Principles of correctly getting along with others 2' 8 Skills of getting along with others 1. Rule 1. Encourage others as much as possible. Praise his achievements ―― even small ones. Praise is like sunshine. Without sunshine, we have no nourishment for growth. 2. Let others save face at any time. Don't embarrass anyone, don't belittle others, and don't exaggerate their mistakes. 3. Only speak well of others behind their backs. 4. Praise the good deeds of others. When praising, you should fully explain the reasons. 5. Always quote other people's noble thoughts and motives. This is also a compliment and encouragement to him. 6. Try not to criticize others. When you have to criticize, you'd better take an indirect approach. 7. Don't brag about yourself, but admit that you have shortcomings. If you want to make enemies, hit others everywhere. If you want to get friends, you must be tolerant. 8. Apologize in time when making mistakes; When you are to be blamed, you'd better take the initiative to apologize. 9. You should give more suggestions instead of giving orders. This can promote cooperation and avoid conflicts. 10, when others are angry, you should show understanding. The anger of others is often just to get your attention. 1 1. Speak as little as possible. Give others a chance to tell and be a good listener yourself. 12, you shouldn't interrupt others, even if they say something wrong. 13, you should try to analyze things from the standpoint of others. The Indian said, "First of all, you should walk a long way from the standpoint of others." Don't forget to ask yourself: Why did he do it? Understanding means forgiveness. 14, try to feel good when you speak, including on the phone. 15 You shouldn't always be right. Admit that you may be wrong ― this will avoid all quarrels. 16, often give some small gifts-you can find ways to make others happy without any reason. 17, in case of conflict, keep calm. You should listen to each other's opinions first, try to find similarities between them, and thank him for his inspiration. 19, keep smiling. Nothing needs to smile more than those who never smile at others. 20. Always address each other by their full names. This shows your respect for him. 2 1, learn to look at things from each other's point of view. Ask yourself: What does he really need? How to satisfy him. Second, a good relationship is a person's great wealth. With it, my career will be smooth and my life will be satisfactory. But it won't fall from the sky, but it needs your efforts. 1, respect others as the saying goes: "As you sow, you reap." Applying this simple philosophy to social interaction, we can say that you respect others everywhere, and the reward is that others respect you everywhere, and respecting others is actually respecting yourself. 2. Helpful people need care and help, especially cherish the care and help they get in difficulties, and regard it as a "timely help" and a helper as a true friend and best friend. Helping others is not necessarily material help. Just a little effort or words of concern can excite others for a long time. If you can help people who have hurt yourself, you can not only show your broad mind, but also help to "turn your enemy into your friend" and create a more relaxed interpersonal environment for yourself. 3. Be grateful. In life, the relationship between people is the most subtle. If you don't feel the kindness or help of others, or you are indifferent, you may have all kinds of resentment. Always think about it: you feel relaxed at work, maybe someone is carrying the burden for you; When you are enjoying the sweetness given by life, maybe someone is working hard for you ... living in a huge social group, there will always be people who are worried about you and think of you. People who enjoy emotional rain and dew should not be careless, but always be grateful, which will make interpersonal relationships more harmonious. The emotional bond will be stronger because of gratitude; The tree of friendship must be nourished by gratitude to thrive. Because of gratitude, you will become a good colleague, a good friend and a good family. 4, the same frequency * * * vibration proverb says: "Two people generally have a heart, and money can buy gold; One person is average, and it is difficult to buy a needle with money. " There is also this law in acoustics, which is called "same frequency * * *" vibration. If people can actively find the sound point of * * * and make their own "natural frequency" consistent with others' "natural frequency", they can enhance friendship and form friends, and "same frequency * * *" will occur. * * * What are the ringing points? For example, other people's correct views and behaviors, hobbies that are beneficial to physical and mental health, etc. , can be the singing point and support point of your friendship. So, you have to respond and communicate. When others are smooth sailing, you should cheer for them; When others encounter difficulties, you should regard others' difficulties as your own. These are the proper meanings of "same frequency vibration". 5. Sincere praise Lincoln said, "Everyone likes praise." Praise is unique because of its "beauty", which shows that the praised person has something extraordinary; Second, the word "praise" shows the friendly and enthusiastic attitude of the admirer. John dewey, a human behaviorist, also said: "The most far-reaching driving force in human nature is that hope is important and praised." Therefore, we should affirm, praise and encourage the achievements and progress of others. When others have something worthy of praise, you should give sincere praise without stint. Let people's communication become harmonious and warm. It can be said that praise is the source of friendship and the ideal adhesive. It will not only unite old acquaintances and friends more closely, but also connect people who don't know each other. 6. Humor Everyone likes to associate with people who are witty and humorous, rather than those who quarrel with others or are unhappy and boring. Humor can be said to be a magnet that attracts everyone; It can also be said to be a lubricant, turning troubles into happiness, turning pain into happiness and turning embarrassment into harmony. 7. Being generous and tolerant of frequent contacts between people will inevitably bump into each other. In this case, learning to be generous and tolerant will win you a green interpersonal environment. You know, "to err is human." So, don't dwell on other people's faults. The road of life, because of generosity and tolerance, will get wider and wider, while narrow thinking will push you into a dead end. 8. Sincere apology Sometimes, if you are not careful, you may break someone else's beloved vase; If you are thoughtless, you may misunderstand the kindness of others; Your unintentional words may greatly hurt others' hearts ... If you accidentally offend others, you should sincerely apologize. This can not only make up for mistakes, resolve contradictions, but also promote psychological communication between the two sides and ease relations. Never take an apology as a shame, it may cost you a friend. Of course, if a person wants to maintain good interpersonal relationships, it is best to minimize his own mistakes. Ceng Zi said: I visit myself three times a day. If you want to have a good popularity, you must constantly review your mistakes and improve your self-cultivation. The principle of getting along with people correctly 3 Seven conditions for getting along with people First: Be honest with people, be kind, have a good heart, be disciplined, have Fiona Fang, be polite and have love, and others will feel warm and comfortable when they get along with you. Second: useful. You can bring practical value to others. Third: I hope to get along with you to open my eyes and enlarge the pattern. Fourth: you can listen to other people's ideas and express valuable opinions. Fifth, tolerance can fully understand the value of others and appreciate their characteristics. Sixth: fun can bring people a happy mood, and being with you is not boring. Please remember the above points, so that more people are willing to be your friends. With the next point, it will attract more talents. Seventh: If you know how to make friends with your heart, your contacts will inevitably become golden veins with unlimited positive energy. When things happen, you don't have to tell everything you know, you can't believe everything you see, and you can digest what you hear on the spot. Screening and filtering precipitation, over time, the gas field is self-contained! Powerful energy will surely achieve great things!