My husband and I were introduced to each other. He is nine years older than me. He is a local and I am a foreigner. I may have been insecure since I was a child, hoping to get married a little older than myself, so I chose my current husband, who is really responsible for others. I thought to myself, as long as he is good to me, then we will be dating for a while.

On May 1 2005, we got married and we were naked. We had a meal with our relatives, even if we were married. After marriage, my life is very dull. Two years later, I asked my husband for a child. He said we have nothing at present, so I'll pretend it never happened. But my mother said how old you are, and you don't want to have children, and I don't have the money to keep my mother quiet, so it has been delayed until now.

I'm 36, he's 45, and we don't have children yet. He went out to work this year. I was bored at home alone, so I played WeChat and met the doctor. He is a southerner, three years younger than me and unmarried.

At first, we just talked, and then we got closer and closer. He broke up with his girlfriend for five years and couldn't let it go before. In the past two years, he has no time to look for a job. He said that he is in love with me now and wants me to divorce and marry him. I fell in love with him too. What should I do? How should I face my husband?

Reply:

1. Before marriage, there is no romantic love and no decent wedding. At that time, your requirements were not high, and what you wanted was simple. After marriage, you just want a child of your own to satisfy a woman's instinct. In fact, the requirements are not high. However, when these basic needs can't be guaranteed, under the impetus of time, your heart slowly becomes tormented, and your energy has nowhere to be released. Therefore, for so many years, the unchanging life has already made you deeply tired. It is even more difficult for my husband to go out for a long time and live alone in an empty room. To this end, you choose to use chat tools to spend those lonely and boring days and nights. However, you don't know that chatting is risky, so be careful when making friends.

Now that you are in love, I don't know if you met in a chat. If you just stay in the romantic reverie stage, if you just rely on a photo, a video, some sweet words and romantic relationships, this seemingly unexpected and beautiful relationship, you'd better not regard it as anything reliable, because it is too realistic, because the distance between ideal and reality is too great.

Please don't forget who you are now. You are married and have a husband. Who are you now to say love to other men and unmarried young people? You don't have this freedom. Unless you really choose to divorce your husband and let yourself return to a single state, how much confidence and confidence do you have in this relationship? Do you dare to take this risk again?

4. Since I know that I can't face my current husband, I'd better choose to return to my husband in a proper way and stick to my loyalty to her husband and marriage. Or simply break up with your husband and find your future again. I can't enjoy the treatment of my husband here, but I want to occupy unmarried young people there. Calm down and think about it. What do you want? You have the right to choose love and happiness. No one will force you to be with the person you don't love, and no one can stop you from being with the person you want to love for life. The key is to look inside you. Everything is well thought out, and your decision is not wrong, but you need to take all risks for your choice.