Cai Gentan, Wisdom of Chinese Studies: Know the truth of "cautious and independent communication" and choose to associate with excellent people.
There is a saying in psychology that to understand a person, you need to observe his friends and know what kind of person he is.
The so-called same-sex attraction, a person has the same characteristics, and the people he attracts are similar.
As we mentioned in the previous article, when a person is in contact with another person, the initial premise is that he must agree with his feelings in his heart and be similar to the other person before he will deliberately approach.
If they are not the same passers-by, most people hold different mentality and do not seek common cause. Different personalities and feelings can't really blend together.
The so-called "people who are close to ink are black", and what kind of people you come into contact with will have a great impact on your life.
Cai Gentan, Wisdom of Chinese Studies: Know the truth of "cautious and independent communication" and choose to associate with excellent people.
Many people know that at a certain age, people should learn to screen, which is the so-called "careful communication", that is, constantly screen their circle of friends and give up some people they should not contact.
Some people have many friends all their lives, but they are all fair-weather friends. Some people only have three or two confidants in their life, but it is the greatest value to really talk together. This is the person who should contact most. Having some excellent people around you can also help you grow up, make progress together and add a lot of value and significance to your life.
In "Caigen Tan", I said a sentence like this: Teach disciples to raise daughters, be strict with contacts and make friends. If you get close to bandits, it will be an unclean seed in a clean field, and it will be difficult to plant a golden harvest for life.
Educate disciples to be as cautious as raising daughters, strictly limit her access and pay attention to her contacts with friends, because once you make friends with bad behavior, it is like sowing bad seeds in fertile fields, and you may never grow good crops.
Cai Gentan, Wisdom of Chinese Studies: Know the truth of "cautious and independent communication" and choose to associate with excellent people.
When educating children, you should pay special attention to this and don't ignore the fact that children make friends with others.
Now is the Internet age, the range of making friends is infinitely expanded, and there are all kinds of people around you. In the face of these people, we must let the children know how to identify. What kind of people should be associated with, and what kind of people should be eliminated, so that children can understand such a truth.
People near Zhu Zhechi and Mexico are black. If you associate with people with low quality and bad conduct, it will have a great influence on children.
We should educate our children to associate with people with good conduct, and we should not treat them lightly in the process of interaction. People with bad conduct should break off contact as soon as possible. If we ignore this point, children are likely to go astray in their later lives, and it will be too late.
Cai Gentan, Wisdom of Chinese Studies: Know the truth of "cautious and independent communication" and choose to associate with excellent people.
Then when we educate our students, we should also make them understand the truth that when interacting with people, we should know how to screen friends.
Then it is more practical for us to apply such wisdom to ourselves. The first thing we should do is to learn self-discipline and master this wisdom by ourselves. When interacting with people around you, we should screen some people with high quality and good conduct, and stay away from those with low quality and bad conduct.
Because you associate with some excellent people, you can bring more value and meaning to your life.