1. Zengzi said: "I will examine myself three times in a day: Do I seek to be unfaithful to others? Do I not trust my friends when I make friends? Do I not practice what I preach?" (No. 1 of "Xue Er")

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Translation: Zengzi said: "I reflect on myself several times every day: Am I doing my best when doing things for others? Are I honest when interacting with friends? Have I reviewed the knowledge imparted by the teacher?"

2. Confucius said: "If Zuo Qiu is aware of his shameful words, his charming appearance, and his courtesy, he is ashamed of him. If he hides his grudges and is friendly to others, Zuo Qiu is aware of his shame and Qiu is also ashamed of him." ("Gong Qiu") "Ye Chang" fifth)

Translation: Confucius said: "Sweet words, smiling faces, nodding and bowing, Zuo Qiuming thinks it is shameful, and I think it is shameful; making friends with people with resentment, Zuo Qiuming thinks It's shameful, and I think it's shameful."

3. Yan Yuan, Ji Ludai. Zi said: "What do you say about your aspirations?" Zilu said: "May your chariots and horses be dressed in light fur, and be with your friends. , I will do it without any regrets." Yan Yuan said: "I wish there would be no cutting off the good and no hard work." Zi Lu said: "I wish I could hear my ambition!" The words said: "The old will be at peace with it, the friends will believe in it, and the young will cherish it." ( "Gongye Chang" fifth)

Translation: When Yan Yuan and Ji Lu were serving, Confucius said: "Why don't you tell everyone your wishes?" Zilu said: "I would like to share my chariots, horses, and fur coats with my friends. It's useful, and you won't regret it if it breaks down." Yan Yuan said, "I hope I can do it without boasting about my merits or publicizing my merits." Zilu said, "What is your wish?" Confucius said, "I hope the old man can enjoy peace and happiness. , children can be cared for, friends can trust me."

4. The Master said: "The Lord is loyal and faithful, and if your friends are not as good as yourself, then don't be afraid to correct them. ("Zihan" 9)

Translation: Confucius said: "Everything must be based on loyalty. Don't make friends who are not as good as yourself. Don't be afraid to correct your mistakes."

5. Confucius said: "Three friends will benefit you and harm you. There are three kinds of friends: friends who are straightforward, friends who are forgiving, friends who are well-informed, it is beneficial; friends who are flexible, friends who are gentle, friends who are sycophants, it is a loss." ("Ji Shi" 16)

Translation: Confucius said : "There are three kinds of useful friends, and three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make friends with integrity, friends with integrity, and friends with extensive knowledge. Make friends with flattering people, make friends with people who flatter people on the surface but slander people behind their backs, and make friends with good people." People who talk sweetly are harmful."