Why is blind date always unsuccessful?
First of all, people's cognition of blind date may think that blind date is only one-off, but it is not. Love at first sight may exist, but most people need a certain emotional foundation to fall in love, let alone get married. Even if it's just love, it takes a while for two people to get to know each other. When two people don't know each other, they go up and introduce each other. If they like it, they will never meet again. It seems that most people date like this at present. Actually, your blind date can be less serious. I just made new friends and showed my true self. If both sides think we can talk, this blind date can be regarded as a meeting. And get to know each other. If there is no fate, it is not a bad thing to be friends in many places. Secondly, people bring too much purpose to blind date. I believe that many people have more or less helpless choices about blind date, but they can't find the right one based on their own conditions or circles. It may be because they have high vision, or it may be because they are not good enough. In short, some excellent people have been left behind. There is no denying that there are some excellent people in the blind date, but how many of these people meet all the conditions? Because everyone wants to meet some conditions through blind date. For example, some women want to marry rich and powerful people through blind date to make their marriage life easier, and some men want to find someone who works hard and needs beauty. what do you think? Generally, there will be no such conditions left, not to mention that you will compare yourself with the blind date. Inferiority, there will be this feeling, that feeling, it is almost impossible to satisfy. Finally, if possible, no one wants to go on blind date. Blind date only provides a platform for men and women to get to know each other. Whether we can be together in the end depends on whether we are suitable for each other. For those who put their conditions on the table when dating, marriage is more like a transaction.
Why is the blind date success rate low?
Blind date, keep a natural attitude, don't hold too much hope for blind date. After all, the first meeting is not love. In the process of blind date, don't believe anything the matchmaker says, and don't imagine each other too perfectly. For example, someone told you that there was a girl who was beautiful and gentle. You will be looking forward to it, waiting for you to meet it. You must feel disappointed, unattractive and anxious to know more. On the contrary, those introductions all say that they are average-looking and boyish. After meeting, you will feel ok, your skin will turn white and start looking for each other's advantages. So, don't set your expectations too high. Blind date can't be achieved in one meeting. It is best to get along with each other from the perspective of friends and get to know each other, so as to discover each other's advantages. Always treat your blind date with a married attitude, and you will be disappointed. You always feel that this family is poor for a reason, and that this family is not beautiful. It's hard for you to succeed.
The purpose of blind date should not be too strong, just like on TV, many people on the Internet always go straight to the point. Do you have a room? Do you have a car? Do you have any savings? How much is the income? What do you think of me? Such a thing will scare others away and make others have a bad impression on you. There are also some older men and women who are very exclusive to blind date. They always think they are excellent. It's not that no one wants it, but that I haven't met anyone I like. Always under the pressure of parents, we go on blind dates. Blind date just doesn't matter, it won't succeed. For blind date, many people are at a loss for the first time and don't know how to express it. If you meet someone who likes you, you should express your thoughts more actively. No, it's over before it starts. There are also some people who hold the bad mentality of "getting rich" and "looking for beautiful women". After a few short setbacks, they often have unnecessary negative attitudes towards love, marriage and even life. There will always be people who are unsuccessful in blind date, and it is not excluded that there are leftover women who want to marry into the giants. Yes, marry a rich man and become a phoenix. Because I haven't found the ideal rich man yet. So always willing to be alone, then there is no good thing in this world for nothing. If there is, don't believe it. The giants may not respect you, but they all end in failure. So, in any case, please be yourself and believe in the beauty of love. I believe there will always be someone worth waiting for.
It is for these reasons that blind date failed.
1. First glance is very important.
The image of the first blind date is very important. When we first met, both sides looked at face value and figure. Only when both face value and figure are acceptable, will you have the desire to know more. There is a saying on the Internet: Your appearance determines whether I want to know your heart, and your heart determines whether I want to deny your appearance. Visible appearance is the first impression. If the appearance does not meet the requirements of the other party, then the other party will have no patience to chat with you. If you think you look good, you will have a better understanding. People who can come on blind dates are not young. Most of them have some emotional experiences and are stubborn psychologically (one of the reasons for being single). Everyone has a vague standard in mind. Many times, it is decided at a glance whether to continue or not. I was rejected by a girl last week, and the blind date arranged by my family only happened once. Later, in a chat, the girl directly said that she was not her type, mainly because she looked fat, insecure and casually dressed. Anyway, I was blacklisted at first sight. In fact, whether a blind date can be successful is sometimes the first decision. After all, it's about finding someone, not chatting. Everyone has a set of standards in mind. When others ask, you can't be specific, but you should always look for it according to the standard. Therefore, many blind date objects just meet each other and hate each other late, which can only increase the probability of fate. Failure is normal. After all, you have to see everything at first sight. You may be excellent, but when you don't see it at first sight, you are next. It's over before it starts.
2. Chatting is awkward.
Blind date, everyone is not young, all for the purpose of getting married. Two people who don't know each other basically have nothing in common, and of course there are even fewer common topics. When dating, women will directly ask men questions: how big the house is, how much the car is, how much money is saved, how much the monthly salary is, and so on. Moreover, men will ask women direct questions: how old they are, how many people they have talked about, whether they want to have children and so on. When there are some straightforward problems in the blind date scene of two people, it will give people a feeling of transaction. Once a topic is asked too sensitively, the blind date is over. When it comes to blind date, it is basically a real question. There is no romantic love, but more straightforward transactions. Since two strangers are blind dates, they certainly didn't know each other very well before. If two people are really familiar with each other, just make an appointment. There is no need to bother to date each other. For two strangers aiming at blind date, there must be more direct conditions to talk about, which is very sensitive in many cases. For example, boys with little income don't like to ask about the income of houses and cars, and girls who are not tall reject height and so on. Naturally, blind dates often end in unpleasant ways. The meeting didn't work out, let alone the later development. Basically, as soon as we meet, the next one comes, or it ends before it starts.
The blind date is chosen by the other party.
Most blind date targets are introduced by acquaintances. Many parents and friends just think that you are "suitable", but it is not necessarily suitable. To some extent, the reason for arranging blind date is that others think you two are suitable. It is often said that nowadays, girls demand cars and houses with high incomes, but the next question is, what should you do to deserve such a good boy? In fact, blind date is also a mutual choice. Girls can ask boys to have a house and a car. Boys also have requirements, such as not being too short in height, not too bad in appearance, not too low in education and so on. Sometimes blind date is a process of picking people from each other. After all, marriage is a lifetime thing, so be careful.
Why is blind date not easy to succeed?
The first reason is the behavioral logic of conditional supremacy. This kind of behavior logic has family intervention and its own fantasy. Most of them are hard conditions, such as family situation, only child, job, mortgage, education, height, appearance and even animal sign. Emotion is an inner choice, which is constrained by many conditions, and many feelings are strangled in the cradle before they start.
The second reason, explained in one sentence, is that purposeful interpersonal communication is always guarded, and it is difficult to reflect a person's authenticity. Think about campus-style love, often because you have a good impression on someone, and then you want to attract the attention of the other party and show your Excellence in front of the other party. In other words, this is a gradual process. Blind date is introduced by an acquaintance, chatting in a room; Or have dinner together through the introduction of friends. Parallel worlds suddenly have a temporary intersection, and this feeling of having nothing to say is a bit embarrassing. Especially purposeful chatting always makes people shy. For example, if someone sells you a product, you will wonder if he wants you to make money. For example, if you go to a company for an interview, you will want to show whether you are excellent or not. This result-oriented behavior makes it difficult to tell whether the pursuit is sincere or objective.
Third, fragile emotional ties. I don't quite agree that the failure of blind date is attributed to the word "fate has not arrived". In fact, the so-called fate means that you are determined to do one thing and fall in love with someone. However, the cognitive and emotional ties of the blind date are inherently fragile. It may be because the other party refused the invitation coldly, or even stopped contact with one eye in a word. You may think that the other person's emotional intelligence is low, but when you think about it, we are all strangers, and it is really not easy for people to use such advanced things as emotional intelligence. In short, blind date is a matter for both parties, and it is difficult to pursue it as freely as campus spirit. Everyone is in a situation of mutual choice, hoping to share happiness together, instead of becoming a burden to each other. Less routines, more sincere and careful communication, positive sunshine and hard growth may be the reasons for the success of our blind date.