Question 1: How can we be cautious? First of all, why do you have to be cautious and dishonest? Being fooled must be a bad thing! Some people don't even want to deal with it, so why isn't it worth it? Frankness is because you are a kind-hearted person, a very simple person, and a very sunny person at heart, so everyone around you is also kind-hearted, so you are not too defensive, but you have the value of being used and cheated, so you Being tricked by those who have a dark side in their hearts. People with kind hearts come across as warm, gentle, and approachable. And some people are like a hedgehog. Although they will not hurt you intentionally, the way they approach you will indeed hurt you. One is to use his light and heat to feel everything about you. The other is that you need to work hard to understand him before you can get close to him. The former will be very harmonious to get along with, while the latter will be very tiring to get along with. On the contrary, you will be attracted by him accidentally. Stabbing. If you don't speak, it will be very bad, because if you don't speak, others will think that you are complicated, and you will not feel comfortable interacting with them. Getting along is also a feeling, so others may not waste their time on someone who still needs to guess his inner thoughts. of people. Of course, even if you hurt others because of your impulse, I think people who truly understand you are still willing to be friends with you. After all, you are a kind and innocent person. Impulsiveness is a habit or a habit. Because you care too much about your own needs and inner thoughts, you often treat yourself differently from others. You feel that your own interests are the most important, your own face is the most important, and your own ideas are the most important. important. Other people’s things are secondary. So coupled with my very straightforward personality, it evolved into a habitual impulse. And often this kind of self-impulse is the most avoidable. Because everyone is very self-centered, they just act a little reserved, more or less talking about how the other person is doing, and caring about what is right before considering their own interests. The essence is the same, but the method is different. It is impossible to completely change a person's personality. Even if you seem to have changed one day, it will probably return to the same state when you reach a certain environment, so you can only make some adjustments and polishing. Learn to look at things from the perspective of others first, and do more empathy. There are several things that Chinese people should pay attention to: face, dignity, interests, desires (property, beauty, fame, food, sleep), fear, etc. In addition, always treat yourself as a student and interact with others with a humble heart. First, you can make more friends, and second, you can kill your own impulses well. When you can discover your shortcomings and shortcomings, you don't go to theory and vent, but to seek solutions. And everyone basically likes to do things as a teacher. You not only make him feel face-saving, but also make him feel that you are very good. Good contact. Kill multiple birds with one stone.

Question 2: Teach you how to grow your "eyesight"!!! After people interact with others for a period of time, they will have an evaluation of others, either praising this person's good eyesight, or commenting on that person's bad eyesight; including I also have a comment about myself that I have a good mind and have never done anything harmful to nature in my life. But what does it mean to have a good heart? A person with a good heart and a good eye is a person with a good heart. Everyone thinks they are righteous, but in fact they can't help but have bad intentions and bad eyes.

For example, when a few people get together to have a family time, most of them talk about other people's shortcomings and mistakes, and almost no one talks about who is good or who is good. The daughter-in-law always dislikes her mother-in-law for being incompetent, secretly giving something to her sister-in-law, saying bad things about her behind her back, etc.; the mother-in-law is also critical of her daughter-in-law, saying that she does not support herself, and if she does not agree with her, she is not hers no matter what. Some people say that his neighbor is richer than his and looks down on him and likes to make sarcastic remarks; others say that his colleagues flatter him, please his boss, give him gifts, etc. After listening to what they said, I realized that no one was a good person in their hearts or eyes. Because they always talk endlessly when they say others are bad, but if they are asked to talk about the advantages of others, the kindness others treat them, and the help they give themselves, they become silent. Ancient books say that when the heart is full, the mouth will overflow. When the heart is full, the mouth will overflow. Their mouths are not good, which fully proves that their hearts are not good and their eyes are not good!

What is the reason for not having good intentions? Why can't we remember other people's good things, but clearly remember other people's bad things? For example, some elderly people claim that their brains are hard to use because of their age. If they mention what XX person did back then, he can tell it clearly and vividly including the time, place, people, and plot.

Because others have touched her interests, when she is no better than others and others beat her, she will be filled with anger and hatred, which is deeply imprinted in her heart. When she sees others again, she will think of the bad things others have done. , no matter what others do in the future, he will see it as bad, and even sometimes he will think that others are malicious even though they are kind-hearted. The hearts of these people are so bad. Those who offend their own interests are bad people, and those who do not offend their own interests are good people. Even if everyone thinks someone is bad, but because he has not offended himself, he will think that person is a good person; if everyone thinks he is a good person, but because he has inadvertently offended himself, he will think he is a bad person. Just like the underworld gangs, they are not exclusive to each other and they all look good to each other, but are they really good? However, it is absolutely wrong to stand on the standpoint of justice. Another example is that the police themselves are good, but from the perspective of thieves, they have become their enemies. In fact, they are the protectors of the people.

Question 3: How can I be more discerning? Hello. In life, be more careful, look more, and think more. Don't rush to conclusions, just think twice before you act. Take your time, grow as a learner and mature! Best wishes

Question 4: How to be discerning? Hello, original poster

There are two aspects to long-term psychology

First, when you listen to others speak, you can’t just understand the literal meaning, you have to think about why the other person said what they said, and even Even his choice of words must be carefully considered.

Second, when you speak to others, think twice before speaking. Say less when you need to say less, and don’t say anything when you don’t need to. Sometimes silence is more powerful than roaring.

You must read more, the more the better. You have to suffer more losses, and only then will you force yourself to use your brain.

When you feel that you have finally matured one day, then you will have a clear mind.

Question 5: How to make yourself thoughtful and thoughtful. Being scheming is not something you just have.

It is more tempered by suffering and pressure.

< p> I have a few suggestions in this regard:

First, observe more.

What cannot be seen is nothing. For life, work, and making friends, you must understand through observation. There is a method that you practice every day. After you have experienced a period of time, recall what happened during that period of time and recall it in order. This will help exercise your observation and memory skills. Of course, observation here does not only mean watching, but also listening. In the end, it means collecting as much information as possible.

2. Think more

You must know what what you see and hear means. What impact it may have on you and what kind of results it will produce, the more detailed the better. You can combine the first method.

For example: At noon, recall what happened in the morning. Today is the day of the meeting at the head office. The manager is not here, so-and-so, and so-and-so are not here, but there is a note of leave on the manager’s desk. When the secretary ordered meals, he ordered 3 less dishes. In the morning, the manager did not expect you to ask for a certain meal. A certain document, someone yelling bad things about the manager at the table, etc.

You can draw a preliminary conclusion that the manager may have gone to a meeting with one of the two people who is no longer there, and the other One asked for leave for something. They won't come for lunch, which means they will come back at least in the afternoon. They didn't ask you for a certain document, they just mentioned your name. The content of the meeting has nothing to do with it, or the leader has a backup copy. The person who scolded the manager behaved too arrogantly and publicly spoke ill of the manager. It may be because he does not intend to continue working there.... Then based on the first conclusion you drew, you can confirm your thoughts or conduct further observations through observation. Revise.

Third, talk less.

At least at the beginning, if you do not have a detailed conclusion about the situation, avoid talking too much. This is the saying that too much talk leads to mistakes. Even if you understand the whole process, you may not necessarily say it. The specific time and opportunity will depend on your long-term observation skills.

If you feel you can't help but want to say something, you can think about three questions first:

1. Is what you want to say true and confirmed by you?

2. Is what you want to say kind to yourself or others, or is it harmful?

3. Is what you want to say really necessary?

Whether the city is deep or not depends in the end on whether you can collect the information as quickly and accurately as possible, respond as quickly as possible, and think broadly and weigh the pros and cons of the situation, as well as the severity. Say the key words at the critical moment and minimize your nonsense.

Question 6: How to be thoughtful. Some people are born to be down-to-earth and honest people. They are not good at playing with their minds and scheming. When dealing with problems, consider more aspects and be careful of your friends at all times. Huiyin itself, this is indeed a kind of sadness, but it is not your sadness, but the sadness of those so-called friends.

Question 7: How to be discerning. Read more books and think more and summarize.

Question 8: How to be discerning. This. . . . My own experience is that this kind of thing takes time to settle, and it will gradually get better with more lessons and more exercise. In addition, don’t think that you should speak less because you can’t speak, but speak more and think more.

Question 9: How do you use your mind to do things and use your brain to do things? Assume a few results and think of a few more solutions, and then you will be smart

Question 10: How Careful? Hello, original poster

There are two aspects to long-term psychology

First, when you listen to others speak, you can’t just understand the literal meaning, you have to think about why the other person said what they said, and even Even his choice of words must be carefully considered.

Second, when you speak to others, think twice before speaking. Say less when you need to say less, and don’t say anything when you don’t need to. Sometimes silence is more powerful than roaring.

You must read more, the more the better. You have to suffer more losses, and only then will you force yourself to use your brain.

When you feel that you have finally matured one day, then you will have a clear mind.