Many parents think that this is just a sign that children are timid, shy and honest, and dare not take the initiative to join in. When they get acquainted with other children, it won't happen again.
If you ask me, can't parents treat their children's performance as a character? Is it honest? Generally speaking, more often, this is a kind of? Social withdrawal? Parents should never take it lightly.
What is social withdrawal?
Social withdrawal, also known as social sensitivity disorder, usually refers to children's fear, anxiety and avoidance of new environment or strangers, and sometimes even reaches an abnormal level.
Some parents can easily confuse it with autism, but it is actually different in essence: language barriers and communication barriers are the main symptoms of autism, most of which are caused by the interaction of genetic factors and external factors; Social withdrawal is caused by poor education of parents.
At the same time, by observing and judging children's social withdrawal behavior, we can also predict the psychological development trend of children's growth to some extent.
Social withdrawal can be divided into three categories:
1, retreat quietly
This kind of social withdrawal behavior is usually that when there are other strangers around, children will choose to be alone and do their own things quietly.
This kind of sedentary and withdrawn children are often more interested in things than people, and their attention will be more concentrated. Therefore, when facing strangers, they are not interested in establishing friendship and are unwilling to make new friends.
2. Take the initiative to retreat
This kind of withdrawal behavior is usually that when there are other strangers around, the child will keep walking around, or walk back and forth, or rummage through the closet, or play with toys, but will not take the initiative to approach the people around him.
In fact, deep down, these children are very eager to contact and communicate with others, but they may be afraid to speak first because they don't know the way or method, or they have encountered failures.
3. Anxiety and withdrawal
This kind of withdrawal behavior means that when there are strangers around, children will be restless, at a loss and wander around.
What causes children to be discouraged from socializing?
The reasons for social withdrawal behavior are complicated. In addition to congenital factors, the most important thing is the change of parents' growth, which has certain influence on children's social interaction:
1, overprotective of parents
The overprotection of parents will make children have a strong dependence on familiar people, and when they face strangers alone, they will become timid and don't know how to break the deadlock.
2. Parental loneliness control
Some parents like to help their children decide everything, what clothes to wear, what food to eat, and what kind of friends to make ... Children who have been controlled by their parents for a long time, they don't know whether the person in front of them can become their friends or how to make friends with each other, so they dare not approach, so they choose to wait and see.
I have been rejected in social activities.
Children are very sensitive. They can perceive each other's attitude and judge whether they like themselves and are willing to establish emotional ties with themselves.
If they have painful memories, when they meet new friends for the second time, the brain will automatically help them avoid the fear of being hurt and will not take the initiative to say hello to others.
How should parents help their children get rid of it? Social withdrawal? behaviour
In the final analysis, social withdrawal is only a psychological obstacle for children, not a refractory disease. Parents can help their children out of trouble by the following methods:
1, give children more autonomy in making friends.
Playing is a child's nature. Parents should not restrict them, let alone stipulate who they should play with, and have full freedom to make friends with their children, so that children can meet new friends in their own way and judge what kind of people are suitable to make friends with themselves.
But more intervention, so that children can get exercise in the big environment, step by step? Retreat? Psychological high wall.
2. Encourage children to meet new friends.
In children's interpersonal communication, parents' encouragement and guidance are very important, because with parents around, children will feel safe, not anxious, and get more help and confidence.
Parents can take the initiative to open a topic for their children, guide them to get to know each other quickly in question and answer, or bring some small toys and snacks with them to narrow the distance between them and let them integrate into a small group more quickly.
We should let our children know that this is an era of cooperation and enjoyment, and many things need the concerted efforts of Qi Xin to achieve greater success.
Therefore, we can take our children to participate in some community junk donation and charity sale activities, so that children can give toys they don't often play with and story books they have read to more children in need.
Socialization is an art, and the door of children's art is opened by us as parents.
Children with good interpersonal relationships, their daily lives are full of happiness, and happy children will be welcomed and liked by more people.
Therefore, observing children's reaction in front of strangers, communicating with children and helping children improve the behavior habit of who will shrink back will be the best gift for parents on the road to happiness!