During the Chinese New Year blind date season, the largest generation born in the 1990s has entered the 30-year-old threshold. Although the divorce rate has reached a record high in the past time, the issue of marriage between older men and women is still a hot topic in society. During the Chinese New Year, this issue is the most concerned topic among relatives and friends.

So among the unmarried older men and women, who is more anxious about getting married? I surveyed 500 families and came to the conclusion that the woman's parents are more anxious, and the man is more anxious.

1. Women want to make money more than getting married

When it comes to getting married, the woman’s parents are particularly anxious. When the Chinese New Year comes, they take advantage of their daughter’s return home to The arranged blind dates were one after another. The reasons for urging marriage are nothing more than three points: 1. If you don't get married when you are older, you will be criticized by relatives and neighbors, and people will be afraid of you.

2. If you don’t get married when you are older, you will miss the best reproductive period for women

3. After getting married, you can stabilize and have someone to take care of you

4. The older the girl, The more people pick on you, the less likely you are to find a good man

But for the above reasons, many women show no concern. Facing their increasing age, many women have already had their own thoughts and plans about marriage. Many women said:

“What makes me anxious is not that I am not married yet, but that I am short of money.”

“If I can’t get married at the age of thirty, I will do it. Prepare to live alone. Before I meet the right person, I want to work hard to make money.”

“It’s almost the New Year, and my family is in a hurry. I don’t know why I need to save enough for the rest of my life. If you have the same money to live now, don’t you owe it to a father? Then you have to find a suitable one.”

It can be seen that when it comes to marriage, many women are more demanding about the quality of the marriage. Time to ask for marriage. They know that they are not determined not to get married, nor are they about to get married, they just want to find someone they are willing to marry.

The quality of marriage, your living standard and family status in your future marriage depend more on your independent ability and economic level. Therefore, instead of worrying about not being able to get married, it is better to lay a good financial foundation for your future life. If you encounter love, you will not feel inferior or miss out because you are empty-handed; if you do not encounter love, your life will not be abject because of lack of money. Therefore, many women know clearly that getting rid of poverty is more important than getting out of singlehood.

2. Men need marriage more than love.

It is said that women discuss the reality of betrothal gifts before marriage. In fact, men are more sensible when it comes to marriage.

As the marriage rate continues to decline, the divorce rate continues to increase. Women are becoming more independent, and more women are starting to take control of their marriages. Therefore, when it comes to marriage, older men are generally more anxious, more realistic, and more sober than women.

We can see that in many dating programs, the final choices of many male guests are beyond the audience’s expectations. They often do not choose to stick to their favorite girls, nor do they choose outstanding girls from other places. Most of them will choose girls from the same city who have a good impression of them. In layman's terms, this kind of choice is called "available by chance".

Because they know that by choosing such a girl, the success rate of love and marriage will be higher. For them, love is not a belief, marriage is the purpose. A male friend once advised his older sister: "When you get married, you just need to find someone with better conditions among those who like you. If you pick and choose, you can find something good, so that you can live a good life."

It can be seen that older men have basically given up the idea of ????looking for true love. Just like buying food in the market, in the marriage and love market, they only hope to find a partner with good quality and reasonable price. Therefore, when going on a blind date, the man is more willing to show his advantages, such as: house, car, job, income, etc. The requirements for women are also more in line with the direction of life, such as: how soon to get married, how soon to have children, whether they can do housework, whether they are filial, etc. Regarding feelings and congeniality, it seems that they don't value it that much.

3. Why are men more anxious to get married than women?

In a nutshell, it is because men make more profits and benefit more from marriage.

Marriage has always been the door to happiness in the eyes of women and another starting point for love. Because I love him, I am willing to be his bride. The purpose of getting married is to have a reasonable status and be able to spend the rest of my life with him.

Although many married women now report that they are unhappy after marriage, the overall marriage rate in society is also declining. But most single women still regard love as the basis of marriage and stick to their beliefs. This is why they are not in a hurry even though they are not married. Because for them to get married, the first condition is to find someone they like.

Anyway, it’s all about having children, food, rice, oil and salt, and going there with a person you like. Even a simple meal can be as poetic as picturesque and sweet as sweet cakes. And if you have to spend such a boring life with someone you don't like, it would be better to be free and enjoy leisurely life.

But men think exactly the opposite. Anyway, it's all about getting married and having children, so it's better to find someone who is sensible and knows how to live a good life. Because for most men, getting married and having children is just a task that must be completed at every stage of life. Just like in ancient times, when men reached a certain age, they began to find matchmakers and inquire about girls from various families for marriage.

Women have no control over this, but they also care about who they are betrothed to; men, on the other hand, tend to obey their parents' wishes and don't interfere much. Because they are also busy studying, taking scientific examinations, serving as officials, making friends, etc.

Since ancient times, love has been a lifelong pursuit and dream of women. And being married is just a social attribute of men. They are busy looking for a partner, busy getting married, and busy having children, just so that they can be busy getting promoted, busy getting a salary increase, and busy realizing all their other expectations. Therefore, men are more anxious than women about this matter that must be completed.

Summary: Men and women go to marriage for different reasons, which are affected by gender, thinking habits, social attributes and other reasons. But no matter what the reason is, I hope that everyone can live up to this life, be responsible for themselves and their marriage, and make their most faithful choice whether they are getting married or waiting.