How can I make new friends?

▎Learn some tips on self-disclosure

If you want to get a new friend, a certain amount of self-disclosure is essential.

Self-disclosure includes two dimensions: breadth and depth.

Breadth refers to the breadth of your chat scope and topics.

Depth is the depth of your chat content.

The process of the relationship between two people becoming intimate must be accompanied by the expansion of the breadth and depth of self-exposure.

When chatting with the other party, you can not only stop at the duel of emojis, but also try to talk about different topics: popular TV series, newly released movies, newly read novels, growth experiences, etc. Communicate and talk about emotional issues and work issues.

We can learn more about each other’s information, values ??and preferences from their opinions and introductions on different things.

Of course, you can also dig deeper into a topic. You can talk about the protagonist's view of love in a recent TV series, and then ask the other person's opinion, and you will naturally share each other's emotional experiences. and values ??about love.

▎Want to make friends and meet up to chat

If you have a good chat with the other person on WeChat and find that the other person happens to be in the same city as you, you might as well make an appointment to meet and have a meal. Have some tea.

The moment you see each other, you may feel that the other person is different from what you thought, but your mutual image, voice and details have been confirmed.

Friendship can only grow when the unreal barriers are removed.

▎Frequently "swipe your face"

The "see more effect" means that we like things we see more often.

If you see two products when you go to the supermarket, and the price is the same and the weight is the same, if you don’t know anything about them, but you have seen its advertisements on the subway or on videos. , then you will most likely choose the product you see often.

Similarly, the see-more effect also applies to people.

Creating more opportunities for contact with the other person is more likely to increase the other person's good impression of you.

You often share some interesting content on WeChat. When you are unsure about buying clothes, ask the other person to give you advice. If you heard about which store has delicious food, make an appointment to have a meal together so that the other person cannot ignore you in life. existence.

▎Stay curious about others

Although curiosity is partly determined by personality traits, you can deliberately ask yourself to ask one or two questions to strangers.

We often see people who are good at making new friends who are particularly good at striking up conversations with strangers. The starting point may be the other person’s accent or today’s weather. In short, you don’t know why, but they just start chatting. , and the topic went on for a long time.

In fact, these sociable people do not know the skills they possess. It is just their curiosity about strangers that leads them to want to understand each other's lives and establish connections with each other.

When you first ask yourself like this, you may feel a little deliberate and embarrassed, and even lead to an awkward moment, but this method will force you to become curious about them. Over time, when it becomes a habit, You will find that you also have the "sense of language" to strike up conversations with strangers.