In the preface, the author wrote: Choice is more important than hard work, and who you walk with at the starting point of life will determine the fate of a person's life.
I have met many people in my life, but only a few are crucial. You can't choose your parents. The happiness brought by family of origin will benefit you for life, but the limitations of your parents will also keep you from reconciling and digesting all your life. Brothers, sisters and other blood-related people, although not as influential as their parents, also play an important role in our life, which is equally non-selective, and also makes us feel lucky or sorry to varying degrees.
The seven people mentioned by the author are exactly seven forces that can change our destiny, namely, the "small partner" who grew up together, the "enlightener" in the university, the "colleague" who just started to work, the "good boss", the reliable business partner, the confidant in life, and the lover who you will spend the rest of your life with. Strictly speaking, this book is a life guide and planning book, and it is not too much to be listed as a must-read for college students. If you are a young reader, maybe this book will change imperceptibly from the time he started reading. As a reader who has been in the workplace for a long time, like me, I finished reading this book with thinking, surprise, shame, admiration and fascination, deeply thinking it was a summary, but regretting that I didn't meet such a "mentor" at the beginning of my life.
In the process of growing up, each of us lives in a certain relationship. Without others, you are an island. The experience of going out of the island is a history of searching for people and an exchange history. All relationships between people are actually complementary in nature. No one can realize his own value demand in a completely independent and closed state. We are looking for friends, and they are looking for you. We are looking for colleagues, and they are also looking for people to spend their lives with.
establishing an intimate relationship requires at least three conditions: "the first is acquaintance; The second is to know each other and the third is to cherish each other. " Warren Buffett famously said: Life is like snowballing, the most important thing is to find wet snow and long slopes. "Snow" is all kinds of resources, including money, people, and other things that can be aggregated into one, and long slopes are the right direction. They are indispensable. When these two conditions are met, all you need is physical strength, patience and skill.
Part 1 :
meet the right person, go the right way and find your little friend!
A baby, from the first day he opened his eyes, embarked on a long journey to build and manage his own life relationship. He will meet all kinds of people, good people, bad people, valuable people, worthless people, people with positive significance, people who can only play a negative role ... He must learn to distinguish and choose.
When you are young, if you choose your friends indiscriminately, the author calls it "herding childhood". Children who make friends with this attitude will generally lose self-control over their future. When we were young, we got different things in the game cooperation with our partners. Some people met the right person at the right time, took the right path, quickly defined their future roles, and set up correct ambitions. Others are just the opposite. Mr. Newman said: "The first few years of our lives have a decisive influence on the fate of our lives, especially at some critical moments, those indelible emotions and important encounters, which together determine our character."
Part 2 :
student days-find your "enlightener"
many successful people met the most important people in their lives in college. The author takes the inspirational story of three young people in "Chinese Partners" as an example. They met and got to know each other when they were students, shared the same dream and worked hard together, and then created a great career and achieved great success together. First of all, it is said that you must make some people who can really help you in college. In fact, everyone has equal opportunities in college, and what people think is very important at that time may not have much to do with our future happiness and success. When choosing friends, they'd better have some excellent qualities, such as: broader vision, broader mind, sharper vision, firmer will, steadier work, more active thinking and so on. He said that the first task of a university is to make a like-minded friend, not anything else. It's best to make yourself a person who can open your heart to you in the first year of college, instead of people setting up a defensive line for you from a distance.
Secondly, the author suggests that we should learn from those who are good at analysis, not those who get the best grades. Efficiency is the core problem of learning, and it is also the touchstone to test whether a person can have good learning ability. As Bruce Lee's martial arts book said: "There are two kinds of martial arts, one is to show others with a gesture of showing off, and the other is to achieve results with a real knife and a real gun. Which martial art is more effective when standing in front of a robber's knife? This is self-evident. " People who are good at analysis are more likely to master learning techniques. Even if individual subjects don't learn well, they can learn knowledge in other fields quickly.
The essence of learning is not only to learn what you are interested in, but also to be able to be well informed and connect what you have learned for my use. Only in this way can we truly have the ability to learn.
thirdly, the way to the expressway is the same, that is, to find a teacher who is suitable for imitating and learning. Let an experienced teacher give you some important qualities, methods or provide you with valuable experience. The quickest way to learn is not to invent a set of your own things behind closed doors, but to do it according to the successful methods that have been verified by masters. Of course, you should learn to be friends with your teacher.
fourthly, from the student days, we should establish our own personal brand. During the 1 years from the age of 12 to 22, how you build and manage yourself, who you learn from and what you have learned can more determine what your life is like. When we were students, we had two tasks. The first was to enhance the accumulation of knowledge. The second is to establish your own personal brand. In order to achieve this goal, you need to learn and absorb not only the instrumental knowledge, but also the respect for life and the pious attitude towards life. School is a classroom for learning knowledge, or a rehearsal for life. Let you live with your heart, and also let you practice the future. In this process, you can find your ID, strengthen your ID, and build relationships with others.
Part 3:
in the first three years of graduation, it is important to work with whom every day!
1. The level of colleagues affects our progress
If there is a gap between the level of colleagues and yours, how should you face it? First of all, try your best to give full play to your due ability, and at the same time help other teammates patiently and amicably to trust others.
secondly, if possible, try to find another person to cooperate with yourself. Of course, this is the best strategy when there is no way.
[if ! SupportLists] 2. [endif] Only by choosing the industry that suits you can you meet people who can help you
When choosing a career, you should first respect your own ideas, then consider the opinions of others, and finally make the most correct decision based on your own characteristics.
[if ! SupportLists] 3. [endif] Let the seniors see your efforts and take the initiative to help you
In the previous years' career, the positive attitude and good professional habits have surpassed all talents. And most people in our lives, his efforts are so low that he can't fight for talent at all.
In dealing with seniors, we should avoid the following problems: 1. Being unsociable; 2. Not enthusiastic; 3. Do not inform; 4. Don't talk about private affairs; 5. Don't ask for help.
[if ! [endif] became allies with potential stocks and experienced the process of growth together
85% of a person's success is attributed to his ability to find allies.
those successful entrepreneurs and elites in the workplace are all like this-from the first day they leave the university, they begin to pay attention to managing their own work contacts. The first step is to get on well with colleagues and find an ally among them.
according to our own career, we divide the relationship into two types: solid relationship and hollow relationship. A solid relationship is a valuable colleague who can share their useful information and work experience with themselves, exchange work experience with each other, and give practical help at work. The hollow relationship is simply a fair-weather colleague.
[if ! When did [endif] leave a bad environment?
There are some factors that will make you passive in your work. Even if you have a good relationship with your colleagues, it is difficult for you to overcome these difficulties and smoothly integrate into this environment. Therefore, at this time, you should leave decisively and find another job.
Part 4:
meeting a good boss is better than meeting a good teacher
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First, you will become who you learn from:
A boss who is worth learning should be dedicated, love his work and be able to share joys and sorrows with his subordinates. Secondly, he will give you the right way to work and do things.
meeting a good boss is better than meeting a good teacher. Meeting a good boss will benefit you for life.
2. A good boss is more important than a good company:
3. Develop a company, not a multinational company:
4. Make friends without making friends:
5. A good boss gives you six strengths: self-confidence, smiling, hard work, honesty, modesty, calmness and obedience.
Six, the secret of obedience:
Seven, the difference between a good boss and a bad boss:
Part 5 :
Find a reliable partner and have a stable career
Choose the right partner and make your career stand out
Buffett's experience is that the people I invest in must have three qualities at the same time: honesty, wisdom and passion.
second, there must be two or three long-term cooperation people
third, be careful of the guy who leads you by the nose
fourth, what kind of circle do you need to join?
First of all, you must be a hardworking and down-to-earth person. Secondly, be good at finding and seizing opportunities; Finally, find an opportunity to discuss with elders in the industry or people who are better than you.
it doesn't matter who you know, but who knows you.
five, stand the test of interests
six, cooperate with honest people
seven, the six criteria of a good customer: quick response, mutual recognition attitude, professionalism, never haggle over price, stick to the bottom line, and pay without delay
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Part 6 :
Listen to the most pertinent voice and find a good confidant
1. Someone who can listen to your worries
2. When you are in trouble, you can reach out and help unconditionally
3. Who is the person who dares to slap you on the table? The strong usually regard the enemy as a "friend" and check their own gains and losses from the enemy, so as to learn from each other and become stronger.
fourth, you need someone who can criticize you!
5. Find a confidant, and put an end to utilitarianism
6. You must stay away from these people: negative and degenerate people, people who are duplicitous, people who are greedy for petty gains, people who break their promises, people who are unfilial, people who are prone to violence, and people who will only consume you.
Part 7 :
to choose a lover is to choose a lifestyle
[if! SupportLists] 1. [endif] Love changes the rest of your life: The love that suits you best is the person whose way of thinking and living habits can be integrated with you.
[if ! SupportLists] 2. [endif] Find someone who can give you spiritual support for life
[if! SupportLists] 3. [endif] Become a person worthy of love
[if! [endif] When you are young, you will be more confident if you talk about a few relationships
Part 8 :
Don't forget the most important thing: improve yourself
First, arrange a self-improvement class for yourself every day!
second, the rule of improving willpower: people with strong will are more likely to make friends
third, communication skills: communicate, express and convince others
fourth, discover their wonderful personality
[if! SupportLists] V. [endif] Learning ability: accept, accumulate and update knowledge
[if! [endif] don't be a deserter from the world
[if! SupportLists] VII. [endif] Personality determines your destiny, and tolerance determines your pattern
[if! No matter how many people you meet, live and do what you love.