However, when the world faces the topic of puppy love, it will feel that the sky is falling. It seems that this incident will ruin the child's life. After all, it may make children develop bad habits, drop their grades and even go astray.
There is news on the Internet that a girl of 16 years old has become a man of 2/kloc-0 years old on the Internet, and the two meet to go to the movies. The girl's father took his wife and relatives to find them. After discovering them, he was worried about his daughter's puppy love. On impulse, he stabbed the man with a sharp knife and was finally detained.
Is puppy love really as terrible as a scourge? Actually, it is not.
Now there is such a mother. On her way to work, she saw her son and a girl carrying a schoolbag to go to school hand in hand and drank a cup of soybean milk together. Mother thought for a moment and didn't ask questions. In the evening, after her son left school, they had a long talk.
The son thought that his mother would be furious and stop him from puppy love. First of all, he was very anxious and said that he didn't need his parents to take care of him. Unexpectedly, my mother smiled and praised herself, saying that she was brave and firm under pressure and got up early to pick up girls for love. This is the purest and most beautiful appearance of love.
Later, my mother expressed her support, but only if. She gave her son five pieces of advice, thus becoming his love mentor.
0 1. "First of all, you should know that puppy love is not a shameful thing!"
The mother believes that there is no puppy love, which is a natural phenomenon that boys and girls have reached a certain stage of physiological and psychological development, and it is a process that all teenagers will definitely experience in adolescence.
Which girl doesn't love spring and which boy doesn't? It is normal for the opposite sex to attract each other and have an ignorant affection for the opposite sex.
Some people throw words like "puppy love is humiliating, disgusting, shameful and not allowed" when children just show good feelings for the opposite sex. Instilling such thoughts will blindly suppress children's instinct, and it is difficult to establish close relationships with others on the road of life.
Aunt Zhai, a friend's neighbor, found the signs of puppy love in her daughter's junior high school, beat and scolded her, humiliated her with ugly words, and went to school to insult the boy, smugly curbing her daughter's puppy love as soon as possible.
What she didn't realize was that her daughter became very introverted and sensitive from then on, afraid of interacting with people and making friends. Even after graduating from college, she can no longer develop normally with others. Now 38 years old, she still refuses to fall in love and marry. Aunt Zhai regrets it, but there is nothing she can do.
We also know that puppy love has no result, but it is a wonderful experience that allows children to learn and feel love. Love is an ability. If many people don't learn to love and be loved, it will be difficult for them to communicate and feel happy after entering a relationship.
02. "Be kind to each other and think from each other's standpoint."
The mother believes that it is better to teach the child how to love than to prevent him from puppy love. Adolescence love is more like an "internship" for adults to fall in love.
The dating and communication of puppy love can help children learn how to get along with the opposite sex and how to respect, tolerate, compromise and be responsible, which is an indispensable and important link in the growth of teenagers.
In the face of love, they are in the groping stage and don't know what kind of love is best for each other, so parents can tell their children how to love, how to get along, how to manage their emotions, how to negotiate conflicts, communicate their needs and respond to their lovers.
Love also has principles. Think from each other's standpoint, don't be ambiguous with others, be loyal to each other.
03. "Respect women and don't have sex."
In adolescence, under the action of hormones, both boys and girls will be curious about sex, but at this time, the physical development of boys and girls is not complete, and premature sexual behavior will affect their physical development.
Moreover, this is a very important thing for girls. Boys should respect girls' wishes, take a responsible attitude towards girls, and don't have sex too early.
It is normal to want to get close contact with the person you love, but you must get the consent of the other party and know how to protect yourself and protect each other. Be responsible for each other, and at the same time, be responsible for yourself.
Sex education in adolescence is very important. Many parents find it hard to say. In fact, instead of letting children know through hearsay and various miscellaneous channels, parents should take the initiative to educate them and tell them what kind of behavior this is, how to avoid contraception and the spread of various sexually transmitted diseases.
When children master more comprehensive, scientific and accurate knowledge than hearsay, the relationship between men and women is no longer mysterious and curious in their eyes.
04. "Learning is still the first priority. If the results are stable, you can continue. If your grades drop, you will consciously stop. "
One of the main reasons why parents are worried about puppy love is that it affects their studies. If you stop it blindly, I am afraid that adolescent children will have rebellious psychology, which is easy to backfire.
It is better to let children fully experience and guide them to "fall in love", but it can promote their learning, because "the person I like is at school, so I like going to school."
At the same time, tell children that falling in love can't affect their study, and the main task of students is to study. When we are together, we should encourage each other, cheer each other up, work together, supplement each other's subjects and academic exchanges, and strive to grow into a better self.
When two people grow up together and become better, that is what really suits them; And if the other person holds you back, it will only drag you down and make you worse and worse, then consciously stop this relationship and maintain the balance between school and love first.
05. "If you are sad, go to your parents. Don't hold back. "
There are not a few cases in which children commit suicide or retaliate because of emotional contradictions. Every time I see similar news, my mother feels very uncomfortable. Compared with the life of a child, puppy love is nothing unforgivable.
Pay close attention to children's emotional changes, prevent unexpected changes, and what excessive behavior children will make. At the same time, tell your child that you are willing to be his faithful listener, enlighten him and help him solve problems.
If it is a girl, she should tell her mother that she will help her deal with it after an unexpected pregnancy, instead of making her own decisions without telling her parents, which will lead to irreparable consequences.
Supporting puppy love is a compliment to love and a respect for children. Having a healthy puppy love experience will make children grow into a responsible, empathetic, emotional quotient, self-confidence, mental health and mature lover.