Mental health is a pleasant experience.
Someone once wrote in his diary: "I come from the hinterland, so I am very incompetent and rarely have happy moments." Only when my colleagues are in pain can I feel a moment's comfort ... "As can be seen between the lines, this friend has a wrong self-concept and a wrong emotional experience. Experience is an understanding of oneself and the surrounding environment, which restricts people's emotions and behaviors. Whether you can know yourself correctly is an important sign of mental health. To belittle yourself too much is to feel inferior. Inferiority is a bad experience, and it is often the source of unhappiness.
In daily life, we can see that some people always have a hard time with themselves: the same dress looks like a "flower" on her body and a "scar" on herself; The same mole, smeared on people's faces, is a beauty mole that makes the finishing touch, but smeared on themselves, it is "gilding the lily" ... This kind of person is used to holding a spear and always pointing at himself, and rarely has a pleasant experience, taking the initiative to leave "pain" to himself.
Others overestimate themselves and think that they stand out from the crowd and can do anything, but when they encounter setbacks, their mood plummets. Often start with arrogance, end with inferiority, and finally point the finger at yourself.
Bad self-experience is difficult to produce a happy mood, and long-term painful mood will aggravate the sense of inferiority. This vicious circle is exactly where many people with psychological problems are confused.
Therefore, mental health should first correctly understand yourself, adjust your emotions at any time, and choose your own coordinates according to the situation: entering a higher school, getting a job, doing business in the sea, getting married and starting a business ... Dare to face life, not being trapped by failure, not being tired of fame and fortune, not being lured by wealth, not being confused by physical defects, just being happy. A happy mood can add a lot of charm; A painful mood will affect the peace of life of a family.
(2) Mental health is an efficient operation function.
Operational function refers to people's psychological and social functions. Mentally healthy people pay attention to efficiency, good perception, rich imagination, strong creativity, active thinking, high work efficiency and harmonious interpersonal relationships. Their cognition, emotion and behavior are coordinated, and their internal psychological needs are coordinated with external social norms. Among them, sleep efficiency reflects people's psychological function. A policeman said, "I always can't sleep." I go to bed at 6 pm and think about it. I can barely sleep 1 ~ 2 hours until the next morning. " The policeman lacks perfect psychological function.
Interpersonal communication is an important symbol of human social function. Some people live in a lonely world behind closed doors for many years, and their social functions are seriously damaged. Others make great efforts to figure out other people's habits, observe other people's words and feelings, flatter others, look exquisite and boring in essence. A consultant said gloomily, "I am always kind to everyone, but I am sick and no one comes to see me!" " "This result clearly tells us that it is not enough to be' good' for everyone. We must treat others sincerely. If you just make friends by chance or use each other, you will often not make "close" friends.
The improvement of people's psychological and social functions is a long-term task, which can also be said to be the goal of people's life. As long as we strengthen psychological cultivation, be good at learning, constantly explore and practice, and foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, we can improve the level of mental health.
(3) Mental health is a dynamic adjustment process.
Mental health is not a static ideal standard. It can be said that there are no people who are absolutely and forever mentally healthy. Most people are on the verge of health and unhealthy.
The view of social medical experts is: "90% of patients may not be sick, or moan, or exchange the role of patients for sympathy and attention from others;" And 90% of normal people may be sick. They are under various pressures of modern society, such as going to school, looking for a job, being laid off ... they will become patients at any time. " This view dialectically expounds the relativity of health.
People live in the world, society is progressing, and people have to change. Maintaining mental health will be a dynamic process. In the fifties and sixties, it was enough for people to eat; In the 1970 s and 1980 s, it was enough to have a house to live in and a book to read; In the 1990s and even in the 2nd/kloc-0th century, people are faced with greater pressure and more spiritual needs-love, dignity and achievement. The satisfaction of these needs depends on psychological adjustment and unremitting efforts.
At the same time, psychological adjustment should follow people's age development characteristics. If a mature woman can't even make up her mind about what kind of shoes to buy, it shows that her psychological maturity is too naive and her psychological adjustment ability is too insufficient. On the contrary, a 5-year-old child knows that the world is cold and will give his favorite food to his parents. This "precocity" is also sad.