Why do more and more boys dare not take the initiative to pursue girls? Which boys are sad in their hearts?

Before men and women date, it is usually the boys who actively pursue the girls first. Because girls are generally shy and calm in relationships, and are used to being passive. Boys represent a responsible image. Judging from everyone's impression, many people think that boys should take the initiative to pursue perfection and express love. The most upvoted response on Zhihu Q&A: Why don’t boys generally take the initiative to pursue girls now?

However, now a situation is becoming more and more obvious, that is, boys are increasingly afraid to pursue girls. As the needs of girls are getting higher and higher, the cost of love is also getting higher and higher. Boys are worried about being frustrated in the process of pursuit. They feel that the more active they are, the less they will receive a response, and they will suffer a lot of damage. In fact, boys generally do not dare to actively pursue girls. The main reasons are as follows. When men and women interact, more and more money is invested

Nowadays, people are becoming more and more vain, and their desire for comparison is becoming stronger and stronger. When a boy and a girl are dating, when it’s a girl’s birthday, there is no doubt in her heart that she expects the boy to give her a gift. Generally, gifts for girlfriends include perfume or lipstick, which are also what girls like. Just like boys love basketball shoes, if you think you also like lipstick and eau de toilette from a good brand, they may only cost a few milliliters and only cost three to four hundred yuan. Moreover, when boys and girls go out to eat or watch TV series together, most of the expenses have to be borne by the boys. Over time, boys will gradually feel physically and mentally exhausted from the cost of such a relationship. Girls have strict requirements and are afraid of being too proactive

Many girls nowadays don’t really like to make friends with boys, and they may feel that heterosexual friendships are definitely not as strong as gay friendships. But they forget one thing. Many relationships between two people develop from friends. In this way, girls who are immune to boys' routines will become increasingly difficult to get close to and pursue perfection. Moreover, the requirements for girls nowadays are getting higher and higher. If you are not handsome, not tall, and have no money, it will be difficult for girls to attract you. Boys are afraid of being rejected and worried that girls will be over-exercised

They all think that women are cruel, while girls are more thoughtful. But in fact, men are also more careful, think a lot, and take many factors into consideration. Before pursuing a girl, a boy will also consider the probability of two people being together, and will weigh whether he is really suitable for a girl. And nowadays girls can give boys a lot of tests to test whether this boy really loves you. Many boys may have experienced bad memories in their previous relationships, and then they will not dare to actively pursue girls.

It turns out that there are other reasons why boys are afraid of taking the initiative to pursue. In fact, both parties are harmful to this matter, and after all, a slap in the face can't make a difference. Emotions should be mutual, and men and women should be equal. Boys can be active, and girls can be active. It doesn’t mean that boys have to bear more financial investment, and girls have to bear more emotional investment. It doesn’t mean that anyone has to do what.