Just call her Xiao Li, the owner of the short story. Like many middle-aged women, when she was deeply worried about her age, she realized that her husband and colleagues were having an affair. From the moment she knew, she said "the sky is falling"!
But after all, it is ten years or twenty years of feelings, and I can't bear to part with it, but she is a man who can understand her! Moreover, once people reach middle age, many practical problems should be taken into account, so Xiaoli decided to attract her husband and make him and the outside world clean and tidy!
However, she has never dealt with such a difficult problem, and there is no one to talk about, so she can only look it up online!
"Every time: What should I do if my husband is derailed? My heart is like being executed that year, "she said.
In the endless internet, she is just looking for a few words of information. Where can someone really teach her how to do it Fortunately, according to everyone's radio broadcast, she finally found a relationship and developed well.
Marriage dating, after mastering her situation and intentions, everyone's little assistant Jessica Hester Hsuan strongly recommended Xiao Aijie as a consultant.
Little Sister Ai has eight years of experience in marriage and love counseling. She has many successful examples in "understanding the deep-seated reasons behind the emotional crisis", explaining the male thinking mode, promoting the temptation after marriage, non-violent communication and so on, and is affectionately called "the rescue station of marriage and friendship" by vip members.
After the first voice call with Xiaoli, Xiaoaijie caught the problems in Xiaoli's marriage:
Xiaoli was a great beauty when she was young, so she was favored by men from an early age. She is inevitably a bit "princess sick" and usually doesn't pay attention to what she says. She is always cocky and wants this and that, so her husband is actually very tired and has no sense of dignity in front of her. He cheated to find self-esteem in other women.
After listening to Little Sister Ai's analysis of the real cause of her marriage crisis, Xiaoli's anger mentality has been reduced a lot, and even she has some thoughts on her daily personal behavior, and then she will implement the decision according to the solution drawn by Little Sister Ai.
Can a woman's cheating marriage continue? Xiaoli's marriage is at stake _ in fact, she is not understanding communication. She is too direct to fully consider other people's experiences. Her feelings have dried up for a long time.
Therefore, Miss Ai will teach Xiaoli the method of "nonviolent communication", which is divided into three processes:
● First of all, Xiaoli should control her mentality and pay attention to the objective facts expressed in communication, not "comments".
When Xiaoli changed into "You came back very late, where did you go?" By the time you came back late, I felt very sorry for you, and their dissatisfaction disappeared a lot, so they could finally sit down and have a heart-to-heart chat.
Then, tell your own experience and requirements:
"I understand that everyone's marriage has problems. The development trend of things is like this, because I have certain obligations. Because I have cared about your experience before, I hope that everyone will give each other a chance to deal with today's problems together. "
Finally, listen to each other's feedback and give the answer:
Indeed, when Xiaoli's husband heard this, he wanted to express his subjective factors and Xiaoli's thoughts. He recognized that it was a moment when he was in a daze, and his derailed colleague was also a man with a wife. He didn't really prepare in advance. Only once did he get angry after being scolded by Xiaoli, and he immediately said it, leaving the rest for later.
How to maintain a marriage? There will be a lot of friction and inaccuracy in marriage. There has never been an extreme marriage. All we can guarantee is to keep it as long as possible and make it stronger and stronger.