How to improve one’s emotional intelligence? Remember the following points!

In life, in the workplace, and in making friends, people with high emotional intelligence are always welcomed and reused. Their strength may not be very strong, but they can always get good resources.

Some people have counted that 85% of a person's success depends on interpersonal relationships, while only 15% depends on knowledge, technology, etc.

Based on Baidu, EQ is opposite to IQ and refers to emotional quotient, which mainly refers to a person’s qualities in terms of emotion, will, and ability to be frustrated, including leadership quotient, etc. Youshujun simply understands it as the ability to get along with others. A person's emotional intelligence has little to do with innateness. It can be cultivated the day after tomorrow. So how to improve a person's emotional intelligence?

First of all, you must learn to understand yourself. ‘I’ is the root of everything.

Accept yourself, recognize yourself, understand your own character strengths, and strive to maximize your strengths and avoid weaknesses. Find the job and skills that suit you, and then calm down, settle, accumulate, and accumulate.

This is the first element to improve your emotional intelligence, because it is the source of your self-confidence. Without self-confidence, everything is in vain.

Learn to talk to your body. When your body sends out a protest or bad signal, stop and adjust immediately.

Secondly, learn to understand others and know each other, so that you can fight a hundred battles without danger.

To do this, it is necessary to learn some necessary psychological knowledge. Read others through their gestures, expressions and body language. Be a good learner and an empathetic listener.

Understanding a person starts with his character. There are many types of personalities. Some people have multiple personalities, but everyone has a bias. Learn to judge and analyze. Generally speaking, they are divided into peaceful type, leadership type, questioning type, rational type, happy type, sentimental type, helpful type, perfection-seeking type, and performance-loving achievement type.

According to different personalities, adopt corresponding methods. Those with high emotional intelligence form a judgment in their own minds, stand in other people's positions and perspectives, and talk about other people's feelings, and talk about other people's hearts.

Learn to manage your emotions. The biggest enemy of improving your emotional intelligence is your inability to control your emotions.

Everyone who eats whole grains has seven emotions and desires. Being able to deal with emotional killers with ease is the best expression of a person's high emotional intelligence.

Make friends with optimism, say bye bye to complaints, timely patience is a must, and appropriate silence is an assistant.

Improve self-control and know when enough is enough.

When you are angry or depressed, silently hint to yourself that everything will pass, it will be okay, and it will be fine in a while.

Don’t get carried away when you are happy. Don’t show off your achievements too much and keep a low profile, otherwise pain will follow.

If you are unable to achieve your goals for the time being, then just work hard without caring about the harvest, and don't let desire control your mood.

At no time should you be a slave to your emotions and follow your own emotions. When you release your emotions to your heart's content, you will find that what you should have gained has been lost.

Being able to control emotions is a sign of maturity. Only children can cry when they want and laugh when they want. If you can't do it, then don't complain that you can't climb as fast as others. The only way is to find internal reasons to improve yourself.

To strengthen communication skills, everything you have done before is to be able to be like a fish in water in interpersonal communication.

When you go out, you must not only communicate with people you are familiar with, but also take the initiative to communicate with strangers.

In communication, maintain a sincere and tolerant heart. What you say is secondary. The important thing is to find topics that the other party likes, let the other party talk about it, and be an empathetic listener. Learn to give feedback when necessary. When someone is willing to open up to you, you have another supportive friend.

Discover your own problems in constant interactions, strengthen your knowledge reserves, and further improve your expression ability, analytical ability and logical level.

The last and most important point is that moral standards are the premise of everything, and moral quotient is more important than EQ and IQ.

If there is no guarantee of good moral character and no "morality" as the bottom line, no matter how high your emotional intelligence is, it will be short-lived, and all your efforts will be in vain.

In addition, a person's high emotional intelligence is also reflected in being a big-picture person, not arguing with villains, not competing with people who are higher than himself, not competing with peers for favor, and not claiming credit from subordinates.

The degree to which a person speaks comfortably determines the height he or she can reach. If you have high emotional intelligence and can thrive in the workplace, flourish like a flower in life, and be "highly respected" among relatives and friends, then you are not far away from success.