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Should I take care of girls' circle of friends?
I don't know if you have noticed a phenomenon. Among a group of children, there must be a king of children, and other children will also believe in this king of children more.

A treasure mother once joked with me: My children don't know what's going on. Every day, they want to play with their little brother next door. They are not reserved as girls. How can they grow up? ?

I also jokingly replied to her:? Maybe my little brother is so good that all the children like to play with him. ? Later, Ma Bao looked at me seriously and said? Stop it, it's true! Children in our community, whether boys or girls, like to play with him, and four or five children often follow him. In the past, when these children were young, they never played together. Now they have been playing together every day since they were five or six years old. ?

The phenomenon mentioned by this precious mother is actually normal. These children just came in? Continue the sensitive period of communication? .

Montessori, an expert in children's education, said that children aged 5-6 enter? Continue the sensitive period of communication? During this period, the children ended one-on-one communication before the age of 5 and entered a group of three or four. This is also the reason why children gradually form their own circle of friends when they grow up.

△△△△△ Characteristics of making friends among children of different ages.

The characteristics of making friends vary with the age of children. As Montessori, an education expert, said, one-on-one communication before the age of five is actually a feature of making friends before the age of five, but what about one or two years after the age of five? Continue the sensitive period of communication? It is also a feature of children's making friends.

The characteristics of making friends of children of different ages can be divided into 1 pre-stage, 1 2 stage, 2-5 stage and 6-12 stage.

●/kloc-before the age of 0/,the characteristics of children's friends can be aptly described in one word, that is? High cold? . Because children of this age are familiar with their parents, grandparents and other relatives, and parents of this age will not ask their children to contact strangers, parents will give permission to their children to refuse strangers.

● 1 to 2 years old, can we take advantage of children's friendship characteristics? Try it? This word is used to describe that children of this age will be willing to try to associate with others and make one or two small partners, but the scope of making friends is also very small, just looking for friends around them.

● As for the age group of 2-5 years old, the range of children's friends begins to expand, and they will make more friends and get in touch with some children who are different from him. Because children of this age group start to go to kindergarten, there will be many more children in kindergarten than before.

● From the age of 6 to the age of 12, children began to make friends selectively and began to choose four or five children who he thought could be friends to form their own children's circle.

As children grow older, their friends will gradually form characteristics similar to those of adults. Of course, the characteristics of adult friends are usually varied. For example, some people will choose to make friends with people with similar interests, while others will choose to make friends with people who are very different from themselves.

△△△△△△△ Children's social circle, should parents care?

I think many parents have different views on this issue. There will definitely be some parents who feel that they should take care of it, and some parents feel that they should not.

Generally, parents born in 1980s are more supportive of the concept of "management", because they accept a more traditional concept, and feel that everything of their children can't be separated from their parents, and parents can intervene in everything of their children, including marital affairs and so on. Young parents will be more supportive of the view that it should not be taken care of, because now young parents are more open-minded and free, and prefer to let their children make their own decisions.

So, which view is correct? In fact, both views have their correctness.

Parents who think they should be in charge are also worried that their children have made bad friends. Intervening in their children's social circle can sometimes help their children improve the quality of making friends to a certain extent. Parents who feel that they should not be in charge will make their children more free and can also exercise their friends' skills to some extent.

But in fact, parents can combine the advantages of the two views to choose a way to deal with this problem, that is, learn to be friends with their children, so that parents can not only participate in their children's social circles but also directly interfere with their children's friends, making them feel uncomfortable.

△△△△△△ Parents should blend in with their children like this.

1) Willing to know children.

Parents and children become one, in fact, is to make friends with children. Then, of course, the first step for us to make friends with a person is to get to know the person, so only when parents know the child will the child be willing to open his heart and communicate with his parents.

3) Use correct values to influence children.

4) Willing to make friends with children's friends.

There are many people in the children's social circle, and parents only make friends with their children, which affects his social circle to some extent. However, if you make friends with your child's friends, its influence will be much greater. Making friends with your child's friends can also help you learn more about your child, thus better educating and cultivating your child.

Of course, in addition to the above methods, there are many other methods. Parents can explore and try slowly and choose one or more methods to get along with their children.